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Old 19th February 2019, 7:27 PM   #136
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Have you been in contact with your OW since you slept with her?
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Old 20th February 2019, 12:48 AM   #137
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Have you been in contact with your OW since you slept with her?
Yes. It's hard because we work in the same office. It's virtually impossible to avoid running into each other.
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Old 20th February 2019, 5:02 AM   #138
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Are you NC apart from business? Have you told her in no uncertain terms no more texting, messaging and definitely no more lunches or meeting up anywhere else? Somehow I doubt it.
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Old 20th February 2019, 8:31 AM   #139
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Yes. It's hard because we work in the same office. It's virtually impossible to avoid running into each other.
Such is the price you pay when you dip your nib in the office ink.
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Old 20th February 2019, 3:37 PM   #140
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Yes. It's hard because we work in the same office. It's virtually impossible to avoid running into each other.
What was the interaction?

Has there been any sexual innuendos involved - or plans to get together again, at all?
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Old 20th February 2019, 4:50 PM   #141
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what is the policy in your workplace surrounding employees seeing/sleeping with one another?
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Old 20th February 2019, 6:23 PM   #142
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Someone decided to put on a pair of bad idea jeans.... You forever gave up your honor and likely permanently damaged how your wife will feel about future relationships if and when she finds out. I have had plenty of opportunities to engage in the behavior you have chosen and had no problem not following through. I get it, things get boring or difficult at times but when you love someone you just don't treat them so carelessly.
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Old 21st February 2019, 12:36 PM   #143
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If you are truly remorseful and want to repair what you broke by your clear CHOICE. Then man up and tell your wife what you did.
Remorse has no part in this.

Back in the beginning of the month he posted about the supposed proposition. He's KNOWN about it for 3 weeks and had all the time in the world to deal with it in a mature and respectful manner.

After giving this thread a bunch of lip service about how he was going to do the right thing, he STILL came back to brag to us that he didn't. He's known for weeks that this was available to him and claimed he wanted to set up boundaries, then he comes back and tells us all about how he chose to cheat.

You don't get to have your fun and THEN suddenly feel 'remorseful' only after you've been satisfied. Doesn't work that way.
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Old 23rd February 2019, 2:14 AM   #144
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You getting together with her this weekend?
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Old 23rd February 2019, 12:25 PM   #145
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What was the interaction?

Has there been any sexual innuendos involved - or plans to get together again, at all?
The interactions have been mostly normal. We both realize that what we're doing is wrong but also realize there's a sense of attraction that's hard to ignore. We're not making plans.
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Old 23rd February 2019, 12:27 PM   #146
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You getting together with her this weekend?
No. If anything, trying hard not to go there again.
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Old 23rd February 2019, 12:29 PM   #147
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what is the policy in your workplace surrounding employees seeing/sleeping with one another?
I don't believe it's expressly forbidden unless you're sleeping with a subordinate. I'm not a boss so it doesn't apply.
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Old 23rd February 2019, 12:51 PM   #148
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How hard is it to understand there has to be no interaction apart from the absolute minimum necessary for work purposes. You cannot be friends.



You're so passive in your responses it's obvious those barriers could be stepped over never mind torn down!
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Old 23rd February 2019, 2:07 PM   #149
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How hard is it to understand there has to be no interaction apart from the absolute minimum necessary for work purposes. You cannot be friends.
This is the part we're both struggling with.
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Old 23rd February 2019, 2:15 PM   #150
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That's the point, there shouldn't be a 'we'! When are you just going to admit you're in an inning affair? There's absolutely no sense of guilt or someone trying to face consequences in your posts!



Your poor wife.
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