Optimus_Prime Posted May 22, 2007 Share Posted May 22, 2007 I post here on the regular but I feel more comfortable keeping things on the DL. Here's the scoop, my libido's on the slide and I have no idea why. I do have two jobs and the SO and I are going through a large transition right now, but I'm satisfied with about once every three weeks and I know my SO would rather more. I'm a male in my early 30's, I work out and eat healthy so I can't see my health being the problem. I have mentioned it to my SO in the past and she said there is nothing to worry about but still, sex is something that you don't mess with and I have been on the other end of the stick when I was younger, it isn't fair to her and I'd like to fix this before it gets more serious. I have tried some OTC medicinals to assist to some degree but that was short lived and the second time there was no change. Before I see a doctor, anyone have any ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted May 22, 2007 Share Posted May 22, 2007 sounds like stress could be causing your body to kick into a depressive state, which plays hell with your libido. Stress also could be zapping your "boy hormones" (androgen), which affects libido. best thing to do is talk it over with your doctor, who probably will initially advise you to find something to help alleviate that stress and get back to near normal conditions. Or he may prescribe medication to counteract the problem (anti-depressant, Viagra) or if he suspects a more serious underlying cause, do tests on your thyroid. But it sounds suspiciously like stress taking it's toll. meanwhile, keep in mind there are many different ways to be intimate with your gal that are entirely enjoyable. Grown-ups call it foreplay, but remember when you were in high school and you called it "heavy petting"? Still pretty exciting stuff for an old lady like me, though I often have to convince my husband of this, because he thinks fooling around will automatically lead to intercourse ... sometimes the excitement is in the chase, you know? So talk to your SO about this, about creative ways to love each other without necessarily having to go all the way. That may also take pressure off you to perform when your body realizes it's purely about sensual enjoyment. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Optimus_Prime Posted May 22, 2007 Author Share Posted May 22, 2007 Sounds like a plan, however I wanted to avoid the doctor. My father's a hypochondriac and I would hate to have my GP think I'm the same way. I'm only 31, doesn't viagra sound a little harsh, I expect this sort of thing to happen sometime in my life, but not so young. As for my jobs, I'm in the middle of switching as I work quite a few hours in a week, but the thing is that I have actualyl backed off my hours over the past year. Depression? I'm actually a very outgoing person who bounces off the walls (many of my peers and friends think I may have ADD to tell the truth). Your advice seems very sound and I will make an appointment. Thanks again. Link to post Share on other sites
Enema Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 I've always had a low libido. (am now 26) Went to the doctor, had a blood test and found my testosterone was in the low end of the range. (I was 11 and the acceptable range is 10-40) Doctor perscribed me some testosterone patches and hey presto, I feel normal w/ sex 3 times a week now. There are a multitude of reasons your hormones can change, I suggest getting checked out as it can be anything from stress as mentioned to cancer! Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 I think our bodies send us messages which we ignore at our own peril. Yours seems to be telling you that something is missing or broken in your life. I'd be tempted to talk to a therapist and participate in some IC before I'd go to an MD. "Two jobs" and a "large transition" can be a lot to deal with... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Author Optimus_Prime Posted May 24, 2007 Author Share Posted May 24, 2007 I've always had a low libido. (am now 26) Went to the doctor, had a blood test and found my testosterone was in the low end of the range. (I was 11 and the acceptable range is 10-40) Doctor perscribed me some testosterone patches and hey presto, I feel normal w/ sex 3 times a week now. There are a multitude of reasons your hormones can change, I suggest getting checked out as it can be anything from stress as mentioned to cancer! Thanks for the responses, I appreciate them:) Cancer?? Really!! This brings this whole thing to a completely new level!! How can cancer affect libido?? I don't feel any pain or being weaker over the last few months/years. Heck, my workouts are actually going better than ever. The though had crossed my mind that I may be overtraining as that can have a negative effect on the body, but I actually take more time off from working out than I should (ie. work out three weeks, take on off) so I don't think it's that. Cancer, man, what do you say to that? Not saying your wrong, Cancer can come up in the weirdest places, I just never thought it possible!! Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted May 24, 2007 Share Posted May 24, 2007 Always check with your MD first. We're talking simple blood tests and exam of the...er... affected area. No biggie. You aren't using any kind of dietary supplements, are you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Optimus_Prime Posted May 24, 2007 Author Share Posted May 24, 2007 Always check with your MD first. We're talking simple blood tests and exam of the...er... affected area. No biggie. You aren't using any kind of dietary supplements, are you? Whey Protein and Glutamine for my workouts - 4X per week Glucosamine for my joints, 4 caps per day 5x a week Selenium for my prostate, 2 caps a day 5x a week (prevention, not that I have a real problem) A Jamisom Multivitamin 5x per week. The only other medical condition that i have is that I see a specialist once year to check on my Kidney. There is blood present in my urine (not that the naked eye can see it) and that is somewhat of a concern for my GP. This isn't a new 'condition', I have had it for the last 4 years, even before my SO. Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 Take your supplements (in their original containers) as well any other medication you've been using to your doctor's appointment with you when you go. I'm no expert, but just based on what I've read here and there, I think you'll do well to monitor your kidney closely while you're taking the selenium. The first step in decreased male libido is getting your testosterone level run. Don't avoid the doc just because your Dad's a 'frequent flyer'. Link to post Share on other sites
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