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Old 23rd April 2012, 9:59 PM   #271
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I'm the minority, but I'm not exaggerating

we were married when we were 25 & 26. frequency was several times a week. I had a 20 yr career in the Navy, so 6 months of no contact was part of the deal. I stopped deploying after 10 yrs, and frequency declined steadily. I'm now 44, and we haven't had any intimate contact of any sort in at least five years, may be as long as six. I know in the 2002-2006 time frame there were at least 2 times we went over 365 days, and at least once where we went longer than a calendar year. we are still married, but only in the legal sense. I don't think anyone would call what we ahve a marriage, more like a civil domestic partnership for the purpose of raising children.
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Old 9th May 2012, 12:58 PM   #272
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So, my questions for the married are:

-How old were you when you got married, and how old are you now?
-How long have you been married?
-How often do you have sex now, and how often were you having sex when you were married?
- I got married for the second time at age 34, and am still 34
- married for 8 months
- have sex at least once every day, except for when I'm in my period or am not feeling good, or when he is working out of town

- Before this, I got married for the first time at age 23 (I was a virgin)
- was married for almost 5 years
- had sex most everyday (except for when he was gone), including on my period and sometimes when I was not feeling good some of my experiences were unpleasant.
- 6 years passed before I got married again, to a wonderful man who loves me and who is very sensitive to how I am feeling, for which I am grateful!
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Old 28th May 2012, 3:19 PM   #273
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married at age 22 now 28 and wishing for a divorce because we have sex maybe once every 6 months and at one point went 3 years without any sex. Just not sure how to end it because of kids.
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Old 28th May 2012, 5:02 PM   #274
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we were married when we were 25 & 26. frequency was several times a week. I had a 20 yr career in the Navy, so 6 months of no contact was part of the deal. I stopped deploying after 10 yrs, and frequency declined steadily. I'm now 44, and we haven't had any intimate contact of any sort in at least five years, may be as long as six. I know in the 2002-2006 time frame there were at least 2 times we went over 365 days, and at least once where we went longer than a calendar year. we are still married, but only in the legal sense. I don't think anyone would call what we ahve a marriage, more like a civil domestic partnership for the purpose of raising children.
Is there a reason you haven't had a sit down discussion about this? Seems awfully strange to just grow apart without someone protesting a lack of intimacy.
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Old 23rd July 2012, 4:27 PM   #275
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Bumping to keep from "expiring." Interesting topic.
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Old 23rd July 2012, 5:05 PM   #276
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25 now, been together 3 years.

When we first got married. Several times a night.

Now, probably 3 or 4 times a week, but it varies. This doesn't include, ahem, other things (my husband lovingly refers to it as a "beej" LOL), when we're pressed for time on the days we don't have sex.

We've had dry spells for a few days at a time here and there, if one of us is stressed, or we're especially tired. It's definitely less than it used to be, but I'm not unhappy about that. Several times a night was getting to be physically uncomfortable for me. lol.
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Old 23rd July 2012, 6:24 PM   #277
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I'm 38 and my wife is 36. We've been together for 12 years, married for 10, with three kids. When we were first together, and for many, many years, we would have lots of sex. And not just run of the mill sex. Crazy sex that had us saying, "omg I can't believe we did that!". I don't remember exactly what the frequency was (it's been a while) but I would say we probably averaged 2-3 times a day for the first few years and then down to once a day (averaged over a week) after the 5th year or so. 5 years ago, when our last daughter was born, things started to decline. Not just in frequency but in "intensity". We still had great sex, but it was down to a point where it was just a few times a week and it seemed like I had to initiate it almost all of the time whereas before I would say it was pretty evenly initiated or she actually initiated most of the sex. We sat down and really talked about what was going on...some changes were made, combined with some other well timed factors and now our sex life is better than ever. Better than when we were first together. And not by a little. By a LOT. This probably started almost a year ago and it hasn't let up. Our frequency is back to where it was in the beginning (2-3 times a day) but the intensity, duration (my stamina has improved considerably), and pleasure we both get has increased ten fold. We are definitely proof that sex doesn't have to decline as the years go by.
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