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Hi everyone...

 

I have been on these boards for the last few weeks...

I have posted a few threads on my situation.You can look up my history.

 

I have learned QUITE a bit by reading these posts....and am SO glad I

got the chance to educate myself .

 

The things I have learned from these boards:

 

That we ALL have a common problem....which IS...we are all waiting for

the SAME thing: A MARRIED man to make the decision to LEAVE his

so WE can finally be HAPPY.

 

Isn't that SAD?????

 

I for one want to be happy NOW...not in 2 or 3 or 5 years....

or at the expense of someone ELSE'S hapiness.

I don't know about any of you OW......but for ME I am tired of waiting.

 

I am TOO young, and have TOO much to offer someone who can

appreciate it TODAY...not tomorrow, or next year, when HE finally

gets his **** together. Which may NEVER happen.

 

I realize the theme is ALWAYS the same with these MM who are cheating..or having affairs......they will put off tomorrow what could/SHOULD be done today....but they CHOOSE not to.

 

Just reading some of these threads...including my OWN....makes me sad.

Waiting around for someone man to CHOOSE US....wow, that just sounds like a pretty ****ty life.

 

So..I for one am glad I was able to read these horror stories...because the sad FACT is.....if I continued having my affair...THIS is where I will be

for a VERY long time.

 

I am choosing to be happy TODAY....no longer waiting , or worrying, or

living for something that may never happen. Today is a GOOD day...I feel

FREE!!!!!!!!! :)

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Hi everyone...

 

I have been on these boards for the last few weeks...

I have posted a few threads on my situation.You can look up my history.

 

I have learned QUITE a bit by reading these posts....and am SO glad I

got the chance to educate myself .

 

The things I have learned from these boards:

 

That we ALL have a common problem....which IS...we are all waiting for

the SAME thing: A MARRIED man to make the decision to LEAVE his

so WE can finally be HAPPY.

 

Isn't that SAD?????

 

I for one want to be happy NOW...not in 2 or 3 or 5 years....

or at the expense of someone ELSE'S hapiness.

I don't know about any of you OW......but for ME I am tired of waiting.

 

I am TOO young, and have TOO much to offer someone who can

appreciate it TODAY...not tomorrow, or next year, when HE finally

gets his **** together. Which may NEVER happen.

 

I realize the theme is ALWAYS the same with these MM who are cheating..or having affairs......they will put off tomorrow what could/SHOULD be done today....but they CHOOSE not to.

 

Just reading some of these threads...including my OWN....makes me sad.

Waiting around for someone man to CHOOSE US....wow, that just sounds like a pretty ****ty life.

 

So..I for one am glad I was able to read these horror stories...because the sad FACT is.....if I continued having my affair...THIS is where I will be

for a VERY long time.

 

I am choosing to be happy TODAY....no longer waiting , or worrying, or

living for something that may never happen. Today is a GOOD day...I feel

FREE!!!!!!!!! :)

 

Great attitude Playbrat! I agree it's a wonderful feeling to feel 'Free" from something that's been consuming you. Keep it up and try to feel it every day.

 

AP:)

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well, you know what they say...happiness cannot be found, it has to be created.

 

No go create yourself some happiness.

 

Make a list of the things (that you do) that make you happy.... and do them. Daily! It is all about action!

 

Does a fresh new haircut make you happy? Then get thee self to the salon ;-)

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well, you know what they say...happiness cannot be found, it has to be created.

 

No go create yourself some happiness.

 

Make a list of the things (that you do) that make you happy.... and do them. Daily! It is all about action!

 

Does a fresh new haircut make you happy? Then get thee self to the salon ;-)

 

Or a day at the spa with your GFs. That would be fun! You've got the attitude, Playbrat - just make sure you follow through! Keep it up! :bunny:

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Also, you have to look at the little things...would a well organized closet make you happy? Then get to work.

 

How about a jog? Maybe a walk with the dog.

 

See how easy this is?

 

Start looking at behaviors that make you feel good after you do them, not while you are doing them.

 

I have found this to be a crucial point.

 

Say for instance going out with the girls and drinking yourself silly...now this is fun while it is happening, but waking up the next morning and going to work is not so much fun. Actually you feel like crap and smell of stale alcohol.

 

A half gallon of chocolate ice cream may feel good going down the pipe at that moment, but the overstuffed feeling afterward isn't.

 

See how this works?

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Well....being happy IS a decision. So is staying in an affair....ad waiting around...etc etc. All I KNOW is that I have been far more MISERABLE

in this situation than NOT. It really is an eye opener.

 

Funny thing is the SECOND I decided that I am going to be happy with OR without him...I FELT happier. Then I worked out..and feel even better.

 

I guess your reality is what you make it. I was living in a FANTASY ...THAT is why I was SO miserable. I knew it was a lie....

and a dead end road. The truth and REALITY is freeing.

 

To any OW...I am NOT pissing on your dreams...or discounting your feelings for these guys. I just know from experience this is NOT a happy

existence. Maybe when you ARE with him you are happy....but then when he leaves ...REALITY sets in....then what?? DESPAIR.....AAAAGGGHHHH!!!!

 

I guess I a just not in the "fog" anymore.I see clearly...but I am OK with it. I really am.

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That we ALL have a common problem....which IS...we are all waiting for

the SAME thing: A MARRIED man to make the decision to LEAVE his

so WE can finally be HAPPY.

 

Isn't that SAD?????

 

I for one want to be happy NOW...not in 2 or 3 or 5 years....

 

Anyone waiting for a time to be happy is making a huge mistake, and it doesn't matter what their situation. There's no excuse not to be happy today, whatever your circumstance. It's all a matter of attitude, I think. Happiness is a state of mind, and all that.

 

If anyone is waiting for some man to leave their marriage in order for them to be happy... they're going to be choosing unhappiness for a long, long time...

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I wish my friend read through this and stop living on his fantasy fairyland. Waitting for the woman to divorce her husband for the last 10 yrs.

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I wish my friend read through this and stop living on his fantasy fairyland. Waitting for the woman to divorce her husband for the last 10 yrs.

 

Maybe you should get him to come here and read. 10 years is too friggin' long! That's just crazy and stupid.

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He probably got mad at me because I told him to move on and stop waitting for that woman. He love that woman blindly and just continued to wait that one day she will divorce her husband. I really want to wake him up.

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