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Old 25th September 2013, 11:22 PM   #61
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Honestly i don't know why she wants to stay could be for love but my gut is telling me it is for the money
Well, then, have your lawyer draw up a paper saying she gets no access to your income or your assets. If she signs it, it's not for the money. If she won't, then you'll know.
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Old 26th September 2013, 1:56 AM   #62
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I'm trying to ignore her but she won't leave me alone.

i know It was childish the stunt i pulled last nite...But i seen it as that she never cooked even before i fount out about the affair and now she wants to start and it really pissed me off when she acted like she didn't know who i was talking about
Stop trying to ignore her. IGNORE HER.

She really hurt you. I know you are a guy and probably don't want to hear that. I'm only pointing it out because if you can admit that to yourself, you can also recognize that you probably arent thinking very clearly at the moment, which is why you sabotaged the food and why you are giving her any opportunity to be around you. Make yourself into a ninja that can avoid her. Is there anyone in real life who you can talk to about this?
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Old 26th September 2013, 7:56 AM   #63
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I allowed her back because i really did love her and want to save my marriage
It's obvious. Otherwise you wouldn't even be speaking to her after what she's done. You would come right out and tell her to stay away from you and move out. If she didn't move out you would at least not talk to her. If you are going to forgive her this easy and allow her back into your life when are you two going to start counseling? I can tell you by your letting her back so soon without consequences she won't ever respect you and will more than likely cheat again. Women like men who stand up for themselves.
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Old 26th September 2013, 9:17 AM   #64
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Speak to Attorney today

Leaving, you remind me of my son. I wish that you had a mama to talk this over with right now cause you need a little TLC. you said you parents died when you were 16 and you stayed w bf parents? Are you close with them? I wonder if you'd really miss your bf more then this girl?

Can I tell you what I would tell my son?
1 block her number. It's temporary but gives you space and prevents you from having to see all the calls. Yes she can call from another number when she figures it out. Deal w that later. Give your self space.

2. Talk to your friend. I think he may be more honest with you then her.

3. Move anything you value out of the house. If you leave she may take her anger out on your stuff.

4. The vaca. GREAT ideal. Tell her you need some space to think things over. Hopefully this prevents any harm to your house if you leave her alone there.

5. If your attys out of town talk to another one. You REALLY need answers today about your house and if you/she have to remain living together. This is very bad for you emotionally. AND if you did hit her OR she even accuses you of it you could be forced out of your house.

6. Find someone to talk with. An older relative not another girl. You need someone you won't fall in love with. I'm sorry. Here's me giving you a big huggggg.

7. As a mama speaking Id tell you if what you say about these 2 people is true and not just anger speaking your really better off without them in your life. Sometimes lessons are hard but if you learn from them you'll be happier.
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Old 27th September 2013, 10:53 PM   #65
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Last couple of days has been Ok talk to My lawyer yesterday everything seems in place Money and Assets secured(only thing she's going to get from this divorce $50,000 and 20% off the house if i sell within 5 years) filing next week

Should i tell her or let it be a surprise?


just got done Packing>>>Boss going to let me use his private jet thinking about flying to vegas in the morning then new York to catch A Broadway show(never seen one)

Ps.

she looking real worried now she seeing me packing(guess she wonder where i'm going)
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Old 27th September 2013, 11:20 PM   #66
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Hmm are you looking at who is better.to comfort yourself
because of the hurt?

material stuff is not everything but great that you work hard
for your money.
what they did was wrong.
but were you spending time at home 2?or only making money.

to get over someone takes time.
but she have to atleast show that she dont want it anymore.
and break all contact.

just taking her back is not working.
maybe she just wanta to come back because you got
the money.
have serieua conversation
I did the best i could in my marriage she was always first and money second always made time for her made sure we had a date night every week and use to spend the weekends lazing around in bed all day making love.Always said i loved you and how beautiful she was i could have been further along in my career if i hadn't put my marriage first
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Old 27th September 2013, 11:23 PM   #67
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-have serieus conversation with her.
and ask deep questions. to see why she is doing ot
and if she really wants you. and what she is going to
do to change this. and to work on it actively .
and not with a lot of words.

and looking at the age,.... maybe marriage was to soon.
I tried asking her the deep questions but she wouldn't answer....I am the type of person who feels if u in love then your never to young or old
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Old 27th September 2013, 11:29 PM   #68
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Leaving, you remind me of my son. I wish that you had a mama to talk this over with right now cause you need a little TLC. you said you parents died when you were 16 and you stayed w bf parents? Are you close with them? I wonder if you'd really miss your bf more then this girl?

Can I tell you what I would tell my son?
1 block her number. It's temporary but gives you space and prevents you from having to see all the calls. Yes she can call from another number when she figures it out. Deal w that later. Give your self space.

2. Talk to your friend. I think he may be more honest with you then her.

3. Move anything you value out of the house. If you leave she may take her anger out on your stuff.

4. The vaca. GREAT ideal. Tell her you need some space to think things over. Hopefully this prevents any harm to your house if you leave her alone there.

5. If your attys out of town talk to another one. You REALLY need answers today about your house and if you/she have to remain living together. This is very bad for you emotionally. AND if you did hit her OR she even accuses you of it you could be forced out of your house.

6. Find someone to talk with. An older relative not another girl. You need someone you won't fall in love with. I'm sorry. Here's me giving you a big huggggg.

7. As a mama speaking Id tell you if what you say about these 2 people is true and not just anger speaking your really better off without them in your life. Sometimes lessons are hard but if you learn from them you'll be happier.
To tell you the truth i think i'm going to miss him more because he was more like a brother to me then a friend

I was close to his parents before all this happen,but haven't talk to them since

i Don't want to talk to him what more do i need to know he sleep with my wife and ruined my life
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Old 27th September 2013, 11:33 PM   #69
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To tell you the truth i think i'm going to miss him more because he was more like a brother to me then a friend

I was close to his parents before all this happen,but haven't talk to them since

i Don't want to talk to him what more do i need to know he sleep with my wife and ruined my life
I hear ya, it happened to my bestfriend where his old bestfriend slept wit his wife. He could not get over that, he forgave his wife but not his BF. It's not the end... you will find another wing man or two .
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Old 28th September 2013, 7:06 AM   #70
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Dude,
I just read through this thread. I just wanted to say that you are doing absolutely the right thing... Life is REALLY awful right now but it will get better. Everyone said that to me but I didn't believe them because I could not imagine a time when I would have less pain. But it does get easier with time. Make sure you eat, sleep and exercise regularly and try to keep a routine so you can stay as productive as possible. It is hard I know.
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Old 29th September 2013, 4:33 PM   #71
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Cut the trip short because i wanted to be a work first thing monday morning

Had a good time got to vegas around 10am saturday spent most of the time casino hopping lost about about 5 grand gambling and drinking met a hottie made out for a while took her back to room but i stoped it after some oral because it felt wrong....

PS.

I have decide to play nice until the divorce even letting her stay in the house till all this is over even after my lawyer advise me i could ask her to leave after i file
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Old 29th September 2013, 6:38 PM   #72
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Cut the trip short because i wanted to be a work first thing monday morning

Had a good time got to vegas around 10am saturday spent most of the time casino hopping lost about about 5 grand gambling and drinking met a hottie made out for a while took her back to room but i stoped it after some oral because it felt wrong....

PS.

I have decide to play nice until the divorce even letting her stay in the house till all this is over even after my lawyer advise me i could ask her to leave after i file

Blowing through 5 grand is not wise.

You are still married and need to act like you are. Are you proud that you are sinking into the gutter?
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Old 29th September 2013, 10:31 PM   #73
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Blowing through 5 grand is not wise.
I know it wasn't wise but i was in vegas and was willing to drop $20,000 to have a good time



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You are still married and need to act like you are. Are you proud that you are sinking into the gutter?
Got caught in the moment(Guess it felt good to be wanted again)but i did stop it b4 it got to far
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Old 29th September 2013, 10:47 PM   #74
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Since i been home it's been ok smoked about an half ounce(haven't smoked like this since high school)

Soon to be Ex cooked(Baked Fish,Corn and Muffins) and since i have decided to play nice i ate the food it wasn't that bad(plus i paid for that food so why let it go to waste)

She has been walking around all day with nothing but bra and panties on all day asking me if i missed her body(she even cooked in her underwear)

She even masturbated in front of me a couples of times.....


while all this was happening i was just chilling puffing a fat one.....

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Old 30th September 2013, 1:30 AM   #75
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Well....you're too young to get married and this is an example of why.

Sorry dude. That's some harsh stuff that happened there.

And good god man she's trying to get back with you by using sex? That just goes to show sex is the only thing she has to offer.
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