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Old 17th May 2016, 7:47 PM   #16
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It does sound like you guy are great friends but without sex that's all you are. He misses the challenge of the chase but the problem is you are already caught and that's why he married you. The only thing you can do is continue being his friend, look sexy when around him (not lingerie), and don't mention sex again. If he brings it up in any way, laugh and change the subject. Seriously, do this for the next month and report back.
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Old 17th May 2016, 8:17 PM   #17
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Ever consider that he might be in the closet?

I've heard my fair share of stories of people (male and female) who marry under false pretenses and like a decade later (probably when their parents die) come out of the closet.
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Old 17th May 2016, 8:22 PM   #18
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My husband and I have been married for about 2 years now.
We get along great and pretty much are like best friends.
But our sex life has kinda went down over the past year. So, I decided to bring it up in conversation.
First, let me say this. I am 23 years old, and my husband is 27. I have an extremely high sex drive, I'd have sex everyday if he would do it. I have never rejected my husband ever for sex. My husband does not have a mistress, and there are no other problems in our marriage.
He rejects my sexual offers quite a bit, and when I asked him about it he said that I am just "to available" and that I am not a challenge for him. He made an example of having steak...if you have steak all the time and it's always there, then eventually steak is no longer your favorite meal.
Basically my question is...how do I be a challenge? What can I do to help with wanting sex with me again?
He says he is still very much attracted to me. And I've tried some things like dressing up for him and stuff but he says I'm trying to hard.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks!
How are your finances..???

This is just a guess...

Stuff like tight finances or career issues will kill some guys desire to have sex..Its been my experience that women seem to care less about those types of issues, when it comes to the bedroom, anyway...

Being that you are young, I am just assuming here...And don't just assume if he is the one taking care of paying the bills, that he would tell you that he is having trouble...:Lots of guys will carry that around and be too stubborn or prideful to admit that things are really tough..

Some of the others have mentioned valid points/reasons....Just another thing to consider...

Good Luck

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Old 17th May 2016, 8:25 PM   #19
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Ever consider that he might be in the closet?

I've heard my fair share of stories of people (male and female) who marry under false pretenses and like a decade later (probably when their parents die) come out of the closet.
I wish I had a nickel for every time a woman said this...Forget the Powerball...


Why does every woman think that the minute a guy isn't a crazed sex beast that he's gay.??...Never understood that logic...Yeah, it happens, but it's probably pretty rare when you look at the numbers..

Certainly not the first area i'd look, if I were a woman, especially if he has never shown any tendencies to indicate that he likes men..

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Old 11th July 2016, 12:44 PM   #20
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What would you do...?

My husband and I have been married for 2 years. Over the past year we have struggled with communication issues, intimacy issues, and sex.
1.He doesn't want to have sex with me. He has admitted to this. He says porn is easier and better.
2. If we do have sex, it's quick and always the same.
3. I try to find ways to "spice" things up...but he doesn't follow it or care to.
4. He says he wants to be a better husband but does nothing to get there. He has asked what he could do better, and I've told him. He'll try for 2 or 3 days, then he stops.
5. We tried counseling. He kept saying that he will do it to help us. We did it for 2 months and he never talked to the guy at all and constantly wanted to back out of it.
6. I have asked for a divorce...and he begs and begs me not to and that he will try harder. But never does.

I don't understand what is going on with him.
I know that he is not cheating on me. We've both been cheated on before and we have an agreement together that we both have access to phones, messages, locations ect.

I'm close to giving up...
Any idea how to approach this?
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Old 11th July 2016, 12:53 PM   #21
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How are your finances..???

This is just a guess...

Stuff like tight finances or career issues will kill some guys desire to have sex..Its been my experience that women seem to care less about those types of issues, when it comes to the bedroom, anyway...

Being that you are young, I am just assuming here...And don't just assume if he is the one taking care of paying the bills, that he would tell you that he is having trouble...:Lots of guys will carry that around and be too stubborn or prideful to admit that things are really tough..

Some of the others have mentioned valid points/reasons....Just another thing to consider...

Good Luck

TFY
Our finances are fine. We just recently bought a new home and we both make pretty great money. I am 23 and he is 27. We make more than the average.
He says he's bored with sex. And I've tried EVERYTHING. but he doesn't throw out ideas..or even try to work with my ideas. I just don't understand at all
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