SouthernPearl27 Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 Hi. I'm married and have been for over 8 years. Me and my husband are happily married with children(3). Just recently-maybe the past two months tho my husband started making comments about himself that just were out of the norm. All of them have been negatives. Like hes been feeling like he isn't enough for me sexually-that he doesn't please me. He seems to be stuck on this "his penis isn't big enough"-which is fricking crazy-its 10inches when its to its happiest. And that is really too much for me=but I manage. I can't tell him enough that I'm satisfied. I will admit that after we have sex that I masterbate sometimes but I'm just greedy and this happens once in a while not always and still then I'm wanting him to 'help me with it' and hold me. We had a long talk today about this that really didn't get no where except that I saw how much of a true issue this is for him. He made comments like he notices how I look at other men and that its normal for me to notice men, that I wasn't blind but that he 'knows' I'm attracted to younger men who are more to my age. WTF!! I'm 27 and hes 32?!? And I ain't looking at nobody. I'm so so satisfied with what I have. He just kept saying he feels old and worn out. His brother spent the night last night and we were all sitting together in the livingroom talking, feeling nice with a little bud and MJG in us and everything was cool to me. My husband left the room for a minute-came back. Well today he was saying when he came back in the room it was like nobody noticed he had ever left. He said that when I'm around other people I just seem to light up and that he doesn't do that to me. I'm a housewife-I hardly go anywhere but for the YMCA and to my family everynow and then. He works-plays basketball at the YMCA-we go together, and stays at home otherwise. Both of us are real homebodys. I have no idea why he is having these feelings all of a sudden. He's never been a guy to be stuck in the mirror. Hes always been on the thin end and I know that it was something he didn't like about himself but truth be told everybody has some kinda issue about themselves they wish they could change. Does this sound like a midlife crisis? If I can get some advise or opinions on whats going on, something, I'd appreciate it. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 If this is mid-life crisis then you'd better have a good burial plan because he'll be dead at age 64. My suggestion is to have him have a complete physical and also be screened for depression. It sounds like that may be the problem. It happens at any age and it's fixable! I doubt that it's you. It sound like it's him. Link to post Share on other sites
luvstarved Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 Well, it is good to continue to reassure him but sometimes people will do this sort of thing as either a reflection of their OWN feelings (like, he is not satisfied so he fears/assumes you are not satisfied and tries to call you on it) or out of general depression or insecurity. Just curious, do you observe him noticing other women? Has there been any change in your sexual relationship other than him stating this feeling of inadequacy? Maybe he just saw some guy with a huge penis at the gym? Who knows? I agree with other poster though, if he is having a mid life crisis at 32, then you're in for a long bout of it... Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SouthernPearl27 Posted March 31, 2007 Author Share Posted March 31, 2007 Thank you for replying. That was what i was telling him. I asked him to give me one example of me 'looking at some guy' and he couldn't even give me one. He even said that it was just me being me which sounded like a lame excuse and a way to throw the attention off himself and put it back on me. I knew that this was his problem i was just hoping I'd get the magic advise where I could just do it for him and make it all better. Theres no way that he would talk to someone about himself-its like pulling teeth to get him talking about his feelings to me. Maybe it'll blow over. I'm hoping. Thank you again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SouthernPearl27 Posted March 31, 2007 Author Share Posted March 31, 2007 Luvstarved, Hi. As far as looking at women-I haven't seen none of that. I even asked him was he cheating on me-not that I believed he was I just know the signs and how hes been acting I just threw it out there to see what I'd find. and I dont think thats the problem. He really is an honest man and over all the years weve been married I've never had to doubt him on a thing. But when you said that about him seeing a guys dingie at the gym it reminded me of somethin. I use to love watching porn. We met when I was 18 sooo alot a young folks like to watch porn. old folks too. But anyway I had a verosous appetite for it. Over the years, and the babys its slowed down to the point that I might watch a one every two months. And I did like 2 days ago. And he reminded me about it today,..talking about how big the guys dick was on it. Hes been making comments that its gotten smaller over the years and I'm like huh? haha but I got pictures to prove aint nuthin changed. I ask him is it me? I mean i have had 3 kids. Is it just not good to him and hes always quick to say no. And not to toot my own horn but I feel pretty confident that I'm still dropin it like its hot. Do you think all a this could stem from some long dingdongs on dvd. And I'm talking about 18 inches--NOW in reality who the hell wants to be anywhere close to an 18 inch penis. Just to let you know it wasn't the only thing i looked out but that seems to be all he saw. Link to post Share on other sites
portableversion Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 this sounds like a troll post, but in the even it's not....he's comparing himself to the hung studs in the porns you watch, and it's making him insecure. SO layoff the porn. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 i've seen alot of good stuff in my lifetime - but NEVER an 18 inch dick... troll????? Link to post Share on other sites
Mustang Sally Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 i've seen alot of good stuff in my lifetime - but NEVER an 18 inch dick... At least not on a human..... Link to post Share on other sites
TYASAFAHICSI Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 At least not on a human..... And coming from MUSTANG Sally, I would say that is the horses mouth! LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Author SouthernPearl27 Posted April 3, 2007 Author Share Posted April 3, 2007 Wow, I was called a troll. Is this how ya'll welcome all your newcomers? That hurt my feelings. I'm not used to being called a lier and I was up here with the belief that maybe I would be getting some advice from people who really wanted to help. For the first two people, I appreciate your advise and because of how hes been feeling I've been extra sensitive towards him and over the weekend hes slowly came outta his mood. I think that the added issues of our car breaking down and other stressfull things mighta just put a toll on him. But hes doing good now. For those who called me a troll=it had been months since I'd seen the 18inchers but being that ya'll called me a lier I found them just so you can eat your words. Theyre on pornotube.com under search word "monstercock". The actual site is called longcockbrothas.com I can't believe I was called a troll. Was my question so out of the norm? Link to post Share on other sites
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