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Old 30th May 2011, 7:44 PM   #46
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married almost 27 years. wife TOTALLY not interested in sex, if i ask all i get is her huffing and puffing. not worth the hassle.
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Old 31st May 2011, 4:34 AM   #47
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married almost 27 years. wife TOTALLY not interested in sex, if i ask all i get is her huffing and puffing. not worth the hassle.
Does she have a body image problem, as in having gained a lot of weight over the last years?
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Old 31st May 2011, 8:54 AM   #48
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married at 30. We are married three years together ten.

We just got off a slump but now it is once a week.

I have the same problem eve does a teenage daughter. When she was little we could put her to bed at 7-7:30 and easily have sex before going ot bed. Now she goes to bed at 10 and I am super tires by 10:30 we are up at 5:30am. So weekend mornings are the only time. That is if she stays asleep.

Sometimes she is up at 10 sometiems she sleeps until 1.
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Old 31st May 2011, 12:36 PM   #49
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I like the Sunday afternoon lock in idea!

I can't tell you how many times my kids have walked in on weekend morning fun time. Usually we hear them coming and can disengage and cover quickly but its annoying.

It wasn't until I was grown and had children of my own that I realized my parents funding our trips to the movies wasn't them being generous....at least not generous to us lol. It was so we would all get out of the house at once and give them 2 hours free afternoon time. We saw a lot of movies growing up . They also made sure we all had summer trips/camps all at the same time too. And they weren't shy about letting us know why either.
Your parents are smart. Respect to them!

LOL, I can relate to what you are saying! Tryng to get in a bit off morning sex and they are at the door .. usually for money or moaning that one of them has had all the orange juice and there is nothing to eat in the house (which there is) -and they are nearly adults now!

I seriously think if one is not determined to maintain a healthy sex life, the kids will take over your home and life. That's not happening to me though.. no chance.

Hotgurl.. not sure what to suggest other than having a lock down time. We were quite broke when the kids were little so took to the idea of combining romantic walks, sometimes with a picnic and making love outside. I think everyone should have the experience of making love in the rain.

.. Anyhow, two years left before we are free ..

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Old 31st May 2011, 1:04 PM   #50
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I have the same problem eve does a teenage daughter. When she was little we could put her to bed at 7-7:30 and easily have sex before going ot bed. Now she goes to bed at 10 and I am super tires by 10:30 we are up at 5:30am. So weekend mornings are the only time. That is if she stays asleep.

Sometimes she is up at 10 sometiems she sleeps until 1.
If she is a teen, why does she need to be asleep? Can't she be up unsupervised?

"We're going to bed. G'night!"
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Old 31st May 2011, 5:46 PM   #51
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pink, yes she does have body image problems. but she had them when she was in shape also. what was strange was when she hit early 40's, it was like being married to a porn star. nothing was too kinky for her then, and as fast as it came on, it disappered. total lengh of time was 6 months tops. now i might as well be married to my sister. took her away for a nice quiet 4 day weekend last month,thought i might get lucky....all i did was waste my money.
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Old 31st May 2011, 6:02 PM   #52
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Married at 27, I'm now 28. Married about 8 1/2 months. Sex frequency varies for us, sometimes we will have sex 4 x a week, sometimes 1 x a week. It just really depends on circumstances. We do try very hard to make time for each other though.

Lately we have been having sex more frequently due to trying to conceive, husband says he is exausted!

I would say that late 20's-early 30's married folks may have sex more often due to greater marital satisfaction or just a more mature relationship then those who have married a lot younger.
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Old 31st May 2011, 6:26 PM   #53
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-How old were you when you got married, and how old are you now? I was 36, and now I am 46. It is my second marriage
-How long have you been married? ten years
-How often do you have sex now, and how often were you having sex when you were married? Right now we're at about 3-4 times a week. When we were married it was about the same. When we met 4 years before we were married it might have been slightly more frequent. We've gone through some dry spells though - a year ago we were separated and didn't have any at all for about 4 months, before that it was maybe every 2 -3 weeks.
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Old 31st May 2011, 6:31 PM   #54
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We have three basically grown kids in the house. The youngest is our 17 year old daughter. The older two are boys and are both sexually active. Our poor daughter says she's heard them having sex when she's at home and we're not, and she hears us having sex when she's awake. It's all par for the course - people have sex. We aren't overly loud or anything, we just don't have soundproof walls. Last week one night we went to bed early and locked the door and turned on some music. Weekend mornings are usually good times, unless we have to get up for something. This morning we woke up at 5:30 am and did it. You find the time.
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Old 1st June 2011, 5:07 PM   #55
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Married at 19 and 21, for coming on to 28 years. 7 kids at home ranging from 22 to 5.

Around twice a week on average. Thank God for locks and thick walls.
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Old 1st June 2011, 5:46 PM   #56
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Around twice a week on average. Thank God for locks and thick walls.
You sound soooo smug .. hahaha
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Old 1st June 2011, 6:00 PM   #57
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You sound soooo smug .. hahaha
What can I say? My wife gets noisy.

And hey, I read what you wrote and all I can say is "this too shall pass".
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Old 3rd June 2011, 5:22 PM   #58
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Married in our 30s and not yet a year. I think there are too many variables to consider to truly answer your question. I think she would have sex every day or 3-5 times a week if I were willing, but I work in a very demanding field, long and very stressful hours where I am emotionally and physically exhausted, plus we have our own marital issues at the moment. All in all though, even from the start, we have sex once a month probably, and that's mostly due to me and lack of desire.
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Old 5th June 2011, 1:39 PM   #59
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Married 10 years we were married in our 20's. We have sex about once per month if lucky. She has this odd disinterest in sex in general. Won't talk about it or anything. Gets frustrating.
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Old 17th June 2011, 4:21 PM   #60
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Married at 20 and have been married 13 years. We have no per say number but we make sure to keep each other satisfied We do have a teen and a 7 year old in the house we just lock the bedroom door. We've never been caught and they've never mentioned hearing us but whether they have or not I don't know. I walked in on my parents once and while it was awkward it did no long term damage so I'm not too worried about if they hear a voice.

We are also quite affectionate as we lay on the couch together every night and they constantly see my husband come up and hug and kiss me while I'm cooking or me greet him with a kiss when he arrives home.

We also play around a good bit with tickling and stuff which I can make noises with because quite frankly I hate being tickled, hence the reason husband does it. So I'm sure even if they did hear something they would think we were playing around or that my husband was happily aggravating me!

We've had our marital problems and came very close to divorce but 2 things remained strong and I firmly believe it is what helped us through and will continue to do so. #1 we are each others true BEST friend. With that even when our marriage was rocky we still communicated really well and worked our way through on the friendship alone! #2 we make sure each other is emotionally and physically satisfied. There may be times I would rather head to bed but if my husband is really in the mood I'm going to fulfill his needs or give him a d@%$ good rain check!! Same goes for him with me.

And afternoon showers and weekend mornings are definitely well received on both our ends!
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