butterfly29 Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Hello, I have a situation here and I need some advice. I have this really good friend and we go back to college days. I really like her but it's hard for me to stay friends with her. The problem is her husband. The guy is a scum, crackhead loser who used to cheat on her and was verbally abusive to her. And after all the crap he's given her, she never had the guts to leave him. I know it's her problem, not mine but it went too far. She would pull herself away from all her friends, including me and whenever she'd reapear all I heard from her is complaining about her husband. Last time I saw them both together, just after I was almost convinced that he was getting better and even mentioned it to her, the bastard got really drunk and made a pass on me while she was just standing around the corner. I never told her what happened and I really don't know if I should. I do love her and I don't want to lose her as a friend. But I feel like if I say something, she'll be mad at me, start a big fight with him but won't break it off with him anyways, just because she didn't before and not only her, but both of them will hate me and I will never see her again. On the contrary, if I don't say anything, I will slowly disintegrate and lose her friendship anyways. That's the path we seem to be going now. She called me a couple of times recently and we planned to go out but I can't go anywhere with her if he is there too. I don't feel comfortable. By far, I've managed to come up with lame excuses as to why I can't go, but she's not stupid and she'll eventually figure out that something's wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
mopar crazy Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 UGH! What a jerk!!! I wouldn't say anything about him hitting on you, it may cause more problems. Don't let your friendship go b/c her H is a jerk. You seem like you really care and she needs a friend like you right now. Try to find out b4 you tell her no if her H is going to be there. If he makes you uncomfortable I wouldn't go. When I was in HS my BF got M. I was her maid-of-honor. At the reception she had me sit next to her new H. The stupid jerk hit on me! I felt sick he would do this to my BF on her wedding day! I never did tell her about it, it would of hurt her so bad. I just ignored him. I got out of there ASAP. I felt bad for leaving early but the guy gave me the creeps. I should of stayed and avoided him but it made me sick b/c he kept looking at me. I hope things work out for you and your friend. It's too bad she is still M to someone who treats her like this. Link to post Share on other sites
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