Would you want to date me?

[Vertex]

That right there tells a woman a lot about you

 

Elaborate?

[CaliGuy]

You're 23. Honestly, get your career and life sorted out first and then worry about dating. The more you focus on dating, the less likely you're going to find someone.

[threebyfate]

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2451897&posted=1#post2451897

 

Vertex, are you paying attention?

[Star Gazer]

That's an eHarmony profile.

 

Everything you wrote is fine, but that's just it... it's fine. The answers you gave are the same as 80% of the dudes on that website. You should explain what makes you YOU, unique and special.

[Lauriebell82]

What jumped out at me in your questionnaire was your humor and honesty. You sound like you are very good natured as well. I like the second picture of you smiling moreso then the first. If I was single and looking I would date you.

 

I think you should show that combination of humor and guenuineness (if that's a word!) to girls. It wouldn't hurt to say you have a good job as well.

[carhill]

Elaborate?

Sure...

 

You have a sense of your priorities in life, enact boundaries for yourself, and empathize with how others feel. You have parameters for the balance of work and fun you prefer in your life.

 

With that in mind, watch the actions of those who you encounter or come to find attractive and see if they are compatible with this personal dynamic. If so, bonus for them to be the recipient of your positive traits

[Vertex]

Sure...

 

You have a sense of your priorities in life, enact boundaries for yourself, and empathize with how others feel. You have parameters for the balance of work and fun you prefer in your life.

 

With that in mind, watch the actions of those who you encounter or come to find attractive and see if they are compatible with this personal dynamic. If so, bonus for them to be the recipient of your positive traits

 

Thanks for the kind words

 

I've edited my profile a bit, but still no luck, unfortunately.

[Blindsidedagainalive]

I saw this post and thought it must be a joke.

A young, well educated, tall, good looking man with this attitude?

 

Seriously, most men would trade with you in a second.

 

If this is not a joke, let me give you a little tough love.

 

Stop feeling sorry for yourself.

Man up, grow some balls and get some confidence going.

 

Perhaps you need to work on self esteem issues with a therapist.....that's for you to decide.

 

Take it from a man who is over 20 years older than you.

You have the looks, the education, height....but those are NOT the things that attract woman.

 

Confidence attracts women.

[Shygirl15]

The pic does it all..

 

Smile more, please.

[dreamergrl]

OP - I am just going to take a shot in the dark here... but...

I am willing to bet your shyness is being seen has uninterested.

[Sam Spade]

Dude! I'm not a woman, but even I creamed my panties . Oh, snap .

 

You should date older chicks though, IMO. The early 20s crowd will drive you crayzeeeee. Also, I foresee branching on your own or changing careers at some point in the future .

[Confusedalways]

What the heck?! I'm your age, Vortex, and why aren't there any of you up here in Boston? Geez...... you're fine. Get out there and be aggressive, if my group of friends and I saw you in a bar there's no doubt we wouldn't notice you.

 

Also, love the smile! Use that photo!

[harmfulsweetz]

You're cute, v. cute. I like the smile too.

 

I think you should have no trouble finding someone, I like shy guys, it's sweet and cute, and I'm shy myself so yeah. I guess I would.

[DanielMadr]

Honestly and it will hurt. I dont say it because I dont like you or want to patronize/humiliate/bully you. So take seriuosly what I thought.

 

Reading your profile I think you are trying too hard to look like a good catch. Not knowing what a good catch is. It is not a emotional gay friend. And most of all nice dependable future husband might sound like good catch to you but it is racional choice and you are advertising in Romance section I gues not a section called "Mother of six looking for dependable father who can cook and wont be demanding sex".

 

Got it? Its asexual, boring, gay, azzkissing, wussy and desperate.

 

Do I like you based on your profile? Yes.

Would I go out with you for a dring and talk? Yes.

Would I want you as a friend? Yes.

Would I take you as my partner to hunt down Bin Ladin? Hell no. Why? You dont sound strong, manly, collected, cool, kess altruistic etc... get it?

 

Would you take yourself as partner to a war? If not, then you are not romantically desired by girls too. You dont stand up. You are another boring, afraid of his own shadow and dick, odinary guy.

 

Dont post photo in ads. its f@cking gay, dude. It is possible to spark interest without it.

 

Sorry.

[melodymatters]

It seems from your other thread you prefer asian chicks anyway, so why not cut to the chase, and go on an asian board and ask them ?

 

Were a random bunch of guys, gals, all ages, all types here.

[harmfulsweetz]

Honestly and it will hurt. I dont say it because I dont like you or want to patronize/humiliate/bully you. So take seriuosly what I thought.

 

Reading your profile I think you are trying too hard to look like a good catch. Not knowing what a good catch is. It is not a emotional gay friend. And most of all nice dependable future husband might sound like good catch to you but it is racional choice and you are advertising in Romance section I gues not a section called "Mother of six looking for dependable father who can cook and wont be demanding sex".

 

Got it? Its asexual, boring, gay, azzkissing, wussy and desperate.

 

Do I like you based on your profile? Yes.

Would I go out with you for a dring and talk? Yes.

Would I want you as a friend? Yes.

Would I take you as my partner to hunt down Bin Ladin? Hell no. Why? You dont sound strong, manly, collected, cool, kess altruistic etc... get it?

 

Would you take yourself as partner to a war? If not, then you are not romantically desired by girls too. You dont stand up. You are another boring, afraid of his own shadow and dick, odinary guy.

 

Dont post photo in ads. its f@cking gay, dude. It is possible to spark interest without it.

 

Sorry.

Not every woman wants a man that's ideal for 'war' as you put it. I don't. I'm not saying I want a man to be more feminine, but he doesn't have to be manly manly. (If you get what I mean.) Many women like shy men, provided they can take the lead from time to time.

[DanielMadr]

Not every woman wants a man that's ideal for 'war' as you put it. I don't. I'm not saying I want a man to be more feminine, but he doesn't have to be manly manly. (If you get what I mean.) Many women like shy men, provided they can take the lead from time to time.

 

OK. Manly manly no. But is his profile manly enough?

 

NOT MANY women like shy men. Not so pretty girls who preffer looks more like shy hot men, because it smells like wounded animal to them.

 

Dominant women like shy guys or women who want to lead in order to be safe (he wont leave them and they can do what they want) but it doesnt mean they love their submissive husbands.

 

Does he want dominant woman? Or a girl which likes cute face and doesnt care about filling?

[crazy_grl]

At the risk of sounding completely superficial, I think your biggest issue is your hair. You're an attractive guy with great features, but your hair style is killing your look (fact is that most of the reason why women will want to talk to you is how you look, then what your profile actually says).

 

In the big pic you link to, your hair is a bit over-jelled. Super jelled or greasy hair gives a bit of an impression of sleaziness. In your avatar pic here, your hair says "shy guy". I think you'll have more women contact you if you have a more current hairstyle.

[Boundary Problem]

If this is not a joke, let me give you a little tough love.

 

Man up, grow some balls and get some confidence going.

 

Perhaps you need to work on self esteem issues with a therapist.....that's for you to decide.

 

Take it from a man who is over 20 years older than you.

You have the looks, the education, height....but those are NOT the things that attract woman.

 

Confidence attracts women.

 

 

To be honest - I wouldn't date you. Confidence is the absolute key.

Your confidence and the woman's femininity are like lock and key (yes I'm generalizing)

 

You have all the ingredients - you just need to re-work your recipe.

 

You have to bring out the animal in yourself. That is what women will respond to, and what will make them crave you.

 

Once you hit your stride you won't need online dating....

[SadandConfusedWA]

I think you need to ask your target audience: Asian girls.

[hollister]

I'd definitely date you! I actually saw you on another thread and was like "ooo he's cute" =) lol.

i know it gets discouraging but honestly it doesnt seem like there's a single thing wrong with u. U just haven't met the right person yet. The waiting part is the hardest. Trust me, i know. and who knows maybe i'm the one ur waiting for. LOL jk =P