spookie Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 He's -29 -successful -mature -in shape -nice, friendly -values family, wants children What the heck?
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 He is gay .. leave him alone I was single in my 20's.. it was work related.. I was working on my career..
You'reasian Posted October 3, 2009 Posted October 3, 2009 (edited) He's -29 -successful -mature -in shape -nice, friendly -values family, wants children What the heck? Good question. Dating is the gateway to relationships and alot of what requires people to date successfully is not the same as what requires people to be successful in relationships. From what little you've said, he seems like a guy who is better relationship material? Add to it the career thing - and a guy like Jack doesn't have time to play the dating game - unless some awesome woman lands in his lap Edited October 4, 2009 by You'reasian
Author spookie Posted October 4, 2009 Author Posted October 4, 2009 He is gay .. leave him alone I was single in my 20's.. it was work related.. I was working on my career.. I suspct his lack of wife is also work-related. Undoubtedly, he is a workaholic.
Author spookie Posted October 4, 2009 Author Posted October 4, 2009 Good question. Dating is the gateway to relationships and alot of what requires people to date successfully is not the same as what requires people to be successful in relationships. From what little you've said, he seems like a guy who is better relationship material? Add to it the career thing - and a guy like Jack doesn't have time to play the dating game - unless some awesome woman lands in his lap Well, he's a fun guy to go out with (as I have learned through rare work outings). So I suspect he'd be a fun guy to go out with. I can infer that he doens't do much of that, though - or at least he doesn't bring anyone home, from the times he responds to my emails on the going-out nights of the week: 9PM, 11 PM, and later. Should I be trying harder to fall and land in his lap? I haven't tried fainting yet.
Author spookie Posted October 4, 2009 Author Posted October 4, 2009 I can TELL that he likes me. This is all so very fcvking stupid. I wish I could just quit my job.
You'reasian Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 Should I be trying harder to fall and land in his lap? I haven't tried fainting yet. Don't date where you work! The only exception is if you were dating before both of you were employed at the same place - if you are separated by department/division and you took things slowly, then maybe it would work.
Author spookie Posted October 4, 2009 Author Posted October 4, 2009 Don't date where you work! The only exception is if you were dating before both of you were employed at the same place - if you are separated by department/division and you took things slowly, then maybe it would work. even if i wanted to date him while he was still my boss, given that he already knows that i like him and hasn't done anything about it, i don't htink he'd be willing.
johan Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 I wonder the same thing about myself. Why am I single, Spookie?
Citizen Erased Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 I wonder the same thing about myself. Why am I single, Spookie? Because you haven't met me yet. Jack is 29 Spookie, I don't think it's really that difficult to imagine why a 29 year old guy is single.
Isolde Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 Because you haven't met me yet. Jack is 29 Spookie, I don't think it's really that difficult to imagine why a 29 year old guy is single. Wait what do you mean CE?
johan Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 29 year old guys are losers. Everyone knows that.
Isolde Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 I'm not really sure I buy that younger people tend to be single due to focusing on their careers; I know a number of people that age who are in top level positions and married. I guess these people tend to be pickier when dating, though, due to limited time. Or it's entirely possible that he enjoys the bachelor life. He may not be as wholesome as you think!
Citizen Erased Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 Wait what do you mean CE? I'm not really sure I buy that younger people tend to be single due to focusing on their careers; I know a number of people that age who are in top level positions and married. I guess these people tend to be pickier when dating, though, due to limited time. Or it's entirely possible that he enjoys the bachelor life. He may not be as wholesome as you think! This. I can get on board with the "focusing on career" thing, but that is more likely. At least IMHO. 29 year old guys are losers. Everyone knows that. Funny, they're my favourite. Just right.
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 29 is considered young? then what the hell is 22! lol
Citizen Erased Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 29 is considered young? then what the hell is 22! lol A baby.
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 A baby. I've come to realise that. Even at 22, a degree, a starting career and all the other fixings, no one will take you seriously until you're in your 30's and with kids Lol. Oh well.
Citizen Erased Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 I've come to realise that. Even at 22, a degree, a starting career and all the other fixings, no one will take you seriously until you're in your 30's and with kids Lol. Oh well. Don't worry, I'm 22 as well. And you're doing better than me!
UrKillinMeSmalls Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 Don't worry, I'm 22 as well. And you're doing better than me! Lol I'm not worried about it anyway. They're right for not taking me seriously. I'll probably never grow up completely haha.
Chicago_Guy Posted October 4, 2009 Posted October 4, 2009 He's -29 -successful -mature -in shape -nice, friendly -values family, wants children What the heck? He's probably focusing on his career at this age. I'm in the legal profession and I know a lot of guys in my profession around that age who are single. I'm sure it's the same way for doctors and people in some other professions. This guy is probably busy and may have high standards. I have a guy friend who always seems to be dating someone. However, the women that guy dates are almost always not very desirable/attractive. I think that a lot of guys would rather remain single and hold out for someone whom they really like. But it's not that easy to meet someone good.
Lucky_One Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 How do you KNOW that he is not dating anyone? Some people are VERY close-mouthed about their personal life at work; they don't enjoy the speculating and the gossip. I am one who doesn't share a lot about my romantic life at work; I am there to WORK, not to get relationship advice or giggle about my lovelife. The time he answers your emails doesn't really mean anything. I answer emails for work if I am sitting around the house with my BF; my BB dings to tell me I got a mail in various accounts, and I answer them if they are work questions and possibly answer them if they are personal.
SadandConfusedWA Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 Yeah, he could be dating someone but they aren't that serious yet. I do imagine that if he had serious SO he would bring her up in conversation as in "we did x this weekend" etc. Also, if he answers his e-mails sometimes on going out nights, doesn't mean that he never goes out. At 29, you are over the club and bar scene. For all you know he could be waiting for his new gf to cook him dinner/get back from her work function or god knows what and while he waits, answer few work e-mails to kill the time. I think the problem is that you think that he is single because he is waiting for you. This is really highly unlikely. IF he truly were waiting for you, he would be more clear about it like being more proactive in having you transferred or having a conversation along the lines: "I am attracted to you too, but won't date you until our work situation is resolved". You seem to be equating the fact that he is not repulsed by your admission of a crush with him being madly in love with you. There are so many shades of gray between those 2 extremes.
torranceshipman Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 My boyfriend was single for AGES before he met me - and he is, on paper - and in real life - a stellar catch (great guy, very intelligent, very successful, romantic, real gentleman, handsome, tall and athletic, etc-at least I think so, but I guess I'm subjective, lol) - but point is, nothing was wrong with him, he was just single for a very long time as he hadn't found the right person-not because of some weird hidden reason....some people are just totally cool in their own company unless the absolute right person comes along...could be the case with you n Jack, Spookie
eiithan Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 He's probably focusing on his career at this age. I'm in the legal profession and I know a lot of guys in my profession around that age who are single. I'm sure it's the same way for doctors and people in some other professions. This guy is probably busy and may have high standards. I have a guy friend who always seems to be dating someone. However, the women that guy dates are almost always not very desirable/attractive. I think that a lot of guys would rather remain single and hold out for someone whom they really like. But it's not that easy to meet someone good. I second this. There are certain fields where you need to build some experience before even applying for a position that you want. Those busy professionals, lawyers and doctors for example, do not have much time looking around outside the work either. I know some guys who would not waste their little free time on someone who is not right. Plus, 29 is still a fairly young age in my opinion.
sumdude Posted October 5, 2009 Posted October 5, 2009 nothing was wrong with him, he was just single for a very long time as he hadn't found the right person-not because of some weird hidden reason....some people are just totally cool in their own company unless the absolute right person comes along...could be the case with you n Jack, Spookie Some people just aren't into dating for dating's sake... if that makes any sense? The relationships I've had just happened, always with someone I met through others. I know too many people who just can't handle not being in a relationship for long. They tend to jump from the frying pan into the fire most of the time. It can be a really good thing to be single for a couple of years.
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