BCCA Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 If you've already talked on the phone and established you both had each others number, than I dont see a need to leave a message unless there is a reason behind it. 'Call me back' is obvious; they saw you called. Thats pretty cruel, but what goes around usually comes around.
BG1985 Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Well my sister has a policy about returning calls without voice mails. If you call her cell phone but don't leave a voice mail, she won't return the call unless it's either her husband or any of her other family members. Basically if it's important, leave a message. On the other hand, she also has a tendency to not answer numbers she doesn't recognize either.
Tiz Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Well my sister has a policy about returning calls without voice mails. If you call her cell phone but don't leave a voice mail, she won't return the call unless it's either her husband or any of her other family members. Basically if it's important, leave a message. On the other hand, she also has a tendency to not answer numbers she doesn't recognize either. Was that policy in place before she got married?
BG1985 Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Yeah, but that wasn't a policy just for guys. I'm sure when they were just dating she would return missed calls. That's just for people in general. Any casual guy friends and girl friends. I can't say I disagree with it in general.
dreamergrl Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 So is OP now dateless for Saturday? Did he turn down the girl who doesn't want to talk on the phone?
Author jimbo Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 dreamergrl, Already have something planned on Saturday. This was why I couldn't meet the first one for Saturday night. Guess she took this as a blow off and did not like the other two choices I suggested; as she's very busy. She said we'll figure something out another weekend. We all know what that means. The second girl who gave me her number on Sunday I call yesterday, never heard back. So I guess she lost interest too.
dreamergrl Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 So this girl who didn't call you back isn't your Saturday plans?
Author jimbo Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 No. Already had plans on Saturday that I setup last weekend. For the first girl who suggested Saturday night on a Wednesday, I was not going to cancel my current plans to accommodate hers. After all, I gave her two other times and days and she replied as very busy rest of the weekend and well set something up another weekend etc. I guess on one part, it could be perceived as a + that she suggested Saturday night. On the other part, saying that the other two times and days I suggested were no good is not a very good sign either. On the second girl, again, this would be our first contact, so not going to write it off completely. Should could be a bit peeved that I waited four days to call her. Didn't know there was a time limit on calling someone.
dreamergrl Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 No. Already had plans on Saturday that I setup last weekend. For the first girl who suggested Saturday night on a Wednesday, I was not going to cancel my current plans to accommodate hers. After all, I gave her two other times and days and she replied as very busy rest of the weekend and well set something up another weekend etc. I guess on one part, it could be perceived as a + that she suggested Saturday night. On the other part, saying that the other two times and days I suggested were no good is not a very good sign either. On the second girl, again, this would be our first contact, so not going to write it off completely. Should could be a bit peeved that I waited four days to call her. Didn't know there was a time limit on calling someone. Then don't be to anxious waiting for the call back, by that logic.
DanielMadr Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I have been talking, well e-mailing, this girl I met online for a couple of weeks now. After the third e-mail I suggested we talk over the phone. She agreed. Its now two weeks later and we are still e-mailing back and forth. Asked again on Monday how she felt in talking over the phone and/or setting up a meet. Gave her two coffee houses (one and indie and the other a Starbucks). They are about 15 miles away from where she lives. About 20 miles from me. Thought it was a fair place. E-mails me back and says We should meet up this weekend; preferably Saturday night.). Says she, her mother, and sister are all taking care of her father (he's going through kemo for prostate cancer.); as she says meeting in person is much better than over the phone or something). Few of issues. 1) I am assuming she wants me to go over to her town instead of meeting somewhere in the middle; which is what I normally do. 2) Is it strange to meet before talking over the phone? 3) Already have plans for Saturday night. 4) Have another girl I am talking to (on the phone) today which may also end up in meeting somewhere for coffee. Or is this talking before meeting not a good thing generally? 1. She doesnt want to feel like jackass for traveling 20miles if you turn out to be a dud or she is just plain lazy. I suppose you can take it. 2. Yes it is strange. If you have her number call her....maybe she has deeper voice than you and she is FBI agent. Remember the show Predators? 3. Plans or plans? You shouldnt go head over heels for someone you didnt even met and I suppose there is no great connection either. 4. O.K. where is the problem? Its not like you cheat. Just dont talk about it with either of them. Take your pick, its your right.
Author jimbo Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 1. She doesnt want to feel like jackass for traveling 20miles if you turn out to be a dud or she is just plain lazy. I suppose you can take it. 2. Yes it is strange. If you have her number call her....maybe she has deeper voice than you and she is FBI agent. Remember the show Predators? 3. Plans or plans? You shouldnt go head over heels for someone you didnt even met and I suppose there is no great connection either. 4. O.K. where is the problem? Its not like you cheat. Just dont talk about it with either of them. Take your pick, its your right. DanielMadr, my plans for Saturday night are not with either of these two. So # 3 is not an issue; generally speaking.
Ruby Slippers Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Yeah, I think it adds a little mystery and challenge to leave no voicemail if she has interest. I don't want to crash the man party, but I just wanted to say that I see calling and not leaving a VM as a wimpy move. If there's a purpose for your call, state it to me (if I answer) or on the VM. If there's not a purpose, don't make the call. And I don't call back anyone who doesn't leave a message, unless it's my mom or a very close friend.
Author jimbo Posted November 16, 2009 Author Posted November 16, 2009 I don't want to crash the man party, but I just wanted to say that I see calling and not leaving a VM as a wimpy move. If there's a purpose for your call, state it to me (if I answer) or on the VM. If there's not a purpose, don't make the call. And I don't call back anyone who doesn't leave a message, unless it's my mom or a very close friend. I did leave a message, she's the one that never called back. None the less, both turned out to be flakolicious and I have moved on to somewhat greener pastures. I can say one thing, there is NO shortage of flakes in the tri state area. Pathetic and sad at the same time.
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