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I read the thread about the H&W going to the strip club. Then I read a reply about the strippers giving lap dances, jerking them off??? and VIP rooms? Ok, I use to let my husband to go strip clubs, even though I didnt like it. I didnt want to be that nagging wife, I turned my head. Now, I reaad this and wonder is this typical at strip clubs? Anyone please, I am so ignorant about strip clubs! I obviously have never been, nor will I!

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reply about the strippers giving lap dances, jerking them off??? and VIP rooms?

 

yes and yes... sorry. Of course, this only applies to certain people. Ones who are well above average on the 'looks' category or the ones who are well above the 'financially stable' category.... you put these two together and watch out!! ...'the dancers best friend'... It also depends on the club, the type of girls in the club. Cause YES, some 'girls', although they may be hangin' from a pole nekkid, they still may have some morals and common sense NOT to sleep or lead a customer on... as others could care less... because (A) they need the money or (B) YES! They are actually interested in the customer.... talking from experience of course. Does it means they are 'bad' places??? Hell no... not if your SO is trustworthy.... but if your SO isn't trustworthy, then that's a whole other story. Ps..... worry more about the washi washi places....

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climbergirl

If you want to know I suggest you go with your SO......I'd wager a bet that you would get more attention than he does. My experience is that the women are very respectful to the woman a man is with.

 

In addition, by my observation, the dancers don't even seem to LIKE men that much.

 

So instead of wondering--- check it out for yourself. Maybe your guy will enjoy having you there.

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Why sit there and grit your teeth about it? If you don't like it, then you need to come out and tell your husband that you don't like him going. You don't need to step in a pile of crap to know it stinks! Why go? You already know you don't like it.

 

If he really cares about you and your feelings, he won't go, plain and simple. Now if he insists on going even knowing it's hurting you, then you have bigger issues to deal with...like why is he being such a pig towards you.

 

You can't hold him responsible for his actions in this until you tell him the truth about your feelings.

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catgirl1927
My experience is that the women are very respectful to the woman a man is with.

 

This is not my experience. When I went, every woman in the place was VERY VERY rude to me. They didn't want to let me in, they told me I would have to have an escort and to wait outside until I found someone to walk me in, they charged me like $20 to finally come in, then the dancers would push past me and roll their eyes at me and give me go to hell looks the whole time. And I was at one of the "classiest" places in Houston.

 

Yes, dear, that's what goes on. It's like institutionalized cheating. Men go there for a free pass to have sex with someone else. I'm sorry, and I'm not saying that your husband does that because he doesn't have to (it's pretty expensive, so he for sure won't get any if he doesn't pay for it) but the option is definitely there and society tells him he's done nothing wrong.

 

Lots of women go with their husbands and have a great time. I had a VERY bad experience, and I will never go again.

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I've only ever gone to two different places. One was relatively clean and respectable, at least as much as a place like that can be. The other was very dark and seedy and I didn't like it there at all, but neither did my husband.

 

When I actually went in to the arena where the dancing takes place I found the women to be very friendly, more so towards me. I think they could tell I was obviously a little freaked out and felt out of place. They didn't push themselves on me or him, they just asked nicely if we would be interested in something.

 

I think it boils down to trust. I know my husband. I know my husband would never cheat. As far as I'm concerned I'd rather know what he's up to. If he were surfing porn and getting off on DVD's behind my back that would bother me immensely.

 

As I said in my other post, men are very visual creatures and it's the visual stimulus they crave.

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My two best friends growing up were guys. I have heard stories that would make your toes curl, lol.

 

One friend is very religious, never watches porn, never been to a stip bar, etc. But he has told me stories his freinds have told him. It makes me sad, b/c some of these friends are the types of guys who have great families, careers, go to church, and wives who would say, I know my husband, he would never cheat on me. Bottom line, there are some really 'great guys' out there who don't think getting a bj or handjob from a stripper is cheating. They love their wives and families dearly, but getting a little on the side is just something they do. Certainly not saying all men who go to strip clubs do this, but it does happen.

 

The other friend, well, lets just say before he got married he was a frequenter of all of the above. And its not hard to find places that accomodate for sex, hand jobs, etc.

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Apparently it varies wildly. i've only been in two places, and only one without Mrs. Flavius. In both the female guests were gushed over, and in both they were enjoying the attention and tipping accordingly. Both places were "respectable places", and there was no accomodation that would allow BJ's, HJ's, or intercourse -- the VIP rooms are chaperoned and visible to those who want to peer in.

 

I really enjoyed the whole gig--beautiful girls giving me a peek for a buck--what fun! I particularly enjoyed the ritzier of the places, where the girls were surprisingly bright and witty, and dare I say, classy (at least for their age.) In several hours I never heard one girl swear, let alone use porny-talk.

 

In the "classier joint", though, I am pretty sure there was a little prostitute-procurement going on. I saw a guy (who appeared to be an NFL player) sort of interviewing individual girls at his table and flashing money to the waitress, who seemed to be summoning the ones he was interested in to his table. (I actually thought he might be the manager at first, then that he might be extorting money from them.) One girl remained at his table, as he talked on about kicking various peoples asses. Then when her shift ended they left together.

 

I can't tell you how gut-wrenching that scene was to me. She was just as impressive a specimen as he, but probably 105 lbs. It should be a hot scene, those two together, but... Something about the imbalance -- 305 lbs vs 105lbs, big money vs dancing for dollars, 35y.o. vs 19 y.o., harmless vs terrifying, one striking for the door and the other following behind -- it just stabbed my heart as a very ugly reality. Just a kid, selling body and soul, and having no idea what it is worth.

 

I'm glad that about 6 others apparently turned down a big stack of $100's, but I cannot say that this classy place is "not a bad place." I don't go in anymore, although I had SO much fun there teasing and tipping and flirting -- it is a glittery black hole that nobody needs.

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carmaenforcer

First off I'm going to need address for these washi washi places. J/K :laugh:

 

No but seriously, what goes on at male strip clubs and or bachelorette parties?

 

Now be honest!

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catgirl1927
First off I'm going to need address for these washi washi places. J/K :laugh:

 

No but seriously, what goes on at male strip clubs and or bachelorette parties?

 

Now be honest!

 

I have never seen or heard of being touched in any way by someone's private parts until I saw it on this board.

 

I once heard that the difference between a guy looking at a girl sexually and a girl looking at a guy sexually was the difference between shooting a bullet and throwing it.

 

At bachelorette parties, IME, there is no sex. No guys rub any girls off, there's no oral sex. There's no complete nudity. There is NO SEX. It is yelling and screaming and embarassing your friends. It is completely different than cheating on your SO and saying you didn't do anything wrong because your buddies said so.

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Based on what I have read...and yes, experienced many years ago, it depends on the establishment and location. There may be some of the hjs and bjs, but by far the majority of guys will not experience this. If you do some looking on the Internet, you can find out alot about what places offer what. It is interesting that very few strip clubs offer "extras."

 

But what it comes down to is not so much looks.....it is MONEY. Money truly talks at strip clubs. Guys will plop down $800 or more without thinking. These are the ones that "get something." However, the motive of each and every dancer is to get as much money as possible. A "happy ending" is not going to help them reach that goal. Only teasing brings in the cash.

 

At strip clubs, women are smart and men are stupid.

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carmaenforcer

You know I guess it just depends on who you talk to, because I have some girl friends and cousins that have told me some nasty stories about bachelorette parties and male strip clubs. Grabbing the strippers penis, blowing him, grabbing/biting his butt, etc. Even if the girl doesn't do anything and tries to be respectful, she might still get a penis slapped in her face or rubber on her somewhere. I also had a this guy coworker that part timed at a local male strip club on Saturdays and he told me the some of the stuff that went on. He said that women get wilder than men do.

Anyway catgirl, I'm sure that you are telling the truth about what went on at the bachelorette party/ies that you went to, but I also know that some really wrong stuff goes on as well. This is why my Wife and I didn't have the "traditional" bachelor/ette parties, even though our friends were having fits.

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I can't speak for bachelorette parties, b/c the only types my friends and I have ever had were a day at the spa, lol. I have no interest in seeing naked men dance around, nor do my friends. Just as many of my male friends have poker night bachelor parties, with no strippers.

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carmaenforcer

Yeah my Wife's MOH's plans to go to a male strip club fell through because she wasn't 21 yet and she just gave up trying to plan anything after that.

My Wife had to get the girls together herself and hit up a couple of restaurants for drinks since they couldn't go to bars, again the 21 thing for her MOH. After the fact, my Wife was complaining about her MOH's lack of creativity and selfishness in that she didn't even ask her if she wanted to go to a male strip club, she claimed she didn't, I told her I was surprized why she (The MOH) didn't take her to a spa or somehting like that. My Wife is like, I KNOW HUH!

I wanted bowling and a nice (cost is not an issue) steak dinner, I got a steak dinner but they got me too drunk for me to be able to go bowling instead they took me home and put me to bed. I had a great time though because my Wife was able to go with us, I even invited her MOH and we all had a blast, no tits or butts needed. Although I'm told I did moon a few people.

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As a teenager, 16-18 , I worked in a club in Fl ( never had to ID) This club was squeaky clean, no touch at all .Dances were done 2 feet away , but Im sure some of the girls picked up customers for later . But I still have friends in the biz and I know they do anything that money can buy in these clubs now, alot of the girls I knew are still dancing ,but doing a lot more for a few hundred bucks. Many got out of it when things began to swing the way they are now but some dident. Aparently vip rooms are basically brothels in many places , and managers get a cut. So Sad!

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This is not my experience. When I went, every woman in the place was VERY VERY rude to me. They didn't want to let me in, they told me I would have to have an escort and to wait outside until I found someone to walk me in, they charged me like $20 to finally come in, then the dancers would push past me and roll their eyes at me and give me go to hell looks the whole time. And I was at one of the "classiest" places in Houston.

 

 

I've never been to a strip club, but I'm willing to bet that the reason the strippers were rude to you is because you are better looking than they were. (Sorry, but big tits doesn't make a woman pretty. If a woman doesn't have "face" they don't have sh*t).

 

The men who will sleep with the willing strippers are just as scary as the women who will sleep with them for money. Who wants something so many countless others has had. I never understood that.

 

I'm sure there are strippers out there that don't do that, so no offense if any strippers read this.

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I particularly enjoyed the ritzier of the places, where the girls were surprisingly bright and witty, and dare I say, classy (at least for their age.)

Stripper . . . Classy . . . ROFLMAO :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

 

No offense, and I mean absolutely no disrespect to anyone, but this just struck me as VERY humorous. Our defintions of "classy" must be really different.

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As a teenager, 16-18 , I worked in a club in Fl ( never had to ID) This club was squeaky clean, no touch at all .Dances were done 2 feet away , but Im sure some of the girls picked up customers for later . But I still have friends in the biz and I know they do anything that money can buy in these clubs now, alot of the girls I knew are still dancing ,but doing a lot more for a few hundred bucks. Many got out of it when things began to swing the way they are now but some dident. Aparently vip rooms are basically brothels in many places , and managers get a cut. So Sad!

 

 

keep in mind that anywhere you are nowadays - there are cameras that follow your every move.

 

I am sure these "private" area are photographed - why else would they know that management deserves a "cut?"

 

SUPPOSEDLY - here in Cali, the men are allowed to look - but not touch...private lap dances are allowed -the gal gets close to the man and grinds on him - but the man is supposedly not allowed to touch her...

 

Doesn't mean a gal wouldn't meet up with any guy willing to pay big bucks in the parking lot for a bit of fun...(and money).

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catgirl1927
Although I'm told I did moon a few people.

 

I feel this is a sign of a GREAT party. :cool: I'm glad you had fun!

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If you have money, and you go looking for it, you will find it. It doesn't matter where you go. I'm sure some of the girls probably do after hours work. I don't buy any of the, "It just fell into my lap!", excuses. Prostitution is illegal and nobody would be stupid enough to jump the bones of someone who didn't appear interested. I don't think frequenting strip clubs is something a married person should do. Nothing but trouble. You want the excitement of living loose? Stay single.

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catgirl1927
If you have money, and you go looking for it, you will find it. It doesn't matter where you go. I'm sure some of the girls probably do after hours work. I don't buy any of the, "It just fell into my lap!", excuses. Prostitution is illegal and nobody would be stupid enough to jump the bones of someone who didn't appear interested. I don't think frequenting strip clubs is something a married person should do. Nothing but trouble. You want the excitement of living loose? Stay single.

 

Yay! :cool: Exactly. Most of the guys who cheat on their wives with these women could get even hotter women if they wanted to. I will NEVER understand why they cheat instead of just divorcing.

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Why do they cheat?

 

It is easier than divorce. It is having the cake and eating it, too.

 

Sometimes it is meant as a temporary fix. The wife won't do it, so let me have a quick fix.

 

It is the enjoyment of leading a double life. I was talking with a woman who broke it off with a guy, who during the one and a half years with her (because he had business trips) saw fifty hookers (actually high class escorts). Yes, he had the money, too. And to top it off, she just found out that he was married, too. Yup, hookers, girlfriend, and a wife. To him the thrill was variety and secrecy.

 

These are just some of the reasons. No, i don't advocate any.

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Yay! :cool: Exactly. Most of the guys who cheat on their wives with these women could get even hotter women if they wanted to.

 

 

You're absolutely right, catgirl.

 

If stribclub dancers are what is considered the hottest women in the world, that's kind of scary. There's a fine line between sexy and sleazy. It's like trying to compare Michelle Pfeiffer and Charlize Theron to Pamela Anderson. Nothing against Pamela, because she loves animals and that's really cool, and her body might be rockin', but she's not beautiful like the other two.

 

Beautiful women do not have to take their clothes off for money. Beautiful women MARRY the rich guy and make him pay for it forever. (kidding) ;)

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