wildfire4689 Posted October 9, 2003 Share Posted October 9, 2003 So do you think men and women really have different ways of thinking and viewing relationships? I get confused myself about this alot. I am the type to over analyze things like conversations, trying to figure out exactly what he meant when he said this or that. That's enough to drive a girl nuts. Truth is, us girls will never figure it out, just like how guys will never quite figure girls out. My problem is this, a guy that I like very much is confusing me soooo much. More than any other guy has before. By what he says and does when we are together, tells me that he is into me and wants more. But then I won't hear from him for 3 to 4 days. Guys, what is up with that? He does work a crappy shift at work and I know that is the biggest part of it but I would think "Well if I liked someone a great deal, I'd want to see them as much as possible." But these thoughts are coming from a female mind, so my next thought is that maybe he doesn't like me. I am too negative I know, but I can't help but think that. His last 2 relationships ended blowing up in his face, he was cheated on and has major trust issues. So we discuss our relationship and decide to take it slow. I am cool with that, but I wonder does he have a fear of getting close to girls in general or just really doesn't want to get close with me. I obviously have a low opinion of myself as well, I have come from a horrible relationship too. Can you guys help de-code a bit of this for me, please? Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted October 9, 2003 Share Posted October 9, 2003 So do you think men and women really have different ways of thinking and viewing relationships? YES. Have you read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus? It might help you with your analyzing. If you have talked about it, and you understand that he wants to go slow and are okay with it, then stop over-thinking this and relax. If he's going to slow for you then tell him that. He may decide to end it or step it up, but you won't know until you ask. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted October 9, 2003 Share Posted October 9, 2003 So do you think men and women really have different ways of thinking and viewing relationships? I think people, in general, have different ways of viewing relationships. When it comes to our genders, maybe the problem is that we focus too much on our differences rather than our similarities. All people want to be loved. We all dream of that 'perfect' partner and fantastic relationship. We all have feelings and insecurities, although we may each have different methods of dealing with them. I have known strong females who display the characteristics generally attributed to men, while I have known men who were as nurturing and emotionally connected to their hearts as women. I think we are each a byproduct of our own unique social conditioning. How we see ourselves in our particular gender role is defined by the examples in our lives which teach and help shape us. And to find that other human being, who best mirrors and compliments those aspects nurtured within ourselves, is the proverbial 'needle in a haystack'...whether they be male or female. Link to post Share on other sites
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