Trialbyfire Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 Jack is single because he wants to be. Beyond that, the rest doesn't matter. For all you know, he's dating around, perhaps not by the bushel load but dating, none-the-less. Spook, don't go up this slippery slope.
pandagirl Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 Some reasons, why Jack might be single: -not interested in having a relationship -focused on career -hasn't met someone worthwhile -prefers being single -has intimacy issues -gay -serial killer -has one testicle etc. et al. ad infinitum. The truth is, you don't REALLY know him. You only see the wonderful parts you want to see. He might be a total jackass in a relationship for all you know.
sb129 Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 How do you KNOW that he is not dating anyone? Some people are VERY close-mouthed about their personal life at work; they don't enjoy the speculating and the gossip. I am one who doesn't share a lot about my romantic life at work; I am there to WORK, not to get relationship advice or giggle about my lovelife. Me neither. I never check personal emails/FB or LS at work, and my colleagues know that I am married, but beyond that they don't know many details. Jack is single because- he is. People don't need a reason to justify their relationship status. I was perfectly happy being single at 29, 29 was an awesome age to be single in fact. My H was single at 29 too. If he wanted to be with you, he would have made that happen by now.
Author spookie Posted October 5, 2009 Author Posted October 5, 2009 Thanks for the depressing reality check.
Trialbyfire Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 Thanks for the depressing reality check.Spook, you know why you're stuck on this guy. It's because you can't get him. If you did, this entire thing would be a non-issue. There are thousands upon thousands of guys, just like or far better than Jack. Seriously!
Citizen Erased Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 Thanks for the depressing reality check. Oh, sorry. It is because he's so in love with you that he can't bear the thought of dating anyone else. He is torn between his job and you. Blah blah blah, etc etc etc. I take it that's what you wanted the responses to be when you started this thread.
sb129 Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 Thanks for the depressing reality check. It doesn't have to be "depressing". Spookie I am nearly 10 years older than you (I think?), and I have been exactly where you are now. Life doesn't have to revolve around guys- in fact it shouldn't because its highly unlikely that any guy you date right now is going to end up fathering your children. I would have loved that advice back then- I spent far too much time obsessing over people who don't even register on my radar these days. And I didn't end up on the shelf. Chill out. Live for yourself. Oh, sorry. It is because he's so in love with you that he can't bear the thought of dating anyone else. He is torn between his job and you. Blah blah blah, etc etc etc. I take it that's what you wanted the responses to be when you started this thread. I think it must have been... sigh.
deux ex machina Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 He's -29 -successful -mature -in shape -nice, friendly -values family, wants children What the heck? He keeps dead hookers in his cupboard.
Brady_to_Moss Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 He's living his life the way he wants to. Maybe he doesn't want a GF or doesn't want to tell someone where is his going to be every second of the day.
SadandConfusedWA Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 If you are dead set on him, maybe you should ask him something along the lines if he would date you if he wasn't your boss...his answer might tell you a lot.
Trialbyfire Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 He keeps dead hookers in his cupboard.I can't decide if I want to laugh or get grossed out by this. I think it might be equal portions of both!
deux ex machina Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 ...I think it might be equal portions of both! ...that's what he said.
Soul Bear Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 All work and no play makes jack a dull boy.....or something like that
kdark Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 He keeps dead hookers in his cupboard. Yup. His real name is Patrick Bateman
Jilly Bean Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Spook - why are you so convinced he's single? From what you say about him, he's pretty professional at work. Chances are highly probable he has someone, or, at the least, dates. Just because a guy isn't open at work about his love life doesn't mean he's lacking in one.
BobSacamento Posted October 6, 2009 Posted October 6, 2009 Yeah I never spoke to my coworkers about who I was dating. It's just not appropriate. However, I've had coworkers tell on and on about their BFs/GFs and dates. I never show any interest but they wouldn't stop. Kinda sad really.
Author spookie Posted October 8, 2009 Author Posted October 8, 2009 He's gone for the week and it has been sooooo nice. Serioulsy, even though work-wise I am swamped, I can just FEEL how my stress has melted away from not having him around all the time, rubbing his perfection in my face. I wish he weren't coming back.
Author spookie Posted October 8, 2009 Author Posted October 8, 2009 You guys are right that he could be dating someone. He doens't share anything about his personal life w/ me. He didn't even tell me where he was going on vacation. =( I like to think it's cause I didn't ask, but that could be more delusion.
Pizzaman81 Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 He's -29 -successful -mature -in shape -nice, friendly -values family, wants children What the heck? He could be picky and no one has met his expectations. -Pizzaman
MrFun Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 That guy works at our company too. He's 32 now and thinks he's too old for woman. He's a cool guy, successful, great apartment. He's just asexual, doesn't know how to hit on women. Zero confidence that he's the catch. Guys are like this: they focus on their career. When they have it they figure they'll go and find a woman, only to find out that they don't know how. Spookie, if you want this guy, you're going to have to risk your ego or leave it. Either he's banging women you don't know about or just a loser with women. So, in this day and age, grow some tits in your blouse and hit on him Best of luck....
Balthazar Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 There are 3 options available to me when seeing a person in a sexual light. a)I really like this young lady, so I'll ask her out. b)I sort of like this young lady, but not so much as to ask her out. c)I don't like this young lady, so I won't ask her out. Don't knock yourself out over this(unless you like the drama...which as a woman,you probably do). Lots of guys, lots of girls! Life is good! Cheers,
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