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Old 9th July 2016, 8:42 PM   #31
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This. Kids are amazingly disruptive on a marriage
I don't understand why parents love to pretend that children are always a blessing for this reason.

It's been proven that childfree marriages are often happier:

The secret of a happy marriage? Don't have children... - Independent.ie
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...r-couples-kids

Children do bond a couple but not without a heavy cost to their relationship.
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Old 9th July 2016, 9:51 PM   #32
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Hopeful30, your friend is wrong to take his partner's view on kids personally. Her not wanting to have kids is not about him.

As for my experience? When I met my now husband, he told me that one of the reasons he broke up with his ex was because she didn't want kids. I was 24 when he and I met and didn't want kids either. Armed with this information about him, I knew I had to make a choice - if I was to stay with him, I would have to reconsider my position on children.

My change of mind didn't happen immediately. At first, I simply opened my mind to the idea that I'd have to give it more thought. The changing of mind was a gradual process, aided by how well our relationship was going and what a good father he'd be. By the time we decided to try for kids four years later, I knew it was the right choice. And I have no regrets. Despite the challenges we've faced with parenting (our son is autistic), I know I made the right decision for myself.
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