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Old 15th June 2004, 12:33 PM   #16
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I mean I thought most men would be happy to have a lingerie clad or even naked attractive women laying beside them willing to do anything and everything to please them sexually.
It could be that he is very much intimidated by you and doesn't even realize it.
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Old 15th June 2004, 12:40 PM   #17
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Shoot, if I ever have problems getting horny, I'll just visit this forum and stare at hokey religion's avatar, that seems to do it for me!!!
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Old 16th June 2004, 9:44 AM   #18
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It could be that he is very much intimidated by you and doesn't even realize it.

It's odd you mention that, he said he never understood what I saw in him to date him or even marry him (he doesn't realize how handsome he is and I'm not just saying that, all the women that ever meet him know he's gorgeous, intelligent, witty and kind) and he says he still feels that way so maybe that's his way of saying he's intimidated by me......I just wonder what I could do to change that? Most people are intimidated when they first meet me BUT as they get to know me, that completely changes, maybe it's because I'm tall! LOLOLOLOL!!

Anyway, how in the world do I keep him from feeling intimidated by me or my sexual needs??


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Shoot, if I ever have problems getting horny, I'll just visit this forum and stare at hokey religion's avatar, that seems to do it for me!!!
Now Moose, why would a picture of someone's face as they scrub back and forth cleaning the bathtub turn you on??


LOLOLOL! Just kidding!!

It is quite....stimulating!!! (lucky chick!)
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Old 16th June 2004, 10:06 AM   #19
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Vivian,
I know, hehe, even the wife loves it......that bothers me a little!!!
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Old 16th June 2004, 10:17 AM   #20
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I know, hehe, even the wife loves it......that bothers me a little!!!

LOLOL!! If she's like me, it's not the chick that is stimulating her...it's what the chick is doing, having done to her and what it's causing her to do!! Now...I'm sure the guys like seeing the chick having fun!!
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Old 18th June 2004, 10:56 AM   #21
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You poor thing! Healthy sex is SO important to a marriage!

I lived with a guy for 3 years. He used sex as a tool (or a weapon if you will). If he was mad, he cut off the sex. If he was busy, no sex. If he had anything, and i mean anything else to do, no sex. If he was too tired, no sex. If I wanted sex, no sex especially! When we did it, it was great with multiples all around, but we only did it about twice a month. We only did it when he wanted to, and by then, I was too horny to refuse, so he basically was in control. That was the key word. Control. I took such an ego bruising! I stopped asking because I was tired of being shot down. I had an affair. It was bad.

Finally, I did break it off. I have since found a wonderful man, and guess what? He loves it as much as I do! And he really cares about my wants.

I know married couples who abstain for YEARS. I hope you find out how to fix this problem. Maybe couples counseling. Maybe something different like a romantic getaway. Maybe you BOTH should try porn. Works for some. Viagra won't help if the desire is not there. Been there tried that.
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Old 20th June 2004, 11:08 AM   #22
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I know the feeling

I an going the same but only it is me who does not have a sex drive at all. I love my husband every much but I never want to have sex. Most of the time I do it just cause he wants to. I dont know what to do. So dont be to hard on your husband. I wish I caould talk to my husband about it but all he thinks is about hisself and why he is not getting any, he has even made the comment that he would go somewhere else and get it. Which I dont think he ever would but it still hurts.
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Old 20th June 2004, 4:41 PM   #23
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Life, if he's not masturbating nor having sex with you, it may be that he has a low testosterone level. There are simple treatments for it.

Tell him to get to his doctor and discuss it.
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