snootylj Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 my husband wants to watch another man have sex, with me but not participate with us just watch. I don't have problem with that idea. My concerns are he wants to have sex with another woman, but he has only had me as a partner. I'm worried he will like the strange, and leave me behind. how do I handle my own insecurities, while letting him have a one time fantasy??? Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 I'm not knocking it but to each's own personally i wouldn't do it!! H could get involved with the other person that you decide to do it with..My h friend wanted his wife to have a threesome with another girl ,she agreed and they did and the wife had an ongoing thing with the girl and turned lesbian and left her h! When her h talked with my h about it he told my h it isn't worth too many people could get hurt!! His curiosity ended his marriage and they still aren't together!! He regrets ever doing it!! So that is something you have to think about the consequences of what could happen!! I am a very jealous women and there is no way im sharing my man's di@@ with noone!! Link to post Share on other sites
Presario Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 Snootylj, There is one episode of "Sex and the City," where Charlotte's boyfried wants to have a threesome. They go for it once and Charlotte is out for good. If you go for your husband's suggestion, you will be out too. Do you desire to have sex with another man? Link to post Share on other sites
EMJ Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 He's likely to enjoy it very much and want to continue, and then where are you? Before you know it he'll be asking you to go to creepy swingers parties. Why would you even consider this?? I dated a guy who took me to a party, he didn't say it was a swingers party. According to the "Lifestyle" people as they like to call themselves, men must bring a woman, but single women are invited to attend. You know, for threesomes or additional "somes". That way they can pretend it's all cool and convince themsleves "Hey, the women are ok with it, so it's fine". But it's just another way to cheat and try to rationalize it. It's like someone who gets you do drugs with them, you can't criticize or have a problem with it if you participated. BS. Total BS. Needless to say, I DID NOT participate. I just got really drunk while married couples kept approaching continually me to "play". Live sex is everywhere, you have walked into a pornograhic movie. Completely. He disappeared into one of the disgusting group rooms and before I was too drunk to walk out, I did. Never talked to him again. He used me as an entry pass, and your husband wants to use you as an entry pass to cheating or worse, this kind of thing. If you do it, he'll likely escalate it. It's gross. Link to post Share on other sites
It's all good Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 Why is it okay for you but then you get worried about him doing it? Just because he has only been with you? How long have you two been married? Did you discuss it before you got hitched? If you have trust issues with him this is NOT a good idea. Link to post Share on other sites
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