Broseph Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Been awhile since a first date and have time to kill tonight so thought I would ask all you experts for some advice. Ok I met a girl last week outside of a bar. She kept looking back and then I signaled her over. We talked then I got her number and although she was going out I was content on going home so we decided to met for dinner maybe the next night. I texted her when i got home and at like 3:30am she called and asked me to meet her and her friends. I was in bed already and well yeah I didnt want to go anyway. Anyways next day came and we talked on the phone for 10 minutes but she got home late and we decided on dinner on Tuesday. Well we went out that night for dinner. We were both worried that we were much older than the other one as we both have look young but turns out I am only like a year and half older. It was nice and we sat for a couple hours and then she asked if I wanted to go for a drink at the bar so we did. Thats a good sign I think? We went to the bar had a drink then walked back to our cars and she said that she had a great time and wanted to see me again. Thats a good sign I think too? She asked me how I was single (something I was thinking about her as well) and I think this would be a good sign too maybe(like a good catch or something)? We quickly talked about how we had busy weekends coming up so we would meet after sometime after. So anyways it would seem like earliest we would meet a week after. Anyways, we had a small kiss on the lips (good sign I think?) and then went on our ways.I mentioned she should give a call if she wants and she said sure. Anyways, its Friday now and I have not called or texted and neither has she. Tommorow she is busy most the day, as am I but was wondering when I should call or if I should just wait until next week when I ask her out again? I mean i want her to know that I am interested still but I dont want to seem to eager.
xpaperxcutx Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 You should have called her 2-3 days after the date. Waiting a week afterward will make her think you're not interested. So far from what you've written, there are very good signs that she's interested as well. Points should be given for her asking your single status, because she's making sure you're single before she proceed with anything. A kiss goodbye is also good, especially if she had been willing to reciprocate it after the 1st date. If you're really looking forward to a 2nd date, I suggest you call her to ask her if she's free Sunday.
Author Broseph Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 Thanks for the quick reply... now I say i shouldnt call tommorow because she is at a wedding and text seems way to informal. I probably should have called tonight but I guess I should call maybe Sunday evening not to let it go to long. She said it has been awhile since she has seen anyone so i doubt she is in a rush but what do I know. Sunday is bad for me to meet because i have this project due Monday tghat of course I am two weeks behind on. Hence, why I am procrasting on my favorite forum... and by the way wohhhooo 100 posts for me now!!!
xpaperxcutx Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Thanks for the quick reply... now I say i shouldnt call tommorow because she is at a wedding and text seems way to informal. I probably should have called tonight but I guess I should call maybe Sunday evening not to let it go to long. She said it has been awhile since she has seen anyone so i doubt she is in a rush but what do I know. Sunday is bad for me to meet because i have this project due Monday tghat of course I am two weeks behind on. Hence, why I am procrasting on my favorite forum... and by the way wohhhooo 100 posts for me now!!! I agree that texting is informal if you're trying to ask someone out. Can you call her tonight? At least that will give her time to figure out her schedule for next week. If you can't reach her, then yes call her Sunday night to make plans for the coming week or weekend. Good luck. And congrats on your 100th post.
Author Broseph Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Well Instead of posting a new thread Ill post here. Anyways I wasnt going to call till sunday but she beat me too it and called from her wedding on Saturday. She wanted to meet up with me after whcih we did and we had a good night and I drove her home after. She asked to pull over near a lake and we kissed for awhile. Anyways, now it gets a little more complicated... she lives an hour away so during the week we wont see eachother usually ever. I am going away this weekend so I wont see her this weekend but on Saturday she made it clear that she wanted me to come visit her. I guess my question now is how much do we talk between now and then? I called monday and we talked for awhile and wednesday we sent a few texts but I dont want to over/under do it. I guess in the end it will sort itself out but just bored and looking for some input. I was happy she called on the weekend but she hasnt really called me out the blue other than that time, well not that I have called her that much either except Monday and for our first date.
Krytie TV Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Well, what a toughie huh? You know what, based on what I'm hearing from you, I would say that the best course of action is to simply be yourself. Many men will disagree with me here, but there comes a time (depending on what kind of woman you're looking for and what kind of relationship you want) that you throw all of these dumbass "rules" out and follow your gut. She seems genuinely interested at this point and I think playing any kind of the games that the "dating gurus" will give you here will only work against you. Just talk to the girl when you want to. You know there comes a time where you have to show genuine interest too huh? That is if you ever want to be in a real and mutual relationship.
Author Broseph Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Thanks for the reply Krytie and your right that I do need to show interest as well. On the weekend when we met up she was pretty much saying to everyone that "I was the cutest thing ever". I guess maybe I am expecting to talk more but maybe its more of where we are coming from. Oh and totally not into games or trying to be deceptive at all. I am three months out of a three and a half year relationship where on the contrary she hasnt dated too much in over a year. I am use to talking on the phone or seeing someone your with every night and she is use to the opposite. She sent me a text last night that said goodnight but I was passed out already so I didnt reply.
Krytie TV Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 You didn't even send her a "good morning" text when you woke up?
Author Broseph Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Yeah I probably should have eh
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