Tiz Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Amazingly so the girl who gave me her number over the weekend has not called me back. Got her vm. So I guess 0/2. When it rains it pours. What damn luck. You can always get the callback. Maybe she was in the library.
Author jimbo Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 Its 8:00 PM here. Called around 3:00 PM. I mean if she calls back tomorrow or the weekend, doesn't it mean she's really not interested? If I called someone back a day or two later, I would think they would think the same no? Although, she gave me the number on Sunday. Said to call mid week. Did I wait too long? She's 32. Doubt she was in the library.
BCCA Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Its 8:00 PM here. Called around 3:00 PM. I mean if she calls back tomorrow or the weekend, doesn't it mean she's really not interested? If I called someone back a day or two later, I would think they would think the same no? Although, she gave me the number on Sunday. Said to call mid week. Did I wait too long? She's 32. Doubt she was in the library. If you dont hear from her today, its safe to assume the interest isnt mutual. She may be unable to call until tomorrow, but I find that very unlikely. Even it being 5 hours makes me think shes not interested. Did you leave a message?
Author jimbo Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 Yea. Left a message. Don't think I talked too fast. E-mailed after the match.com. Asked to speak on the phone, said sure and replied back with her number. Seemed like it went well. Just weird.
Tiz Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Its 8:00 PM here. Called around 3:00 PM. I mean if she calls back tomorrow or the weekend, doesn't it mean she's really not interested? If I called someone back a day or two later, I would think they would think the same no? Although, she gave me the number on Sunday. Said to call mid week. Did I wait too long? She's 32. Doubt she was in the library. Why would she tell you the time of week to call her? It makes me feel like she's already trying steer you in her direction. It's up to you when you want to call if you even want to period. Yeah, I'll agree if it's been five hours it doesn't look good.
Author jimbo Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 Why would she tell you the time of week to call her? It makes me feel like she's already trying steer you in her direction. It's up to you when you want to call if you even want to period. Yeah, I'll agree if it's been five hours it doesn't look good. Woulda called mid-week anyway. So it doesn't look too over-zealous on my part.
Author jimbo Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 No. Left it on the vm. Said it was Jim from match. Should I e-mail her too? I did not reply back after she gave me her number. Did not think it was necessary.
Tiz Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 No. Left it on the vm. Said it was Jim from match. Should I e-mail her too? I did not reply back after she gave me her number. Did not think it was necessary. I like to catch them on the spot, so I never leave voicemails. However, she could be a phone screener. Women with interest give callbacks to voicemails, and they're usually not five hours or more. You did fine by not replying back with an email after she gave you the number. It's your call to send one email asking what's up. Personally I wouldn't do it. She could respond with some lame excuse and keep playing phone games with you. Send one just to see what she says for the learning experience. Of course, you'll never actually go out with this girl, because you'll know she's stringing you along for giggles or she's a coward and can't say no.
BCCA Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I like to catch them on the spot, so I never leave voicemails I used to do this, and the only reason I leave VM now is because Im a '1-call' kind of guy. I call, if they dont answer, I leave a VM. If I dont hear back, I delete the number and forget about her. Women with interest give callbacks to voicemails, and they're usually not five hours or more. Agreed. You did fine by not replying back with an email after she gave you the number. Agreed again, there was no need to reply. It's your call to send one email asking what's up. Personally I wouldn't do it. I wouldnt, either. She already ignored your phone call, what do you need to hear through email to know this is a waste of your time? Besides, you dont want to be emailing indefinitely, thats why you get her number. Her lack of a response says shes not interested enough to waste your time on. Dont let her string you along with email garbage.
Author jimbo Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 Interesting. What should I say if she calls me tomorrow?
Tiz Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Interesting. What should I say if she calls me tomorrow? What exactly did you say on the voicemail?
crazy_grl Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Exactly. I didn't even refer to it in terms of playing games. I said vying for position not "vying for power". Synonyms. If you guys don't understand why what you're doing is an unhealthy way to handle a relationship, I can't help you. Hopefully for your own sakes, you'll eventually figure it out. I'm not saying you should be a push over and put up with some woman's BS, but calculating and testing and using rules like "the woman never sets the date" is not the way to go.
Author jimbo Posted November 6, 2009 Author Posted November 6, 2009 Hey, its Jimmy from Match.com. Wanted to give you a call to chat for a bit. give me call back when you get a chance. My number is. Talk to you in a bit.
Tiz Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I can't help you. After your posts here I think it's safe to say we don't want or need your help.
crazy_grl Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 After your posts here I think it's safe to say we don't want or need your help. Sadly, you do. This thread is like the blind leading the blind. Good luck to you, jimbo. You're going to need it following the kind of advice that you are. *unsubscribe*
Tiz Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Hey, its Jimmy from Match.com. Wanted to give you a call to chat for a bit. give me call back when you get a chance. My number is. Talk to you in a bit. I'm being micro, but I would leave out the, "Talk to you in a bit.". I still think it's bad if she calls you tomorrow. It takes less than thirty seconds for her to call you back and tell you she's busy, and she'll call you later.
BCCA Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Synonyms. I disagree, I think weeding out those with low interest isnt such a bad idea. Im sure you dont like the methods, but honestly, you ladies can be academy award winning actresses at the drop of a hat, and we cant read body language well enough (if you havent figured that out lol). Sometimes, you have to do what you feel best weeds out those you arent looking for, whatever your criteria. If this works for these guys, I dont see anything wrong with it. Hey, its Jimmy from Match.com. Wanted to give you a call to chat for a bit. give me call back when you get a chance. My number is. Talk to you in a bit. I dunno, Tiz, what do you say?
BCCA Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I'm being micro, but I would leave out the, "Talk to you in a bit.". I still think it's bad if she calls you tomorrow. It takes less than thirty seconds for her to call you back and tell you she's busy, and she'll call you later. I agree. I think at that point, unless an emergency occured, shes just stringing you along.
Tiz Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Synonyms. She knows they're not. I fully explained myself. Crazy_grl is the type that rearranges deck chairs on the Titanic. It's classic. Don't worry jimbo. You're doing fine.
Tiz Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 I agree. I think at that point, unless an emergency occured, shes just stringing you along. This is a good reason not to dither about leaving voicemails.
BCCA Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 This is a good reason not to dither about leaving voicemails. The only thing the VM still does for you is eliminate any and all possible excuses you could tell yourself. Even if her phone was off, or she didnt see who it was, or shes trying to avoid someone, blah blah blah...she'll get your voicemail and hear your number if she wants to. If she still doesnt call, shes not interested, period. There are just less variables.
Tiz Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 The only thing the VM still does for you is eliminate any and all possible excuses you could tell yourself. Even if her phone was off, or she didnt see who it was, or shes trying to avoid someone, blah blah blah...she'll get your voicemail and hear your number if she wants to. If she still doesnt call, shes not interested, period. There are just less variables. This all makes sense I just don't do it. Are you only speaking to the first time you call the girl?
BCCA Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 This all makes sense I just don't do it. Are you only speaking to the first time you call the girl? Only the first time. If they dont call me back, thats also the last call. I dont disagree with your way, either. I was just telling you why I started to leave messages. I used to do exactly what youre saying.
Tiz Posted November 6, 2009 Posted November 6, 2009 Only the first time. If they dont call me back, thats also the last call. I dont disagree with your way, either. I was just telling you why I started to leave messages. I used to do exactly what youre saying. Yeah, I think it adds a little mystery and challenge to leave no voicemail if she has interest. I completely see your point about doing it for the first call. A girl that is a friend of mine told me she has a friend who saves up those voicemails on her iPhone and invites friends over to drink wine and laugh at the poor saps who can't take a hint. She plays it over her stereo. Tell me that isn't sick.
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