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Old 6th March 2019, 8:42 PM   #16
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It sounds to me that you are dragging your heels on having a baby because you are not happy with him and are fearful of his behaviour. He sounds like he has an anger problem and can be controlling. He should have no say on whether you spend a bit of time with a relative or not.

A baby is a huge commitment. Once you have one, you will be trapped. It is hard to escape a marriage with a small child to look after. You will be vulnerable, find it difficult to get a job and/or afford childcare, and so will be stuck with him.

You are physically turned off by him or by the fear of having a baby with him - your body is trying to tell you something.

You have expressed some doubts about his temper and behaviour when it comes to there being a vulnerable child in the house.

You have great reservations. Listen to your instincts. This is not the right situation to go ahead and have children.

It is possible to love someone but not be in love with them. It is also possible to love someone but not be able to live with them or contemplate a future together. It sounds like this is the time to cut and run if you are going to.
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Old 6th March 2019, 9:16 PM   #17
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this is odd behavior for a man. most of us are avoiding becoming a parent until the very last minute or not at all
"Jesus maroomba, a lovely beast like that running around... could put steam in a man's strides."

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Old 8th March 2019, 11:17 AM   #18
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Move out and start the divorce.

There is no other way to go with this. You do not love your husband and he treats you poorly.

Move on with your life with out him.
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