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Old 14th February 2006, 2:25 AM   #16
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Sorry to tell you this tweldly - but anyone one the planet knows that a baby or a puppy is bound to attract ANY woman within three miles radius!

It's just a fact!
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Old 14th February 2006, 4:00 AM   #17
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You mean its not the spandex and running shoes?
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Old 14th February 2006, 9:17 AM   #18
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Have you changed, maybe?

Hey Kenyth:

Have you considered that what's changed might be *YOU* ?

In other words - that its not your marital status ... but changes in your own self-confidence, perhaps based in part on your marriage, and your maturity?

Just a thought. I've seen it in my own little world. To steal from Aerosmith, I was your basic "high school loser that never made it with the ladies." Seriously.

20 years later I'm about to marry a girl who in another lifetime I would have considered way outta my league. A decade younger and she was litterally the prom queen and captain of the cheerleaders. The complete cliche. Of course, to me she's just my Valentine.

I'm the same guy. Still not tall, still not Harrison Ford. But rarely a day goes by that I'm not openly approached by an attractive woman.

I think you're right about some of your theories: I am now "safe," and the fact that I have a mate may confirm some desirability. Plus, as someone noted above, men *DO* become more attractive with age. Partly because we're wiser and more mature, partly because we're more established in life (women want a provider - it's genetic and evolutionary if you ask me).

But in my case, I think the main change is just ... me. In my 30s, even with all my shortcomings, I know I can succeed with the fairer sex. When I meet attractive women, they're people to me now, not scary objects or goddesses on pedastals. I smile and look them in the eye. I have confidence in myself as a man, because of my age, and experience.

Sure it ain't the same with you? In other words, maybe marriage and love have created in you a confidence around women that women just find appealing?
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Old 14th February 2006, 10:00 AM   #19
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Originally Posted by Chump64
NO offense, but do some of you men think that maybe women are just being friendly? I have been in situations before where genuine friendliness has been mistaken for flirting.

This could very well be. The line between friendly and flirty can be pretty thin. I'm fairly certain most of what I take as flirting, is flirting. There's a certain feel to flirting that's unmistakable. A lot of the flirting women are married also. I get the feeling a lot of it is just for fun.
The beauty of the soul shines out when a man bears with composure one heavy mischance after another, not because he does not feel them, but because he is a man of high and heroic temper.
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Old 14th February 2006, 1:59 PM   #20
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I have been thinking about this discussion. I removed my wedding ring last month when I found out my husband was having an affair. I have noticed that men (strangers) are a lot friendlier when you aren't wearing a wedding ring.
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