Like spouse's friend too much?

[StayClose]

How does one know if he/she likes a spouse's friend too much?

 

Imagine a scale where on one end is recognizing that your spouse's friend is attractive. On the other end of the scale is attempting to start an extra-marital affair.

 

Excactly where in between is the line between what is appropriate and what is not, and how does one know if they've stepped over it?

[carmaenforcer]

The moment you can't tell your spouse what you are thinking/felling about a certain person, the line has been crossed. Some things are taboo and should be squashed the moment they enter ones mind. If you thought your BF/GF's daughter or son was hot. Fantasize all you want but do not disrespect your relationship. It's when we linger a little too long in a fantasy that we get into trouble.

 

It's funny to me that a person (Woman or man) asks this question knowing the answer. Could it be the decision has already been made and you are just looking for other Women/man to validate your actions.

[StayClose]

I'm not looking for validation. I just don't know.

 

I like the women in question. I enjoy her visits, when she, my wife & I watch movies or just hang out. She seems to light up the day when she comes over, but I'm not interested in having an affair.

[AJS]

I'm friends with a couple that I have known for 20 yrs. I was friends with the H first. I feel like we are closer than his W and I are, but I make sure not to step on her toes if you know what I mean. She use to get jealous, but doesn't anymore. She thought because her H and I clicked so well that we could have an A, but I gained her trust over time and proved to her it wasn't like that. Now it's fine. It really depends on the people I think.