wife upset me

[dan_o_man]

My wife is taking a painting art class at a local community college. They had a session on painting nudes, which she volunteered to pose for. I didn’t know this until I picked her up from class. I was stunned and quite upset to see her in the classroom totally naked. I couldn’t believe she would take her cloths off in front of a room full of men as well as women.

 

When I asked her why she would do such a thing, she says that someone had to pose, and the teacher said he’d like it if she were the one. I bet he liked that. My wife claims it’s no big deal and that it’s just art, nothing lewd. She said it was just a one-time thing and she wouldn’t pose again.

 

Am I over reacting? It’s been over a week now, but it still bothers me to think of all those guys seeing my wife naked. It also bothers me to think that she had no problems taking her cloths off in front of these guys. I just wish she be like everyone else who manages to keep their cloths on in school. Am I being too jealous, or possessive?

[Guilty&Lost]

I can see the side of you the spouse and of her the model. To some people this would not seem like a bad thing. This obviously was not something your wife found a problem with. Your wife may just be open to more things than you.

 

Then again she should have discussed this with you before she went though with it. If confronted with this before hand you may have reacted differently. She could have explained this to a calmer person instead of someone shocked and in the dark.

 

I do not see anything wrong with her poseing nude as long as it was for the purpose of art and nothing more. You should be glade your wife is happy with her body ,so many women are not. A confident woman is normally going to be a better partner, not needing constant reassuerance.

 

 

You should enjoy the fact your wife is beautiful and she chooses to be with you. In the future maybe she could give you a heads up on these things so you will have time to get used to the idea.

[katybird]

It's not a big deal. My father directs a class that uses nude models and it doesn't phase my mom a bit. Trust me - it would totally ick me out to find my dad's secret porn stash, but I have visted my father at the studio while the model is there, on the dias, nude. I've also seen his paintings. I'm sure my father, being a man, thinks "hmmmm... nice tits." But, he's a professional artist.

 

I have posed for my fathers portrait classes, which is not nude, and I would certainly feel weird being nude in front of my own father. There is clearly a line there, somewhere. OTOH, I would not be ashamed to tell my father that I had posed nude for an art class somewhere.

 

Yes, men have looked at your wife and thought "hmmm... nice tits." But, they probably do that when she has her clothes on, anyway. They do NOT think of her as more sexy or available just beause they've seen her nude.

[Clancy]

I think it depends on the kind of relationship you've had with your wife and the knowledge you have had of her previous behaviour. If you knew she was super easygoing when it comes to nudity (like going around the house in the nude, topless bathing in public etc.) then I wouldn't worry about it. I mean if she was like Dharma on TV I think you'd be expecting just about anything to happen.

 

But if she was normally a reserved person or fairly conservative and this happenned out of the blue and out of character then I'd wonder what was happenning inside her head and would want to talk things over with her to see how far she might think of going one day. I mean what if she's in a class on women's studies one day and the instructor asks for a volunteer to demonstrate masturbation in class a la Betty Frieden, would she think THAT was cool too.

 

I know how you feel because my wife is the type that just might do what your wife did. And like you I think I'd have a hard time with it. I don't know if my words help at all but there they are anyway.