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Old 7th January 2004, 10:08 AM   #1
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My husband's day off this week is today. Last night, he didn't seem to want to go to bed when I did, so I assumed he was going to stay up late and look at porn while I slept (he's done this before: I can usually read him and tell when he is about to look, or has looked at porn). I talked him into coming to bed with me, and staying with me until I went to sleep (I do this for him when I want to stay up late....we both don't seem to like going to bed alone). He fell asleep...I was glad.

This morning, he woke me up sneaking out of bed an hour and a half before I was supposed to get up for work. I heard him go to the restroom, then go to the living room, and turn on the TV. I quietly got out of bed, to peek down the hall, and see if I could see him watching TV. I saw him slowly and silently move the computer chair to the computer, and slowly silently turn on the computer. I walked to the restroom, used it, and went back to bed. I decided I would lay there five minutes, then walk into the living room, and see what he was doing.

After five minutes, I silently crept out of bed, put on my gown, and sneaked into the living room. I found him sitting on the couch watching sports. I put my arms around him, and he said, "good morning " I said, "good morning." It was freezing, so I went down the hall to get a quilt. He yelled after me, "Come here!" I went back into the living room with the quilt, and we cuddled on the couch.

Five minutes later, our dog wanted to go out. I got up to let the dog out, and my husband got up to take a shower. I sat there on the couch for 30 minutes, when I could have been sleeping, waiting for him to get out of the shower. I decided to go to the computer, and see if he'd looked at anything yet. He hadn't. I saw where he'd laid his id and password beside the keyboard, so he was going to look at it, but apparently decided not to when he heard me go to the restroom.

He finally came back, and sat on the couch with me. We cuddled for about 10 more minutes. I started to try and get fresh with him, but realized that I was totally not in the mood. I started to fall asleep, so I finally got up, and told him I was going to bed.

Once in bed, I decided that I'm not in the mood, so why should I care if he gets his release from his hand....I went to sleep. 10 minutes before I was supposed to get up for work, I awoke to the sound of the bathroom light being turned on. I then heard running water. I thought, "Well, he's done it....now he's washing his hands so I won't find out." The water kept running...and running...I thought, "Is he taking a shower again? Is he really trying to hide it that bad?" I kept listening, and finally heard a glass. He was in the kitchen, washing dishes! I hadn't heard the bathroom light, I had heard the kitchen light! Then, I heard a pan hit the stove.

I realized that he was making me breakfast.

I felt like poop on a stick. I wasted my entire morning worrying about him looking at porn, and here he made me breakfast.

I don't know if any of you are as obsessed with this as I am realizing that I am, but I feel rediculous! I feel like this morning helped me to put porn in perspective. Why should I feel insecure about cheezey women in pictures, when I have such a wonderful man who loves me so much that he will get up early on his day off, and make me breakfast! I hope this helps someone put their porn problems in perspective...it sure helped me.
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Old 7th January 2004, 10:34 AM   #2
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Old 7th January 2004, 2:36 PM   #3
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Yea...I've noticed you were a little obsessed with the porn issue...I've seen all the threads about it.
Maybe you're starting to realize you can't act like a detective and spy on him, and watch every move he makes....Keep each other happy in the bedroom....he'll tire of the porn.
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Old 7th January 2004, 3:24 PM   #4
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....Keep each other happy in the bedroom....he'll tire of the porn.

Not so much. Keep each other happy outside of the bedroom. The rest will follow.
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