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Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 26th June 2018, 10:21 PM
Replies: 156
Views: 7,843
Posted By magnesium
I know you are addressing women, but your advice...

I know you are addressing women, but your advice applies to men as well, as we also make the same mistakes and can fall under the the trap of self-denial.
Forum: Infidelity 25th June 2018, 11:49 PM
Replies: 21
Views: 4,680
Posted By magnesium
OP, please spend a lot of time on loveshack...

OP, please spend a lot of time on loveshack reading other people's experiences who were in similar situations. Read hundreds and hundreds of posts, until the reality of your situation starts...
Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 25th June 2018, 11:20 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 257
Posted By magnesium
You have too move on without closure. That's...

You have too move on without closure.

That's the only healthy option here, because right now, at this stage in her life, she is not capable of being mature enough to understand her own problematic...
Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 8th June 2018, 12:01 AM
Replies: 2
Views: 315
Posted By magnesium
It sounds like to me that you are drawing the...

It sounds like to me that you are drawing the right lessons from this experience you had, so you could acknowledge the positives which are growing from this not-so-positive situation which has...
Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 5th June 2018, 10:53 PM
Replies: 43
Views: 1,788
Posted By magnesium
Hurt, I can't say for sure, but I think you might...

Hurt, I can't say for sure, but I think you might be experiencing cognitive dissonance. Basically, you got used to the terrible behaviour thrust upon you, or in other words, you were conditioned...
Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 5th June 2018, 3:05 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 269
Posted By magnesium
Sorry this happened to you. If you think...

Sorry this happened to you.

If you think about it, perhaps there were signs that she was checking out of the relationship long before she actually told you how she felt.

You can't control how...
Forum: Coping 4th June 2018, 3:23 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 531
Posted By magnesium
Have you heard about how a caterpillar turns into...

Have you heard about how a caterpillar turns into ooze but then becomes a butterfly?

Metaphorically, that is what is happening to you. Some part of you, a certain kind of 'self' you have...
Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 4th June 2018, 3:16 PM
Replies: 43
Views: 1,788
Posted By magnesium
My ex is married to someone else now. When I...

My ex is married to someone else now.

When I was with her, I found out late she was a drug addict and narcissistic.

I wish I got her out of my life sooner, if anything.
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 3rd June 2018, 8:30 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 294
Posted By magnesium
Do you mean the right attitude with regards to...

Do you mean the right attitude with regards to their self-assurance and/or optimism?
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 3rd June 2018, 8:26 PM
Replies: 65
Views: 1,389
Posted By magnesium
Saying "I love you" that fast isn't a good sign. ...

Saying "I love you" that fast isn't a good sign.

It could be emotional immaturity, it could be love-bombing, or a number of (unhealthy) things.

There are dangerous people in this world, and...
Forum: Self-Improvement and Personal Well-Being 2nd June 2018, 7:54 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 473
Posted By magnesium
Yes I had to start over from scratch. I...

Yes I had to start over from scratch.

I spent several years in a toxic environment, and my social circle, including my mentor, essentially used me and betrayed me.

My plans which I had, and...
Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 31st May 2018, 11:32 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 229
Posted By magnesium
First thing you want to do is to be sure to keep...

First thing you want to do is to be sure to keep him out of your life forever. I have a feeling you will already do that. These narcissist types always circle back at a later time to see if they...
Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 22nd March 2018, 9:43 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 604
Posted By magnesium
What she is doing is called "cake-eating". ...

What she is doing is called "cake-eating".

Don't be her left-over dessert.
Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 2nd March 2018, 5:33 PM
Replies: 29
Views: 988
Posted By magnesium
Have compassion for her...from a safe, far...

Have compassion for her...from a safe, far distance.

As others have mentioned, you stand no chance against her addiction.

Al-Anon has a popular phrase: "I didn't cause it. I can't control it....
Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 1st March 2018, 11:55 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 654
Posted By magnesium
Yes I did it. It wasn't an easy decision, mind...

Yes I did it. It wasn't an easy decision, mind you, I had to walk away from my entire social circle, and it was the best friends I ever had.

When you make major decisions like this, context is...
Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 25th February 2018, 11:33 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 509
Posted By magnesium
It's not genuine. He doesn't want to be...

It's not genuine.

He doesn't want to be your friend.

I'd even go as far as saying it's disrespectful. Does he think you are on his clock, ready to be summoned at his whim?

Only you can...
Forum: Infidelity 25th February 2018, 10:25 PM
Replies: 73
Views: 8,489
Posted By magnesium
"Being bored" is such a bad excuse. I hope...

"Being bored" is such a bad excuse.

I hope you aren't buying it.

In these situations there is always (much) more going than than the initial truths.

I'm sorry that you, a good person, has...
Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 25th February 2018, 9:57 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 509
Posted By magnesium
Are you asking to help you understand why he is...

Are you asking to help you understand why he is doing what he is doing?

If so, does the reason really matter?

What I can see here is that you are torturing yourself over his motives.

I can...
Forum: The Other Man / Woman 30th January 2018, 7:08 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 1,301
Posted By magnesium
Tell her you found another woman who has a...

Tell her you found another woman who has a husband serving time for a white collar crime.

That will show her.

But in all seriousness, run away from her, and maybe you should evaluate why you...
Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 13th January 2018, 12:25 PM
Replies: 26
Views: 2,839
Posted By magnesium
I want you to re-read your own statement. Did...

I want you to re-read your own statement. Did you ever consider maybe this actually was a game too him?

Maybe he was with you not because of who you are...but he was with you for what you could...
Forum: Breaks and Breaking Up 13th January 2018, 11:41 AM
Replies: 26
Views: 2,839
Posted By magnesium
Admittedly, I didn't look at your other threads,...

Admittedly, I didn't look at your other threads, I just read your original post, here.

It's a very, very common scenario what your ex did...sending a response message and then 5 minutes later...
Forum: Dating 13th January 2018, 1:03 AM
Replies: 38
Views: 1,465
Posted By magnesium
I know you are hurting, but eventually you should...

I know you are hurting, but eventually you should let it sink in that this relationship already had problems if she felt the need to dig into your past while you were drunk. That's a semi-dirty...
Forum: Coping 12th January 2018, 11:26 AM
Replies: 45
Views: 1,316
Posted By magnesium
Yes, and in addition, it's about domination. The...

Yes, and in addition, it's about domination. The abuser can exert their power and control over you easier when they have been chipping away at your self-worth through abusive actions.
Forum: Coping 12th January 2018, 11:20 AM
Replies: 45
Views: 1,316
Posted By magnesium
Abusive people recruit others to assist them in...

Abusive people recruit others to assist them in the abuse of their target. A common term for the recruited abusers is "flying monkeys." These recruits are gullible and have low self-esteem too,...
Forum: Coping 11th January 2018, 3:21 PM
Replies: 23
Views: 603
Posted By magnesium
Good call. Most outsiders will minimize...

Good call.

Most outsiders will minimize these types of situations partially because they don't get it, and also they may be trying to keep their peace on both sides. They may even being trying...
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