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I have an issue right now with my husband. He is stuck in the same dead end job for 10 years now and makes only $42k a year for a salary. I have told him to try to find another job because he is always complaining about it but he doesn't think he has good enough skills.

 

For my employment, I do front end web developing and designing and know all the latest technology like React JS, Angular 4, UI/UX design, etc. I constantly get calls from recruiters because of my in demand skill set as a contractor. Because I am only a contractor, I qualify for low end benefits with my contracting company. Our family uses my husband's benefits instead, which are superior.

 

It bothers me that I make 3 times + more than my husband and wish he would try to find another job. It affects my marriage but I try to ignore the issue. Every so often, I will bring it up but we end up fighting about it.

 

My husband is so lazy and doesn't want to learn any new skills, he just wants to play video games when coming home. Me, on the other hand, is always trying to improve my skills by learning the latest technology.

 

I'm going to have to find another job soon due to a problem co-worker so we will lose quite a bit of household income when that happens. I wish he would step up and try to find another job that pays decently.

 

He has a computer science degree from a private university and does have quality programming skills. He just lacks self esteem and the willingness to look elsewhere. He is very loyal even when people at his job treat him like crap!

 

I know he could make way more money for our family to take off the burden from me. I have bipolar disorder and this co-worker at my job is affecting my mental health big time. I'm not sure how I can hold on at my job much longer.

 

If I left my job, we would not be able to pay the mortgage and would lose our house. I have a young son too that we need to provide for.

 

Growing up, I was taught that the man should provide for the family but I don't feel very provided for. We try to be equal in the relationship but I find it hard when I can make 3 times he does.

 

Any advice on how to get him to look for another job or learn new skills to benefit him?

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Well, I'm a self-employed single mom (independent contractor) and I have to tell you, I'd probably be OK with my husband making a less than ideal salary if he could provide all of us with "superior benefits." That's kinda huge to me since at the moment I have no health insurance at all. (My kids do, through their father).

 

If he didn't complain about his job and sit around playing games at home, or if you were happier in your situation and not looking to change jobs, would you feel differently?

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I ran into this problem as well when caregiving over a decade ago, or more precisely my exW did. She didn't like the choice I made to care for my mother at the cost to my business. Mother's dead and I divorced the wife and am infinitely more happy today.

 

You're a team that makes nearly two hundred grand a year before taxes. That's pretty cool. H apparently likes his routine. Not my cuppa but I respect those guys who do that. I was raised by one, a government wonk. Put in the time for the paycheck, went bowling on Fridays and watched the Lakers or Rams on the weekend. He outearned his wife who didn't get a paycheck at all by a zillion to one and didn't mind at all, rather gave every nickel to her to take care of.

 

To me, it's about fit. It sounds like your work/live and H's work/live styles are markedly different. Compromise is important in marriage. What are you willing to compromise on after listening to H's side? I learned the side thing in MC, as well as the listening thing. You up for that, doing the side thing with a professional psychologist? How about H? Worth a try.

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Well, I'm a self-employed single mom (independent contractor) and I have to tell you, I'd probably be OK with my husband making a less than ideal salary if he could provide all of us with "superior benefits." That's kinda huge to me since at the moment I have no health insurance at all. (My kids do, through their father).

 

If he didn't complain about his job and sit around playing games at home, or if you were happier in your situation and not looking to change jobs, would you feel differently?

 

Probably so. I been ignoring the problem for a long time now but I am having issues at my job because of this co-worker. I wake up in the middle of the night and have anxiety attacks.

 

I'm worried I will end up like my mother, who ended up homeless with schizophrenia and then in group homes. Luckily, my illness isn't that severe but there are times when I feel so depressed I have suicidal thoughts.

 

It puts more stress on me knowing that he could not care for us all if something happened to me. I know he could find a higher paying position if he just made the effort. Then, I could afford to find a job part time or work lesser hours.

 

I am thankful for what we have so don't think I am not. Due to my health, I know this can't last much longer. My mom lost it when she was 40 and I'm 35.

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I ran into this problem as well when caregiving over a decade ago, or more precisely my exW did. She didn't like the choice I made to care for my mother at the cost to my business. Mother's dead and I divorced the wife and am infinitely more happy today.

 

You're a team that makes nearly two hundred grand a year before taxes. That's pretty cool. H apparently likes his routine. Not my cuppa but I respect those guys who do that. I was raised by one, a government wonk. Put in the time for the paycheck, went bowling on Fridays and watched the Lakers or Rams on the weekend. He outearned his wife who didn't get a paycheck at all by a zillion to one and didn't mind at all, rather gave every nickel to her to take care of.

 

To me, it's about fit. It sounds like your work/live and H's work/live styles are markedly different. Compromise is important in marriage. What are you willing to compromise on after listening to H's side? I learned the side thing in MC, as well as the listening thing. You up for that, doing the side thing with a professional psychologist? How about H? Worth a try.

 

 

We had been going to counseling due to communication issues but stopped since we couldn't get a sitter. I got tired of constantly cancelling the appointments when the sitter canceled on us at the last minute.

 

He says that he lacks self esteem and the necessary skills to find a better job. His current job has rendered him into a "dinosaur" with skills that are not very marketable today. They use an old system there that he is very used to by now. He is constantly complaining but when I mention to find another job, he stops and changes the subject.

 

I wish he would think more like your father. I would love to be able to raise our son at home. I barely get any time with him except on the weekends. The baby boy is growing so fast and is almost 2! I miss when I was on (unpaid) maternity leave for 3 months while he was a newborn.

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Sometimes you have to remember the balance between different things you get from a job. You've mentioned that his job has great benefits. I know my benefits are worth over 15K per year, and I can imagine good benefits in America could be worth even more when you factor in your health care.

 

I don't make as much as I would at a different place, but my benefits and job security make up for it.

 

Still $40K sounds very low for an experienced programmer with a degree. I sure have never heard of anyone charging such a low cost. But maybe the trade off of him having a more stable higher benefit job and you have a more unstable but higher paying job isn't the worst trade off.

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We had been going to counseling due to communication issues but stopped since we couldn't get a sitter. I got tired of constantly cancelling the appointments when the sitter canceled on us at the last minute.

 

He says that he lacks self esteem and the necessary skills to find a better job. His current job has rendered him into a "dinosaur" with skills that are not very marketable today. They use an old system there that he is very used to by now. He is constantly complaining but when I mention to find another job, he stops and changes the subject.

 

I wish he would think more like your father. I would love to be able to raise our son at home. I barely get any time with him except on the weekends. The baby boy is growing so fast and is almost 2! I miss when I was on (unpaid) maternity leave for 3 months while he was a newborn.

 

Well, I can kinda relate to your husband's anxiety about looking for a new job since I'm sortof in the same boat, and it's hard for others to understand it. Although in my case, I have folks who know nothing about the industry I work in telling me how much better I can do, and there are a lot of other factors going into it all, such as the fact my only client is a family member. But, I digress!

 

With that said, I totally get where you're coming from with your additional post. It sounds like if he would at least make the effort, even if he doesn't find anything, you may have some relief from your anxiety. It doesn't really sound like he's going to find a job that will enable you to be a SAHM unless you drastically change the lifestyle you're currently used to on two incomes. But, I can see how him getting at least a better job could take some pressure off you in case you "do" get sick like your mom. I'm hoping you are in therapy for all of this anxiety.

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Was this the income split when you married? If so, why did you marry him if this was a problem. You say you have bipolar disorder. Are you being treated? Do you have bipolar rages? When was your last episode? Could that be part of the problem with your coworker?

 

You say your husband has low self esteem. Does he know how disappointed you are in him and how lazy you think he is? If so, it's no wonder he has low self esteem.

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No wonder he has low self esteem. His wife thinks he is a loser.

 

 

$42k is a respectable income; yet you scoff at it.

 

 

If you start telling him how much you love him as a person & how smart you think he is, without mention of his degree, his job skills, his employment & definitively not his salary, he may feel more empowered to venture out. Every time you mention the earnings disparity you emasculate him & deaden another little piece of his heart.

 

 

Act like you are a team -- meaning you are in this together & that you are willing to find a way to make it work with less money -- then you may see results.

 

 

You may have bi-polar disorder but that is your medical condition. Your co-worker didn't cause it. If you think the co-worker is a problem complain to management that you are being discriminated again under the American's with Disabilities Act but don't quit your job & then cry that your standard of living suffered through some fault of your husbands.

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So the life and responsibilities you are carrying as a burden you want to thrust upon your husband so you can wash your hands of it and sit at home and do nothing?

 

This sounds like an awful marriage and it's no wonder he has no desire or confidence to better himself.

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Your husband's self esteem issues will not improve if you keep pointing out how little he earns. For most men, making far less than their female partners is a huge blow to their masculinity. Unfortunately, your comments and attitude are not improving the situation.

 

If your husband is not willing to find a more lucrative position, then you will need to divorce him so that both of you can be happier in the long run. Men need respect and appreciation to feel loved. It sounds like you will only be able to respect your husband if he's earning more income. It's not like your husband is working for minimum wage....at least he's earning a salary and providing benefits for your family.

 

In the meantime, I hope you are medicated for your bipolar disorder and seeing a therapist.

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We had been going to counseling due to communication issues but stopped since we couldn't get a sitter. I got tired of constantly cancelling the appointments when the sitter canceled on us at the last minute.

 

He says that he lacks self esteem and the necessary skills to find a better job. His current job has rendered him into a "dinosaur" with skills that are not very marketable today. They use an old system there that he is very used to by now. He is constantly complaining but when I mention to find another job, he stops and changes the subject.

 

I wish he would think more like your father. I would love to be able to raise our son at home. I barely get any time with him except on the weekends. The baby boy is growing so fast and is almost 2! I miss when I was on (unpaid) maternity leave for 3 months while he was a newborn.

 

Why didn't you and your husband discuss your goal of being a SAHM before marriage?

 

If you wanted to stay home with your son, it didn't make sense to marry a man who didn't earn enough to support a family.

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OP, I must admit that I cringed reading your original post. My ex made 3X more than I did, but never made an issue of it. We were equal in every way when it came to finances, household responsibilities, etc. I really admired my ex regarding that part of our relationships.

 

$42K is not bad. At all. But I do understand that you feel that your husband is under-achieving. I wonder if his lack of motivation is not partly due to your lack of support? I would imagine that there was something exciting about him when you first started dating or early on in the marriage. What do you think happened since then?

 

You both currently make, what(?), $160K per year? What kind of house did you two invest in that would be jeopardized if you lost your $120K per year job? I suspect that you are not planning to drop out of the job market, right? Like others, if you were thinking of becoming a SAHM, with your husband's current salary, why wasn't this seriously thought out and discussed?

 

My ex never made me feel inadequate. Never. She was supportive of my career and always encouraged me. She was very happy with what I did and made every effort to support me when my job stunk at times. That support and encouragement never compelled me to try to find a job that made more money, rather, one that provided more satisfaction.

 

I don't know the whole story, but perhaps you should have a heart to heart and discuss how you could support your husband in this? Talk about your concerns and how you two can tackle them as a partnership?

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There is not much you can do to make him get another job, but as others have suggested, you can improve his self esteem by building him up rather than tearing him down. Instead of focusing on the negative (you believe he is lazy and under-employed) focus on his strengths and tell him what you are proud of and love about him. You could also try helping him find another job tailored to his skills. Specialists in older systems may have less demand, but also low supply, and are sometimes able to charge more for their skills for that reason.

 

Another thing you can do is work with your husband to become more secure financially, to help ease your anxiety. You are focused on the income aspect of it, but in reality, with a combined income of about $200k, it should be possible for you to build up your savings such that you don't need to worry about a potential job loss forcing you to be out of work for a while. Look at your budget and figure out what you can cut. I know plenty of families that are able to live comfortably on much less than you're making together. Decrease your spending, and your husbands salary will start looking better in comparison.

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Getting a job that pays more is not easy.

Easy to say but in reality it can be hard.

Easy to say go back to school and ignore

school is not for everyone.

 

Easy to ignore that a resume will not be

good enough to get that coveted job.

 

The lack of social skills and getting a relationship

is talked about all the time on LS. Well

the same lack of social skills keeps people

from advancing in their careers.

 

There are countless reasons why people

are not financially successful. Missed

opportunities. Wrong place at the wrong time.

 

You cannot make a silk purse from a cow's ear.

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OP, do you ever show appreciation for your husband providing health benefits for your family? That's a great contribution.

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I've been the sole breadwinner my whole marriage because we decided to be pioneers when I received my first big promotion: He quit his job to become a stay-at-home dad. So financially, there you go. And of course over the years, I'm still the mom and his kicked #$% as a full-time dad (best!)--I still do not cook or grocery shop, among other things. Believe me, I am not interested in starting either. Eventually, I started my own business from home that was great at first but we have some struggling times now due to some really bad issues with the financials and a business partner who no longer is a business partner. My husband also had some illnesses (heart, for example, is one), so finding the right job when the kids were older got harder. I'm still the main breadwinner and we love each other dearly. However, like you, had a stretch of time full of resentment. I'd like to suggest you go to Netflix and watch the movie "The War Room." It changed my life and my view toward my husband, marriage, the good things about my husband that I wasn't acknowledging; it even taught me to pray for my marriage (if you're inclined!). What it taught me is encouragement of my husband vs complaints and remorse for my mistakes that he put up with that are hopefully a little better! By sharing this with him, he opened up as well. Please watch the movie, look at the big picture of whether he is a good man or not, and then decide for yourself. I did. PS: I was brought up that men should do all that, too. I learned something I was not taught: It's not just about the money he provides. In fact, his love and support are priceless in my life and irreplaceable.

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OP, I see a woman who has pigeon-holed herself into being the bread-winner, when she really just wants to be a mom first, and work part-time to add what she can. The issue is that you aren't willing to compromise on a lifestyle that's seemingly much more important to you, than to your husband. I think that you should start working part-time from home, and adjust your spending and lifestyle accordingly. If that means moving to a smaller home that is less central, or downsizing vehicles, do it. Honestly, it sounds like you know you're going to crack if you keep on the path you're on, and you're lashing out at your husband because he is complacent, and not interested in taking on more to fill the void you know will exist when you eventually leave your job.

 

I know your situation, because I've been off on disability for 9 months now with carpal tunnel in both wrists. I was making 6 figures in the oil field, and now it's low 5 figures on disability. If I saw this coming, I would have gotten in front of it. While your current financial resources are still there, downsize your home, cars, and curb whatever spending habits necessary to restructure your life around your new income reality, before it's forced onto you.

 

It was forced onto me, and I'm putting out fires now. I've already sold my SUV to cut monthly costs, and I'm doing repairs to the house to sell it next spring. Once sold, all outstanding debts will be wiped clean by the equity in my house, and we're going to downsize homes. I'll be left with $50k for business start up money. Is it ideal, no. What it is, is the opportunity to re-establish our lives so that my wife and I can be content with little financial stressors, and a much better work life balance.

 

Balance your life. Balance yourself.

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Hi newlywedder, you seem to be caught up in a very difficult situation. I have a few questions for you if you would like to answer them. Firstly, how long have you been married and how much older than you is your husband? What drew you to your husband in the first place especially if you knew that he was stuck in a rut? What is your relationship like other than the financial aspect that you are highlighting?

 

Having asked those questions I have to ask you as to what is the specific problem that you are facing with this coworker? Is he bullying you or is he hitting on you and you do not/do like the attention and are concerned where it will go if you allow it to blossom? You said your skills are in great demand and a number of recruiters ate on the hunt for you. That being the case you could probably pick and choose where you want to work and you do not have to continue in your current job. That would help you to get rid of the attentions/ bullying of your coworker. If this is true then what is holding you back from taking up a new appointment?

 

Once these issues are addressed then I think the other important issue is your bipolar disorder. I think some of the other posters( not all ) have missed the significance of this and the effect it is having on you personally and on your work and relationship dynamic. I think you need to address this problem with an immediacy that seems to have eluded you. Unless you are in a good place mentally, how can you expect to handle all the problems of teal life in a balanced and rational manner? You need to be getting treated for this disorder as of yesterday. If you are not in a good place mentally, how can you attend MC or any other therapy with your husband. Also, if your husband's health insurance covets it why are you not seeing a psychiatrist for your disorder? Once that is taken care of you can suggest that your husband see a psychotherapist for his own problem of low self esteem. However, it should be one step at a time. What Thegameoflife has suggested is sterling advice and you would do well to heed it. That should be attempted once both of you have had psychiatric treatment for your personal problems. Warm wishes

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I have an issue right now with my husband. He is stuck in the same dead end job for 10 years now and makes only $42k a year for a salary. I have told him to try to find another job because he is always complaining about it but he doesn't think he has good enough skills.

 

Your nick suggests you knew about his situation when you got married. Why did you marry him?

 

For my employment, I do front end web developing and designing and know all the latest technology like React JS, Angular 4, UI/UX design, etc. I constantly get calls from recruiters because of my in demand skill set as a contractor. Because I am only a contractor, I qualify for low end benefits with my contracting company. Our family uses my husband's benefits instead, which are superior.

 

What is the difference between the total the levels of compensation between the two of you again?

 

It bothers me that I make 3 times + more than my husband and wish he would try to find another job. It affects my marriage but I try to ignore the issue. Every so often, I will bring it up but we end up fighting about it.

 

My husband is so lazy and doesn't want to learn any new skills, he just wants to play video games when coming home. Me, on the other hand, is always trying to improve my skills by learning the latest technology.

 

If you goal was to have a husband who earns over three times as much as you, maybe you should have worked on your appearance instead.

 

I'm going to have to find another job soon due to a problem co-worker so we will lose quite a bit of household income when that happens. I wish he would step up and try to find another job that pays decently.

 

You wrote you were in high demand. Is your current job uniquely well-paid? Why do you think you would not be able to find another equally well-paying one?

 

He has a computer science degree from a private university and does have quality programming skills. He just lacks self esteem and the willingness to look elsewhere. He is very loyal even when people at his job treat him like crap!

 

But you wrote your husband isn't interested in constantly learning new skills. He is probably right.

 

I know he could make way more money for our family to take off the burden from me. I have bipolar disorder and this co-worker at my job is affecting my mental health big time. I'm not sure how I can hold on at my job much longer.

 

Your husband makes $42,000 and has great benefits. Your burden is entirely self-inflicted. If you earned the same, you'd make $88k together, which is enough for a perfectly acceptable first world standard of living. If you're living in some ultra-expensive area, you can move somewhere else.

 

If I left my job, we would not be able to pay the mortgage and would lose our house. I have a young son too that we need to provide for.

 

Maybe you're living in a too expensive house.

 

Growing up, I was taught that the man should provide for the family but I don't feel very provided for. We try to be equal in the relationship but I find it hard when I can make 3 times he does.

 

The world has changed a lot after your childhood. What you're experiencing is the female hypergamous instinct kicking in. Most women feel a need to marry up. Most do, in fact, as the income statistics of men and women bear out. The more equal the earnings of men and women in rich countries, the greater the share of men who are forced to import a bride from a poor country if they want to have a wife and the greater the number of successful women unable to find an eligible husband.

 

Any advice on how to get him to look for another job or learn new skills to benefit him?

 

Lose fat. Develop a firm shape through strength training. Learn about style and femininity. Downregulate the amount of sex you have with him. That will instill the fear of losing you (and his son) into your husband. Maybe then he will wake up. Be careful, though, as you are a mother of a young child and probably well into your thirties already. No rich man in his early thirties will put up with that. So you will have to prepare to marry a rich older man (15 to 25 years older than you) after you've divorced your husband. You should not disclose your looming mental health collapse to any of your new suitors. It would not work in your favor, although a rich old man might not be bothered by your dropping out of the work force after the papers are signed.

 

If you are not prepared to follow the above route, then you should downsize your standard of living and start saving and investing. Then you will have a fund to help you survive if you become unable to work like your mother did as you wrote in a later post.

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Sometimes you have to remember the balance between different things you get from a job. You've mentioned that his job has great benefits. I know my benefits are worth over 15K per year, and I can imagine good benefits in America could be worth even more when you factor in your health care.

 

I don't make as much as I would at a different place, but my benefits and job security make up for it.

 

Still $40K sounds very low for an experienced programmer with a degree. I sure have never heard of anyone charging such a low cost. But maybe the trade off of him having a more stable higher benefit job and you have a more unstable but higher paying job isn't the worst trade off.

 

Yes he gets a 2% raise each year and started at 42k when he was out of school. They really need to pay him more there but of course won't. It is really annoying how he won't look for another job that will pay decently. He is so honest that if he did get another job, he would disclose his current pay and then they may offer him the same. I do enjoy his benefits so that's the only thing going for this job.

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Was this the income split when you married? If so, why did you marry him if this was a problem. You say you have bipolar disorder. Are you being treated? Do you have bipolar rages? When was your last episode? Could that be part of the problem with your coworker?

 

You say your husband has low self esteem. Does he know how disappointed you are in him and how lazy you think he is? If so, it's no wonder he has low self esteem.

 

We share a bank account. He does have great qualities like being very honest, loyal, great father, great lover, handsome, great smile, fun-loving, animal loving, geeky, and great friend. I didn't think of the money when marrying him at all. I actually earned close to what he does because I didn't realize that my skills were worth so much. I kept asking for $45k-$50k at jobs for years.

 

No, I am not constantly saying how disappointed I am. I'm very kind to him but have this nagging feeling that doesn't go away. I keep it inside and every once in awhile, I will say something about his job situation but then nothing happens. I build him up all the time and tell him how smart and handsome he is.

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Your husband's self esteem issues will not improve if you keep pointing out how little he earns. For most men, making far less than their female partners is a huge blow to their masculinity. Unfortunately, your comments and attitude are not improving the situation.

 

If your husband is not willing to find a more lucrative position, then you will need to divorce him so that both of you can be happier in the long run. Men need respect and appreciation to feel loved. It sounds like you will only be able to respect your husband if he's earning more income. It's not like your husband is working for minimum wage....at least he's earning a salary and providing benefits for your family.

 

In the meantime, I hope you are medicated for your bipolar disorder and seeing a therapist.

 

Yes I am well medicated for it and haven't had an episode in years. I'm very stable right now but get bursts of anxiety due to this co-worker issue. I don't want to ever divorce him because we married for life. I can't see myself with anyone else. His other qualities are very attractive, just this one thing that he could change if he wanted to. It bugs me to no end. I do try to make him feel loved. I don't bring up this issue very often. I can't remember the last time I said anything. It just nags me a lot because I'm worried about my mental health and I may end up in a hospital again.

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Why didn't you and your husband discuss your goal of being a SAHM before marriage?

 

If you wanted to stay home with your son, it didn't make sense to marry a man who didn't earn enough to support a family.

 

We did but then the baby was born so I had to keep working. I worked up until my C section and went back 3 months later. I thought he would get another job later on, not keep this same one to be honest. He has a computer science degree from a private university so is worth more than this pay. I didn't think he would still keep this job. We had talked about him looking elsewhere once I was able to get a job with benefits myself.

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Hi newlywedder, you seem to be caught up in a very difficult situation. I have a few questions for you if you would like to answer them. Firstly, how long have you been married and how much older than you is your husband? What drew you to your husband in the first place especially if you knew that he was stuck in a rut? What is your relationship like other than the financial aspect that you are highlighting?

 

Having asked those questions I have to ask you as to what is the specific problem that you are facing with this coworker? Is he bullying you or is he hitting on you and you do not/do like the attention and are concerned where it will go if you allow it to blossom? You said your skills are in great demand and a number of recruiters ate on the hunt for you. That being the case you could probably pick and choose where you want to work and you do not have to continue in your current job. That would help you to get rid of the attentions/ bullying of your coworker. If this is true then what is holding you back from taking up a new appointment?

 

Once these issues are addressed then I think the other important issue is your bipolar disorder. I think some of the other posters( not all ) have missed the significance of this and the effect it is having on you personally and on your work and relationship dynamic. I think you need to address this problem with an immediacy that seems to have eluded you. Unless you are in a good place mentally, how can you expect to handle all the problems of teal life in a balanced and rational manner? You need to be getting treated for this disorder as of yesterday. If you are not in a good place mentally, how can you attend MC or any other therapy with your husband. Also, if your husband's health insurance covets it why are you not seeing a psychiatrist for your disorder? Once that is taken care of you can suggest that your husband see a psychotherapist for his own problem of low self esteem. However, it should be one step at a time. What Thegameoflife has suggested is sterling advice and you would do well to heed it. That should be attempted once both of you have had psychiatric treatment for your personal problems. Warm wishes

 

Hi! I am 35 and he is 34 so around the same age. We have a great relationship otherwise. I don't mention his job situation very much. It comes up a few times a year nowadays. I was attracted to his personality and we shared interests.

 

The coworker has a controlling perfectionist personality and also has admitted he has a brain disorder. He makes the job quite stressful but I am learning to work better with him. I understand what he is going to do and then choose to act accordingly instead of getting upset.

 

I am seeing a psychiatrist for my disorder and am getting medicine. One medicine costs $1000 a month and my husband insurance gets it down to $15. I am very grateful for his benefits so don't get me wrong.

 

I just want him to find a better job that values him more and that he would be happier at. This place treats him like crap and give him no challenging work.

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