getagripchick Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 (edited) So I work in the service industry, and have been at the same store for over a year now. When i met my MM i was only married a few months. Let's call him clark. When Clark started working, at my job. Lots of the females, thought he was 'hot' . I didn't think so, but he smiled a lot and was very charming. Not ugly, just not sexy, or sexually Attractive to me .....At First...... We started joking around and became buddies/pals, we had a hand shake that he taught me. And over time we became comrades of sorts. He was separate from his wife when he started, and acted single as a man possibly could. He was a huge flirt, and very charismatic. Since we had this initial bond, i began getting little moments of jealousy. When girls would flirt with him, or pretty much whenever, as if i was his GF. It was a playful thing, and was fun. Soon coworkers started saying we had slept together. But at this point, we had not gone anywhere near being physical. It was obvious to others, coworkers and patrons both. People who would come into our work, would say little comments. One night we were outside of our job, and i was asking him if he hooked up with a chick we work with. He said he would never'hit that' but if i knew who he would? He coverd his face and playfully peeked through his fingers, as he looked me in the eyes and smiled. Letting me know he was talking about me. He is about 8 years younger, but Clark has been married for 5years. Almost a year later, and I am tangled up in emotions, and physical attraction, that have gotten out of control, i dont know why but i want him 24/7 now. This is just the surface.. Edited September 18, 2013 by getagripchick Link to post Share on other sites
happy stillmore Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 Don't do it. Not worth it. He is a player. Believe me. It is not worth the pain. He is married. You are married. If you are not happy in your marriage, end it first. Only have a relationship with this man of you are both no longer married. Simple as that! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 Yup, he's a flirt and a player. You're married, forget about him. Your loyality is to your husband and if you continue to play this little flirt game with him, eventually it WILL lead to sex and maybe an affair too. Right now you two are playing with fire and you will be the one who gets burnt. Focus your energy into your husband, go out on dates with him and reconnect. And, maybe think about finding another job if you can. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CrystalCastles Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 If he acts single, he probably has OOW. Why would you want someone like that? You're just an OW among OW to him. Link to post Share on other sites
aliveagain Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 When infidelity happens this early in a marriage the odds are very, very against your relationship surviving. If you are unable to honor your commitments to your husband why are you still with him? If the rush you get from cheating is worth more to you than your marriage why don't you end things with your husband before you do something really stupid like bring children into this mess? You are on a very destructive path. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
red605 Posted September 18, 2013 Share Posted September 18, 2013 You are already emotionally hooked...working together makes it nearly impossible to break away. Be careful... Link to post Share on other sites
harrybrown Posted September 23, 2013 Share Posted September 23, 2013 What about your husband? Link to post Share on other sites
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