What is a "catch"

[peace_pipe]

The thing is, no one owes you anything just because you have all these remarkable qualities. It is commendable that you have them but they do not make you superior - they make you you.

 

Right, no one owes me anything. I just thought women would be attracted to such good qualities. I was wrong.

[Touche]

No, you didn't answer my questions at all. Here, I'll post them again.

 

What is a catch to me? A man who is forgiving and not overly judgmental. One who is not arrogant. One who acknowledges and owns up to his mistakes. There are many things that make a man a "catch" to me but that's a start.

 

So do you fit the description above?

 

As for your list, sorry but I'm a catch according to your list. But you would never even ask a person like me out in the first place since I've been divorced. Interesting.

[Road Rage]

I don`t know Peace Pipe. If you usually get this type of reaction out of women you better get yourself over to a good online store and buy a Marilyn Monroe Blow-Up Doll before they sell out:lmao:

[Cobra_X30]

I don't really have trouble getting dates.

 

I have trouble dealing with women's drama once I get the date.

 

Hmmm... Well thats an entirely different deal.

 

I like to call that baby momma drama! Ive never been a big fan of that either.

 

You may wish to take a look at where you are meeting women. If you tend to snag girls out of bars and clubs... or even websites or dating activities, try something different.

[Touche]

Right, no one owes me anything. I just thought women would be attracted to such good qualities. I was wrong.

 

Women ARE. I am, but we need more. I'm sorry to say this and I don't mean to be harsh but you come across as extremely unlikeable. You really do. I don't care if you had a yacht on the French Riviera and 12 cars in your mansion garage. You seem arrogant and condescending.

 

I'm a good woman who made a mistake once. I'm intelligent with a college degree, speak three languages, have always been very independent and I do try to look the best I can for my age.

 

Have I made mistakes? Of course. Do I still? Of course. I have my weaknesses and flaws just like everyone does. But my H thinks that the good overides any flaws I may have.

 

He has his flaws too. He made a mistake before too and married the wrong woman. But he's a wonderful, successful, very smart man. He's as sweet as sugar and is never rude to anyone. He doesn't have an arrogant bone in his body. He treats me like a queen. And I of course have put him on a pedestal and treat him with the respect and consideration that he deserves. We've loved each other for almost 13 years now.

 

Our past mistakes actually shaped who we are now. I don't regret my mistakes. I learn from them.

 

You should really re-think your dating pool. Hey, what you're doing now obviously isn't working for you, is it? Maybe you should reflect on why that is. Maybe it's not these women's faults. Maybe it's YOU for not being able to choose correctly. Ever think of that?

[Arizona100]

Absolutely. It shows lack of judgement, poor decision making, unability to resolve conflicts, fear of being alone and possibly much more.

 

You're definitely not a catch in my book, more like a jerk with a superiority complex. I think I'll go for the guy with the old car, a good heart, and the campfire.

[directx]

Absolutely. It shows lack of judgement, poor decision making, unability to resolve conflicts, fear of being alone and possibly much more.

 

Your post above shows ignorance, lack of actual experience, elitism, inability to understand others, and no fear of passing judgment or throwing stones, and definitely much more.

 

Funny, I just see women as people and judge their character when I actually interact with them, not make assumptions based on a label such as 'divorced'.

 

I could not care less if they were divorced or not.

[Cobra_X30]

You're definitely not a catch in my book, more like a jerk with a superiority complex. I think I'll go for the guy with the old car, a good heart, and the campfire.

 

I had you pegged more for the jailbird type of girl.

[peace_pipe]

You're definitely not a catch in my book, more like a jerk with a superiority complex. I think I'll go for the guy with the old car, a good heart, and the campfire.

 

ROFL!!!

 

I sense a lot of defensiveness. Sorry I you feel belittled because I have accomplished so much from scratch and you have nothing!

 

Yeah, take the campfire and then when your kid is born you can raise him in the woods or in your man's old van.

 

BTW, I was talking about guys who don't even have a car.

[peace_pipe]

I had you pegged more for the jailbird type of girl.

 

O she is. The guy with the 1980 chevy van usually can't get a better car because

 

1) He has too many DUIs

2) He works in fast food

3) He got drunk and wrecked his "good" car

[peace_pipe]

Your post above shows ignorance, lack of actual experience, elitism, inability to understand others, and no fear of passing judgment or throwing stones, and definitely much more.

 

Funny, I just see women as people and judge their character when I actually interact with them, not make assumptions based on a label such as 'divorced'.

 

I could not care less if they were divorced or not.

 

Flying blind is your choice.

 

Divorce happens for a reason and I want to know the "reason". Not only one side of it either. Next thing you know, you are the next "reason".

 

Gessh, no wonder the divorce rate is so high.

 

Lack of experience? Oh contraire - do not doubt my sincerity. I have dated so many married "single" women your head would spin.

[Touche]

ROFL!!!

 

I sense a lot of defensiveness. Sorry I you feel belittled because I have accomplished so much from scratch and you have nothing!

 

Yeah, take the campfire and then when your kid is born you can raise him in the woods or in your man's old van.

 

BTW, I was talking about guys who don't even have a car.

 

Good, intelligent on the ball women want the WHOLE PACKAGE...having a couple of cars and making money is NOT enough. Not by a long shot.

[directx]

Flying blind is your choice.

 

Divorce happens for a reason and I want to know the "reason". Not only one side of it either. Next thing you know, you are the next "reason".

 

Gessh, no wonder the divorce rate is so high.

 

Oh really! I didn't know there was a single reason.

Do tell! You know so much.

[peace_pipe]

and no fear of passing judgment or throwing stones

 

Next, you are going to tell me that you don't judge people.

 

It's MY life and I take great responsibilty of whom I place in it. If I did not judge in some way I would just take the first piece of a^% that comes my way or marry the hooker down the street.

[directx]

Good, intelligent on the ball women want the WHOLE PACKAGE...having a couple of cars and making money is NOT enough. Not by a long shot.

 

What he doesn't realize and probably never will is that a real man can sweep a girl of her feet without relying on material things to compensate for his lack of positive personality traits.

 

Hey Pipe, try figuring out how to connect to a woman, make her laugh, make her feel special, dedicate some time.

You know, be a person to her, and not a collection of material goods and 'accomplishments' and putting down others to elevate yourself. Might do wonders and maybe you won't have to say things like

"I am so frustrated of getting passed up for total losers."

 

Funny though. You are really good at knowing what a 'total loser' is. Why is that?

[sunshinegirl]

I'm curious as to what kind of "drama" you experience with the women you date.

 

I'm also curious why you attacked Arizona100 when she said you wouldn't be a catch in her book. What do you know of her life so as to be able to say: "Sorry I you feel belittled because I have accomplished so much from scratch and you have nothing!"?

 

Personally, I'm of the same view as Arizona and it all boils down to your attitude. Most of the "catches" I know don't spend their time thinking and talking about what a catch they are. They tend to be humble people busy living their lives.

 

I look forward to reading the withering insult you will likely direct at me for offering my view.

[peace_pipe]

Oh really! I didn't know there was a single reason.

Do tell! You know so much.

 

Just one of the many reasons folks like you create.

 

Dude, with your unrealistic perception of women, your next wife may have had three other "divorces" in which the husband mysteriously dies.

 

Now tell me Again how you don't care if your date is divorced or not.

[Touche]

Lack of experience? Oh contraire - do not doubt my sincerity. I have dated so many married "single" women your head would spin.

 

That doesn't surprise me at all. You're going to to be dating a lot more too unless you change your viewpoint some. You're not choosing well. If you were, you wouldn't be dating so much that it would make our heads spin.

 

Think about it.

 

Maybe we can turn YOUR words around on YOU and tell you that you have bad character due to your lack of judgment in trying to find a mate. If you're going through THAT many women, then you are misjudging time and time again. Either that or they're rejecting you for reasons that you don't want to own up to.

 

Does that mean you have bad character like the rest of us?

[directx]

Next, you are going to tell me that you don't judge people.

 

It's MY life and I take great responsibilty of whom I place in it. If I did not judge in some way I would just take the first piece of a^% that comes my way or marry the hooker down the street.

 

So passing judgment is the ONLY thing that prevents you doing from above? How does that make any sense?

Is that your ultimate goal?

Just to marry someone that meets all your judgment requirements?

You might want to treat women like people and not just objects, which is really what you are doing when you look at everything you type.

[directx]

I'm curious as to what kind of "drama" you experience with the women you date.

 

I'm also curious why you attacked Arizona100 when she said you wouldn't be a catch in her book. What do you know of her life so as to be able to say: "Sorry I you feel belittled because I have accomplished so much from scratch and you have nothing!"?

 

Personally, I'm of the same view as Arizona and it all boils down to your attitude. Most of the "catches" I know don't spend their time thinking and talking about what a catch they are. They tend to be humble people busy living their lives.

 

I look forward to reading the withering insult you will likely direct at me for offering my view.

 

Well, that is what he likes to do, which is his problem he doesn't see. He likes to put other people down to make himself feel superior. He NEEDS that.

And any women with a head on her shoulders is going to see right through him and disappear.

He thinks he is better than most everyone else, and doesn't bother to learn about people - just label them.

[Touche]

What he doesn't realize and probably never will is that a real man can sweep a girl of her feet without relying on material things to compensate for his lack of positive personality traits.

 

Hey Pipe, try figuring out how to connect to a woman, make her laugh, make her feel special, dedicate some time.

You know, be a person to her, and not a collection of material goods and 'accomplishments' and putting down others to elevate yourself. Might do wonders and maybe you won't have to say things like

"I am so frustrated of getting passed up for total losers."

 

Funny though. You are really good at knowing what a 'total loser' is. Why is that?

 

I loved your post, directx.

[peace_pipe]

Most of the "catches" I know don't spend their time thinking and talking about what a catch they are. They tend to be humble people busy living their lives.

 

 

ROFL. Seriously, did you actually think before you typed?

 

So I make a post on a bulletin board, pondering a question and this means I go around all day constantly projecting that I am this "great catch"?

 

Who is attacking who?

 

I certainly don't think I am a bad person. If you want to life your life depressed everyday, go for it. Just one less character flaw to survive and pass on through genetics.

 

Not for me. Hear me roar sucka!

[peace_pipe]

I loved your post, directx.

 

Oh I am devastated!

 

The one minded hand of the Loveshackians dealt me the proverbial beatch slap.

 

I'm over it now.

[directx]

Just one of the many reasons folks like you create.

 

Dude, with your unrealistic perception of women, your next wife may have had three other "divorces" in which the husband mysteriously dies.

 

Now tell me Again how you don't care if your date is divorced or not.

 

I don't care. I would take the time and learn about that person and the circumstances, instead of jumping to conclusions you are. The LAST thing relationships are are black and white.

 

And look how ignorant you statement is above. A wife has divorces and the Husband dies? Do people divorce corpses now?

 

There are SO SO SO many reasons people get divorced this forum cannot hold them all.

 

Sorry. I am not going to label people or feel superior to people that have been divorced. People are people. Nothing less.

[Cobra_X30]

O she is. The guy with the 1980 chevy van usually can't get a better car because

 

1) He has too many DUIs

2) He works in fast food

3) He got drunk and wrecked his "good" car

 

Ummm... Yeah. I was joking/teasing. You are dead serious, and there is a big difference there.

 

Do you know what I mean?