Guest Posted March 31, 2006 Share Posted March 31, 2006 I have been with me h for a little over 7 years and i love so much, But he looks at porn online when I leave for work. Then he hides it. I have tryed to undstand, but I can't. I am so open when it comes to our sex life. What does marriage mean. See I thought it meant when to people love each other they want to spend their life together and share that feeling you get when you make love to someone thats its only with them. See I think your other have is the only one to make you feel that way. The butterfly in your tummy. I understand that no matter what that thier are going to be other woman that he thinks that are hot, that are sexy,that he gets hard to. What ever. I can understand that, but to look at porn to get feeling and not have that feeling about me just kills me inside. i have told him how felt he says he will stoped but didn't. People say... Wouldn't you have him look at porn then have another woman. He may not be with another woman but he still gets that feeling and you should only share that feeling with me. I understand that all men need to do it, but 3 or 4 time aweek. I just don't get it. I think I'm going to leave him. I can't stand this feeling anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 1, 2006 Share Posted April 1, 2006 I have been with me h for a little over 7 years and i love so much, But he looks at porn online when I leave for work. Then he hides it. I have tryed to undstand, but I can't. I am so open when it comes to our sex life. What does marriage mean. See I thought it meant when to people love each other they want to spend their life together and share that feeling you get when you make love to someone thats its only with them. See I think your other have is the only one to make you feel that way. The 'feeling' you only share with your spouse is love. Horniness, which is what your husband is feeling when he looks at porn, is a biological urge built into all animals which is only rarely focused on one other person simply because it's about procreation. People keep trying to forget that they are animals just like all the other animals. Lust is built into the system just as hunger and need for sleep are. And the more testosterone you have, the hornier you are. Don't be insulted that he watches porn. It has nothing to do with his feelings for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Kenyth Posted April 4, 2006 Share Posted April 4, 2006 The 'feeling' you only share with your spouse is love. Horniness, which is what your husband is feeling when he looks at porn, is a biological urge built into all animals which is only rarely focused on one other person simply because it's about procreation. People keep trying to forget that they are animals just like all the other animals. Lust is built into the system just as hunger and need for sleep are. And the more testosterone you have, the hornier you are. Don't be insulted that he watches porn. It has nothing to do with his feelings for you. You can say this all you want, but it doesn't matter. When something hurts someone, something hurts someone. If she isn't withholding sex or refusing every second request, he really has no excuse to be looking at it all the time like this. It's a bad compulsive habit he needs to break, like compulsive drinking. It's ruining his marriage for Pete's sake! When will someone admit it's a problem? Get a little self-control. Porn made my (now) wife upset when we were living together, so you know what I did? I QUIT LOOKING! On the other hand, don't take looking at porn so damn seriously either. It's eye candy, not an affair. He should stop doing it, if it bothers you, but that doesn't mean he's cheating on you. Link to post Share on other sites
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