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Old 18th October 2018, 10:11 AM   #16
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I wish I had advice, but only offer support as Iíve put myself in a similar situation. I know we both know NC is the very best thing but it is painful. You sound like youíve hit your limit. You are worth more and you see him for what he is. I hope closing your heart to that possibility will bring someone new into your life who will give you their all. Take care.
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Old 18th October 2018, 11:26 AM   #17
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Affairs are exactly like an addiction. The withdraws are just as bad, but as more time passes you begin to heal, but it takes time and NC. It's not easy at all but doable. I hope you find the strength to end this and bring peace to your life again. Affairs are not good for anybody.
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Old 18th October 2018, 11:28 AM   #18
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The following is so awesome that it really needs to be stated again:

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I think you don't so much find your dignity and self worth, as earn it back for yourself.

You begin by making yourself and your mental health central in your life.

You look hard at your choices, and you vow only to make good ones going forward, whether they are emotional, financial, education, career, friendships ...

You vow to either move forward in a new direction, reinventing your life for the better, or you reset your life to who you were before you met him.

You recognize that you alone set your house on fire, and you alone can walk out of the building.
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Old 18th October 2018, 5:18 PM   #19
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Ladydesigner I know itís an addiction, I know itís a habit but change is hard, I will always love him but we want different things, I was more than being cake, I wanted actions, but his actions were always that he wants his wife and family and thatís not enough anymore so I have to move on getting through one day at a time and getting stronger.

Abetterme good luck with moving onto a better place free from the awful feelings that we just arenít good enough for them to want to be with, coming to the reality of everything they say is prob a lie to get us to hang in there.
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