Top reasons for sexless marriages

[blair08]

OK...Yeah, I got it off the internet. Does it apply to everyone? NO, every marriage is different. This is basically just saying what some top reasons could be. It does not mean necssarily that it applies to your marriage, although some maybe be able to relate. These reasons are actually based on a book about men and why they might not want to have sex much. Although it could apply to women as well.

 

10. Depression-

Most depressed people also suffer a loss of desire. Men may use masturbation or affairs as tranquilizers. Now who's sad? (Hint: the wife!) Medication may lift the fog, but they can also diminish passion and orgasms. There's no pharmaceutical side affects to talk-therapy, and your doctor can help you find the right product or dosage.

 

9. Alcohol,Drugs-

Alcohol and certain drugs can make some people feel more comfortable with all things sex. But too much is sloppy -- and rarely leads to great passion. Heavy drinking can lead to ED, and drug abuse can also discourage an erection. Chronic poor lifestyle choices are best dealt with by a mental health professional.

 

8. He/She might be gay-

t's understandable that a woman might suspect her passionless man isn't interested because he prefers men. In some ways, a 'Brokeback Marriage' can be a great relief. However, most surveys suggest just three to six percent of the U.S. male population is homosexual. Best to broach this subject outside the bedroom in a non-judgemental way.

 

7. Silent Seething-

Almost nothing kills intimacy better than rage. Withholding touch, warmth, and sex can become a form of punishment. Oftentimes, this is because one spouse views sex as one of the few things within his or her control. The only way to eliminate hostility is to talk about the root of the anger. Consider marriage counseling.

 

6. Your Bedroom-

Too many couples have an open door policy for the master bedroom -- and it's the glow of the TV, rather than the afterglow of sex, that relaxes after a busy day. Set up privacy rules and keep distractions such as clutter andcomputers to a minimum. Enhance the atmosphere of your bedroom with soft lighting, art, and music.

 

5. Weight Gain-

Your weight affects your sexuality -- not to mention your partner's waistline's impact on yours. Modest gain won't dull the fire, but it's a different story if you or your spouse have packed on 30 or more pounds. The good news: Dropping 12 percent of your body weight over two years boosts sexual desire.

 

4. ED-

Studies chart a decline in male sexual functioning after age 40. What happens? Stress, anxiety, and depression, not to mention vascular disease, high cholesterol and diabetes. Viagra and Cialis may work on blood flow, but the real solution lies in stimulating his libido.

 

3. The Kids-

Sometimes passion slips after the kids. Far more serious is when he no longer views his wife with passion -- or she herself feels asexual. Be realistic: It's never going to be what it was in the first years. Enjoy the partner you have today.

 

2. Online Porn-

Some people consider online porn to be harmless 'supplemental sex.' Problem is, though, it can turn into a form of virtual infidelity, where the porn-distracted spouse subverts his desire into fantasies and prevents the couple from having an emotionally complete and connected relationship. Talk it out. In person.

 

1. Sex=Yawn-

The most frequent reason couples are uncoupling is 'unadventurous' sex. That can mean anything from saying no to role play to refusing to leave the lights on. You don't have to memorize the Kama Sutra. What's missing from mostmarriages is enthusiasm and novelty.

[Lizzie60]

10. Depression-

 

I heard that medication can lower the libido.. in my case, it did the opposite.. I went 'nuts'..

 

9. Alcohol,Drugs-

 

Not just for the person who drink but for the partner as well.. I refused to have sex with a drunk... eewwwwww ...it grosses me out..

 

8. He/She might be gay-

 

That's always a possibility.. I know 2 couples who divorced.. and the male partners were gay...

 

7. Silent Seething-

 

That's normal IMO... it happens in all couples... there is always highs and lows.. as long as they don't last for years...

 

6. Your Bedroom-

 

TV and lack or 'romantism'.. IMO the bedroom has to be clutter-free.. romantic.. candle light.. clean, fresh sheets that smell good... I never had a TV in my bedroom..

 

5. Weight Gain-

 

Unfortunately.. that's a huge 'cause' for sexless relationship.. people gain weight and stop to care about their appearance... the good thing about being single is that the appearance always remain a priority..

 

 

4. ED-

 

The good thing about being a female.. it's always 'opened'... no effort is needed... I feel sorry for guys with ED... but then.. IMO it could be because they don't take good care of themselves.. I would say that most of the time, it's their fault.. (alcohol, weight, etc.)

 

3. The Kids-

 

We all know that kids change our life.. but it's not an excuse..

The couple must make time for their intimate life.. but unfortunately, it's a mistake a lot of couple make..

 

2. Online Porn-

 

Another 'male' problem.. but the same reasons for being sexless may apply here..

 

1. Sex=Yawn-

 

I agree.. this has to be the reason no. 1.. boring, robotic sex...

no more teasing.. no more foreplay.. that's the main problem.. IMO.

 

I would add another reason:

 

the 'falling out of love' reason... when you marry in your early 20's, it doesn't make sense to think that you will love your partner all your life.. for better and for worse.. total nonsense.. IMO

[Scrivdog]

That's interesting. I've been mulling over a theory of my own. I don't know if it has legs or not - so I figured I'd test it against some argumentative people. I can think of no better place than LS. Here goes:

 

Women have been given the message by society that their sexual availability is something precious that defines them in some way. For example, a woman who has too many sexual partners is considered a "slut" - even if this isn't said out loud. The implication is that restricting her sexual experiences makes her somehow "virtuous". You don't have to go too far to hear that she needs to save herself for marriage and that she should only share this with a special someone she marries. Again, the implication is that she posesses something inherently valuable that get spoiled and cheapened by "giving it away" for free.

 

Men have no equivalent virtue to give up or sully. They can have many sexual partners and even when the pious may condemn it - there is always an underlying admiration of his "manliness". Therefore his sexuality is already considered cheap and almost a corrupting agent in itself. A woman who sleeps with a guy like this will be coinsidered a slut or at best a poor duped female.

 

The result is that women, once married, feel like they no longer have this "virtue" to lord over their husband. The more the husband wants sex, the more her sexuality becomes cheapened in her mind. Withholding it andf making her husband hanker for it all the time without giving in restores her sense of her sexuality being a precious diamond it once was. Of course most husbands don't ever see her sexuality like this - so they figure if she doesn't want sex with him anymore then he's somehow failed as a man. He feels like he may no longer have what it takes to get his wife (or any other woman) to give up this precious gift for him.

 

A guy who feels diminished as a sexual being will far more easily succumb to infidelity even if it's to reassure himself that he's still "ok". Men think about sex all the time, all day. Nothing bring fear to a guy than to think he can never interest a woman again. A sexless marriage is psychologically devastating to a degree that most women can't even fathom. They calm down immensley once they know that their wives find them sexy and wants them.

Edited February 29, 2008 by Scrivdog

[blind_otter]

 

A guy who feels diminished as a sexual being will far more easily succumb to infidelity even if it's to reassure himself that he's still "ok". Men think about sex all the time, all day. Nothing bring fear to a guy than to think he can never interest a woman again. A sexless marriage is psychologically devastating to a degree that most women can't even fathom. They calm down immensley once they know that their wives find them sexy and wants them.

 

I think this may be true for older generations but less so for younger people because the whole stigma of being a "slut" has started to ebb. There are still a lot of sexually conservative people, to be sure, but the ratios are much different now than they were even 20 years ago....

[Lizzie60]

I think this may be true for older generations but less so for younger people because the whole stigma of being a "slut" has started to ebb. There are still a lot of sexually conservative people, to be sure, but the ratios are much different now than they were even 20 years ago....

 

I disagree.. I think this whole 'stigma of being a slut' is still very much alive.. girls will call other girls 'sluts'.. judging them only by the way they dress..

[blind_otter]

I disagree.. I think this whole 'stigma of being a slut' is still very much alive.. girls will call other girls 'sluts'.. judging them only by the way they dress..

 

not in my circle of friends. We actually joke and call each other "slut" all the time. And TBH, I think you and I have a different experience because there is an age difference. I was talking about my contemporaries.

[Lizzie60]

That's interesting. I've been mulling over a theory of my own. I don't know if it has legs or not - so I figured I'd test it against some argumentative people. I can think of no better place than LS. Here goes:

 

Women have been given the message by society that their sexual availability is something precious that defines them in some way. For example, a woman who has too many sexual partners is considered a "slut" - even if this isn't said out loud. The implication is that restricting her sexual experiences makes her somehow "virtuous". You don't have to go too far to hear that she needs to save herself for marriage and that she should only share this with a special someone she marries. Again, the implication is that she posesses something inherently valuable that get spoiled and cheapened by "giving it away" for free.

 

Men have no equivalent virtue to give up or sully. They can have many sexual partners and even when the pious may condemn it - there is always an underlying admiration of his "manliness". Therefore his sexuality is already considered cheap and almost a corrupting agent in itself. A woman who sleeps with a guy like this will be coinsidered a slut or at best a poor duped female.

 

The result is that women, once married, feel like they no longer have this "virtue" to lord over their husband. The more the husband wants sex, the more her sexuality becomes cheapened in her mind. Withholding it andf making her husband hanker for it all the time without giving in restores her sense of her sexuality being a precious diamond it once was. Of course most husbands don't ever see her sexuality like this - so they figure if she doesn't want sex with him anymore then he's somehow failed as a man. He feels like he may no longer have what it takes to get his wife (or any other woman) to give up this precious gift for him.

 

A guy who feels diminished as a sexual being will far more easily succumb to infidelity even if it's to reassure himself that he's still "ok". Men think about sex all the time, all day. Nothing bring fear to a guy than to think he can never interest a woman again. A sexless marriage is psychologically devastating to a degree that most women can't even fathom. They calm down immensley once they know that their wives find them sexy and wants them.

 

 

This is a very interesting theory.. I agree that there is a double standard about sexually active men and women; men are seen like 'hunks' and women as 'sluts' sooo unfair..

 

But hopefully this will change and in a few centuries it will not be seen as such..

 

But for your second statement (bold) I am not sure about this one.. I think this would be the case for extremely religious/old-fashioned women.. not the liberated women.. IMO...

 

I think women get tired of sex.. period.. it become the 'least priority' on their list.. the kids/family becoming the top priority..

[Lizzie60]

not in my circle of friends. We actually joke and call each other "slut" all the time. And TBH, I think you and I have a different experience because there is an age difference. I was talking about my contemporaries.

 

No..no. I was talking about younger girls.. the mean girls.. from what I see it's very much alive... still sad..

[blair08]

A guy who feels diminished as a sexual being will far more easily succumb to infidelity even if its to reassure himself he's still"ok".

 

I agree and see your point, but what about men who do get it alot and still go out and cheat? I have known men who are with not only beautiful women on the outside, but with a beautiful mind, good heart etc, who will do anything sexually with their man, but they still go out and cheat.

[angie2443]

I would like something to number 7. Sometimes withholding sex isn't just about punishment, but about not becomming vulnerable to someone who has just hurt you.

 

Sometimes when one spouse does something hurtful, says something hurtful, even if it's disguised as a joke, then the other spouse might avoid sex with them because they are avoiding opening up to someone who can hurt them. I agree that talking about the problems is essential if the couple wants to save the marriage. Still, sometimes, the spouse that is doing the hurtful behavior, doesn't want to stop because they are getting some sort of reward for doing that behavior.

[Scrivdog]

A guy who feels diminished as a sexual being will far more easily succumb to infidelity even if its to reassure himself he's still"ok".

 

I agree and see your point, but what about men who do get it alot and still go out and cheat? I have known men who are with not only beautiful women on the outside, but with a beautiful mind, good heart etc, who will do anything sexually with their man, but they still go out and cheat.

 

I agree that there are guys like that out there. I don't know why they do it really other than compulsion. Probably nothing much the wife can do about that. I wasn't addressing them.

 

That being said, your perception of his wife from the outside has no bearing on what she's like in the bedroom.

[blair08]

I agree that there are guys like that out there. I don't know why they do it really other than compulsion. Probably nothing much the wife can do about that. I wasn't addressing them.

 

That being said, your perception of his wife from the outside has no bearing on what she's like in the bedroom.

 

 

True, nothing worse than a hot looking woman, who is sweet, has a good heart and mind, and no matter how often she does it with her man, she very well could be crap in bed.

[JackJack]

A guy who feels diminished as a sexual being will far more easily succumb to infidelity even if its to reassure himself he's still"ok".

 

I agree and see your point, but what about men who do get it alot and still go out and cheat? I have known men who are with not only beautiful women on the outside, but with a beautiful mind, good heart etc, who will do anything sexually with their man, but they still go out and cheat.

 

Because IMO, infidelity in a selfish act, period. Some people (men and women) don't care how good looking their spouse is, how nice, how helpful, how emotional intuned they are, etc, etc.... what matters to them, is they are being guided by what is in their pants, and not much else matters to them.

 

Some people feel they are owed or entitled to all the d*cks and p*ssies they can have/get.

[Mustang Sally]

The result is that women, once married, feel like they no longer have this "virtue" to lord over their husband. The more the husband wants sex, the more her sexuality becomes cheapened in her mind. Withholding it andf making her husband hanker for it all the time without giving in restores her sense of her sexuality being a precious diamond it once was. Of course most husbands don't ever see her sexuality like this - so they figure if she doesn't want sex with him anymore then he's somehow failed as a man. He feels like he may no longer have what it takes to get his wife (or any other woman) to give up this precious gift for him.

Interesting theory, Scriv.

Thanks for sharing it.

 

I would have to say that, for me, as a woman, I can't really see this, above. It just wouldn't work that way for me. But - certainly, there may be women out there for whom this is the reason they withhold. Just sharing my opinion with you.

 

A guy who feels diminished as a sexual being will far more easily succumb to infidelity even if it's to reassure himself that he's still "ok". Men think about sex all the time, all day. Nothing bring fear to a guy than to think he can never interest a woman again. A sexless marriage is psychologically devastating to a degree that most women can't even fathom. They calm down immensley once they know that their wives find them sexy and wants them.

I certainly can see this as being true, too, for many men.

[Mustang Sally]

Whoops! Double post. Sorry.

[Tomcat33]

That's interesting. I've been mulling over a theory of my own. I don't know if it has legs or not - so I figured I'd test it against some argumentative people. I can think of no better place than LS. Here goes:

 

Women have been given the message by society that their sexual availability is something precious that defines them in some way. For example, a woman who has too many sexual partners is considered a "slut" - even if this isn't said out loud. The implication is that restricting her sexual experiences makes her somehow "virtuous". You don't have to go too far to hear that she needs to save herself for marriage and that she should only share this with a special someone she marries. Again, the implication is that she posesses something inherently valuable that get spoiled and cheapened by "giving it away" for free.

 

Men have no equivalent virtue to give up or sully. They can have many sexual partners and even when the pious may condemn it - there is always an underlying admiration of his "manliness". Therefore his sexuality is already considered cheap and almost a corrupting agent in itself. A woman who sleeps with a guy like this will be coinsidered a slut or at best a poor duped female.

 

The result is that women, once married, feel like they no longer have this "virtue" to lord over their husband. The more the husband wants sex, the more her sexuality becomes cheapened in her mind. Withholding it andf making her husband hanker for it all the time without giving in restores her sense of her sexuality being a precious diamond it once was. Of course most husbands don't ever see her sexuality like this - so they figure if she doesn't want sex with him anymore then he's somehow failed as a man. He feels like he may no longer have what it takes to get his wife (or any other woman) to give up this precious gift for him.

 

Hmmm very interesting theory and I prob won't be the best person to answer this because I personally have never gone with long periods of no sex in a relationship...but I think this is analizing it too deep and that would imply that the woman premeditates withholding sex for deep seated issues. I really don't think it is this contrived.

 

Plain and simple in my case any time I felt sexually placated with my man it has been because I didn't feel I was connecting with him emotionally, ie. after a fight that was still unresolved or just in those luls where everything is ok but you know it's really not, you are ok with each other but definitely not connecting as you should. So those are the times I have felt distant and therefore not in the mood to solve the undertone through sex. Things need to get solved through communication but sometimes a man feels like things can get solved through the act of sex alone, and it really feels like a chore to have to be intimate with someone you feel in the moment is somewhat like your "enemy". So a woman needs verbal communication to get close enough again to feel that attraction but a man needs sex to feel close and attracted again, so you have to meet half way.

 

A guy who feels diminished as a sexual being will far more easily succumb to infidelity even if it's to reassure himself that he's still "ok". Men think about sex all the time, all day. Nothing bring fear to a guy than to think he can never interest a woman again. A sexless marriage is psychologically devastating to a degree that most women can't even fathom. They calm down immensley once they know that their wives find them sexy and wants them.

 

 

I agree, neglect will lead a partner to feel like they are no longer loved. Of course you hit patches in relationships but I will never understand those couples, young ones at that, who say they have sex three times a year? what the heck is that!?!? I can't imagine being with someone and having sex once a month yuuuuck! Not to mention what kind of message does that convey?

[Mr. Lucky]

Sometimes when one spouse does something hurtful, says something hurtful, even if it's disguised as a joke, then the other spouse might avoid sex with them because they are avoiding opening up to someone who can hurt them. I agree that talking about the problems is essential if the couple wants to save the marriage. Still, sometimes, the spouse that is doing the hurtful behavior, doesn't want to stop because they are getting some sort of reward for doing that behavior.

While I understand what you're saying, the problem is that it's then only a small step for the "witholder" to use sex as a punishment for any behavior they don't like. Opens up a whole can of worms...

 

Mr. Lucky

[Lovelybird]

The reason for sexless marriage are they aren't connected in most basic level: emotional, spiritual connection

 

there are some issues they didn't resolve between them; or pride and selfish get in the way.

[mental_traveller]

OK...Yeah, I got it off the internet. Does it apply to everyone? NO, every marriage is different. This is basically just saying what some top reasons could be. It does not mean necssarily that it applies to your marriage, although some maybe be able to relate. These reasons are actually based on a book about men and why they might not want to have sex much. Although it could apply to women as well.

 

10. Depression-

Most depressed people also suffer a loss of desire. Men may use masturbation or affairs as tranquilizers. Now who's sad? (Hint: the wife!) Medication may lift the fog, but they can also diminish passion and orgasms. There's no pharmaceutical side affects to talk-therapy, and your doctor can help you find the right product or dosage.

 

9. Alcohol,Drugs-

Alcohol and certain drugs can make some people feel more comfortable with all things sex. But too much is sloppy -- and rarely leads to great passion. Heavy drinking can lead to ED, and drug abuse can also discourage an erection. Chronic poor lifestyle choices are best dealt with by a mental health professional.

 

8. He/She might be gay-

t's understandable that a woman might suspect her passionless man isn't interested because he prefers men. In some ways, a 'Brokeback Marriage' can be a great relief. However, most surveys suggest just three to six percent of the U.S. male population is homosexual. Best to broach this subject outside the bedroom in a non-judgemental way.

 

7. Silent Seething-

Almost nothing kills intimacy better than rage. Withholding touch, warmth, and sex can become a form of punishment. Oftentimes, this is because one spouse views sex as one of the few things within his or her control. The only way to eliminate hostility is to talk about the root of the anger. Consider marriage counseling.

 

6. Your Bedroom-

Too many couples have an open door policy for the master bedroom -- and it's the glow of the TV, rather than the afterglow of sex, that relaxes after a busy day. Set up privacy rules and keep distractions such as clutter andcomputers to a minimum. Enhance the atmosphere of your bedroom with soft lighting, art, and music.

 

5. Weight Gain-

Your weight affects your sexuality -- not to mention your partner's waistline's impact on yours. Modest gain won't dull the fire, but it's a different story if you or your spouse have packed on 30 or more pounds. The good news: Dropping 12 percent of your body weight over two years boosts sexual desire.

 

4. ED-

Studies chart a decline in male sexual functioning after age 40. What happens? Stress, anxiety, and depression, not to mention vascular disease, high cholesterol and diabetes. Viagra and Cialis may work on blood flow, but the real solution lies in stimulating his libido.

 

3. The Kids-

Sometimes passion slips after the kids. Far more serious is when he no longer views his wife with passion -- or she herself feels asexual. Be realistic: It's never going to be what it was in the first years. Enjoy the partner you have today.

 

2. Online Porn-

Some people consider online porn to be harmless 'supplemental sex.' Problem is, though, it can turn into a form of virtual infidelity, where the porn-distracted spouse subverts his desire into fantasies and prevents the couple from having an emotionally complete and connected relationship. Talk it out. In person.

 

1. Sex=Yawn-

The most frequent reason couples are uncoupling is 'unadventurous' sex. That can mean anything from saying no to role play to refusing to leave the lights on. You don't have to memorize the Kama Sutra. What's missing from mostmarriages is enthusiasm and novelty.

 

Top 10 reasons why the above list is BS!

 

10. Depression - what better way to lift the blues than a good sex marathon?

 

9. Alcohol, drugs - are you kidding me? Getting you and your date/partner drunk is the best way to get laid - people are more adventurous and flirty after a few glasses of wine.

 

8. Homosexuality - ok, I concede this one.

 

7. Silent seething - ever heard of angry sex, or make up sex?

 

6. Cluttered bedroom - true, the bedroom should be for 2 things only: sleep, and lurve.

 

5. Weight gain - real women have curves, not skin & bones.

 

4. ED - say hello to my viagra prescription.

 

3. The kids - should be tucked up in their bedrooms, not interfering with your marital bonking sessions.

 

2. Online porn - great way to get horny and want to bonk your wife's brains out.

 

1. Unadventurous sex - how about you try something other than the missionary position?

[mental_traveller]

the 'falling out of love' reason... when you marry in your early 20's, it doesn't make sense to think that you will love your partner all your life.. for better and for worse.. total nonsense.. IMO

 

Some couples do love their partner all their life, and have an active sex life well into old age.

[OpenBook]

Women have been given the message by society that their sexual availability is something precious that defines them in some way... the implication is that she posesses something inherently valuable that get spoiled and cheapened by "giving it away" for free...

 

The result is that women, once married, feel like they no longer have this "virtue" to lord over their husband. The more the husband wants sex, the more her sexuality becomes cheapened in her mind. Withholding it andf making her husband hanker for it all the time without giving in restores her sense of her sexuality being a precious diamond it once was. Of course most husbands don't ever see her sexuality like this - so they figure if she doesn't want sex with him anymore then he's somehow failed as a man. He feels like he may no longer have what it takes to get his wife (or any other woman) to give up this precious gift for him.

 

Well then how DOES the husband view her sexuality? If it's something he feels she "owes" him or that he's "entitled to," or he doesn't view it as something rare and precious, I can certainly see why she wouldn't want to give it up.

 

As far as the "message from society" thing, that's really a "man" thing. Men DO define a woman by her sexual availability. The more exclusive she is - even to the point of sleeping with NO ONE - the higher the value they place on her entire worth. I've played it both ways over the course of my life (slut vs. pristine), and I can unequivocally say that men treat me way better when I place a high (unobtainable) value on it myself.

 

Of course, that's not how I really feel. It would be GREAT to have the freedom to f*ck the brains out of whomever I fancy at any given time! But the price is too high. I wouldn't get any respect, cooperation, support, or anything else from the men surrounding me. And that's a hard way to live. (Pun intended.)

[OpenBook]

Top 10 reasons why the above list is BS!

 

10. Depression - what better way to lift the blues than a good sex marathon?

 

9. Alcohol, drugs - are you kidding me? Getting you and your date/partner drunk is the best way to get laid - people are more adventurous and flirty after a few glasses of wine.

 

8. Homosexuality - ok, I concede this one.

 

7. Silent seething - ever heard of angry sex, or make up sex?

 

6. Cluttered bedroom - true, the bedroom should be for 2 things only: sleep, and lurve.

 

5. Weight gain - real women have curves, not skin & bones.

 

4. ED - say hello to my viagra prescription.

 

3. The kids - should be tucked up in their bedrooms, not interfering with your marital bonking sessions.

 

2. Online porn - great way to get horny and want to bonk your wife's brains out.

 

1. Unadventurous sex - how about you try something other than the missionary position?

 

:D:D MT you totally crack me up!! Thanks for the giggles!

[RecordProducer]

The result is that women, once married, feel like they no longer have this "virtue" to lord over their husband. The more the husband wants sex, the more her sexuality becomes cheapened in her mind.

 

Men think about sex all the time, all day.

Scrivdog?

 

Bullsh*t! Women want sex very much and think about it all the time. Men also withhold sex and have low libidos like some women.

 

It makes me sick to listen to the same broken record about WOMEN not being interested in sex while I spent two years in a virtually sexless marriage.

[OWoman]

Bullsh*t! Women want sex very much and think about it all the time. Men also withhold sex and have low libidos like some women.

 

It makes me sick to listen to the same broken record about WOMEN not being interested in sex while I spent two years in a virtually sexless marriage.

 

 

Absolutely! SOME women are frigid cows, but normal women are as horny as any man, if not more.

 

SOME men low on sex either because they have low libidos or because they're using it as a too for manipulation, but normal men have healthy libidos and want sex almost often enough to satisfy their women.

 

That said, medication can impact on "normal" libidos. Antidepressants, blood pressure medication and the contraceptive pill are all famous for wrecking libidos, so anyone on any of that might hit a slump. But that's not normal and that shouldn't be taken as normal - that would be like thinking that because a woman with an epidural doesn't feel the pain of having her abdomen ripped open to have a baby pulled out, women don't feel pain.

[blair08]

Top 10 reasons why the above list is BS!

 

10. Depression - what better way to lift the blues than a good sex marathon?

 

9. Alcohol, drugs - are you kidding me? Getting you and your date/partner drunk is the best way to get laid - people are more adventurous and flirty after a few glasses of wine.

 

8. Homosexuality - ok, I concede this one.

 

7. Silent seething - ever heard of angry sex, or make up sex?

 

6. Cluttered bedroom - true, the bedroom should be for 2 things only: sleep, and lurve.

 

5. Weight gain - real women have curves, not skin & bones.

 

4. ED - say hello to my viagra prescription.

 

3. The kids - should be tucked up in their bedrooms, not interfering with your marital bonking sessions.

 

2. Online porn - great way to get horny and want to bonk your wife's brains out.

 

1. Unadventurous sex - how about you try something other than the missionary position?

 

LOL...hey, I didn't write it..it was written by a man for men. I just posted it. I also stated that some of those things might apply to people's situation and some may not. I did not say it was a 100% reason for why their are sexless marriages. I said there are some reasons here that could be.

 

Souns like your answers to the top ten are far more better. BUt hey people have to do what works best for them.