BG1985 Posted October 23, 2009 Posted October 23, 2009 I think this is a case of the guy who fell too hard too quickly. It sounds like he was a holiday fling, which she never meant to take too seriously. Live and learn.
Author jones1990 Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 I went on msn yesterday and she talked to me, she hasn't said anything before that since the last update, but she says: "We can't be friends?", I told her Ill talk to her at school...What does she want? If she says "friends" then Im clearly not anything else, but why the heck would she want to be friends with me anyway? It sounds fishy, that she'd even bother with me, why wouldnt she just give up? A little insight would be helpful Thank you.
Ruby Slippers Posted November 21, 2009 Posted November 21, 2009 If you have made clear you don't want to be friends and she is trying to reel you in to be friends, she is most likely hoping to use you for the attention and ego stroke. I say avoid her completely.
Author jones1990 Posted November 21, 2009 Author Posted November 21, 2009 If you have made clear you don't want to be friends and she is trying to reel you in to be friends, she is most likely hoping to use you for the attention and ego stroke. I say avoid her completely. What kind of attention? "Why would I care about some loser that I just dumped?" - wouldn't she be thinking that? Is it really that self-satisfying to not be hated by the guy you dumped? Is it possible that she wants to get back with me, but doesn't want to show it by saying it directly? Thanks
Ruby Slippers Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 What kind of attention? "Why would I care about some loser that I just dumped?" - wouldn't she be thinking that? Is it really that self-satisfying to not be hated by the guy you dumped? She will enjoy knowing that she's got you on the hook, if only slightly, seeing that you are still attracted to her and acting a little like a puppy because of it. Is it possible that she wants to get back with me, but doesn't want to show it by saying it directly? Very unlikely. If she really liked you, she wouldn't be jerking you around. You'd be best to move on, man. Let her toy with someone else.
jerseyboy Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 She will enjoy knowing that she's got you on the hook, if only slightly, seeing that you are still attracted to her and acting a little like a puppy because of it. Very unlikely. If she really liked you, she wouldn't be jerking you around. You'd be best to move on, man. Let her toy with someone else. Listen to her
Author jones1990 Posted November 22, 2009 Author Posted November 22, 2009 Listen to her Ok, I'll try to do that. She wanted to talk to me before...should I at least let her know what she's done and tell her why I'm doing this, cause she wanted to talk or should I just completely ignore her?
boogieboy Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 Ok, I'll try to do that. She wanted to talk to me before...should I at least let her know what she's done and tell her why I'm doing this, cause she wanted to talk or should I just completely ignore her? Ignore her, it will sting her more, which she deserves. Women dont move backwards to guys they dumped, so no, she will never wanna get back with you. It might not sting at all. She can either take 100% of you, or none at all. Dont let her use you for friendship when she knows you want more. She will keep telling you the minimum that she can to keep you on the hook. Its good for her to think you hate her. Completely ignore her. She doesnt care about what shes done, she already knows. COming from you will be going in one ear and out the other, she doesnt care how you feel. Shes got someone shes either dating or interested in, anything about you serves no purpose but to make her feel wated and attractive. You wanna do that?
Author jones1990 Posted November 22, 2009 Author Posted November 22, 2009 Ignore her, it will sting her more, which she deserves. Women dont move backwards to guys they dumped, so no, she will never wanna get back with you. It might not sting at all. She can either take 100% of you, or none at all. Dont let her use you for friendship when she knows you want more. She will keep telling you the minimum that she can to keep you on the hook. Its good for her to think you hate her. Completely ignore her. She doesnt care about what shes done, she already knows. Coming from you will be going in one ear and out the other, she doesnt care how you feel. Shes got someone shes either dating or interested in, anything about you serves no purpose but to make her feel wated and attractive. You wanna do that? Thank you, you couldn't be more right. I'm probably deceiving myself with these ideas of getting back with her. She will be completely disregarded then.
jalbertson Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 Ok, I'll try to do that. She wanted to talk to me before...should I at least let her know what she's done and tell her why I'm doing this, cause she wanted to talk or should I just completely ignore her? No, don't feed into it and definitely abandon any thoughts of getting back together. Be mature about it and just treat her like any other joe-schmo at school, but keep your distance and don't get drawn in.
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