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why do men that are married or in a serious relationship go to strip clubs. I simply don't get it.

 

This is the situation. My partner plays in a cricket team who recently won their grand final. As a celebration they are getting together as a group and having a bbq and a few drinks. All good. It now turns out that they are having the BBQ, then heading into town to a pub and then going on to a strip club. All of them are married with kids, my partner and I are not married nor have any kids, and there is one that is under age as well but they keep joking that it is his initiation! The captain of the team is also a sleaze bag from some of the things I have heard about him and it is him organising the night.

 

I have stated to my partner how I feel about it but he says I have nothing to worry about. I am not worried per se but the thought of him with a bunch of drunken blokes in a strip club quite frankly makes me feel quite ill. If it is just about mixing with the guys away from the game then am I wrong asking him to not go to the club but to do all the rest. I haven't asked him not to go I have just told him how I feel about it.

 

I can sort of understand single guys going to a strip club, hell I've even been along to one myself with a whole group of people, they were all single guys mind you. A girlfriend of mine even stripped for a while.

 

I don't really have a problem with strippers or strip clubs, I have a problem with married men with kids and partnered men going. I have issues with a bucks/stag night winding up at a strip club or having strippers as their last final step before marriage. Is it that much of a sacrifice that it has to be done before getting married etc.

 

Thoughts anyone.

 

Guys especially I would like your take on it and girls how would you feel about your partner going to a strip club.

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Salicious Crumb
why do men that are married or in a serious relationship go to strip clubs. I simply don't get it.

 

Me neither, and I'm a man.

 

Guys especially I would like your take on it and girls how would you feel about your partner going to a strip club.

 

I don't go to them, and I would lock my wife out of the house if I found out she was at one. I keep myself fit...at 38 I still have the flat stomach and workout daily. If I'm not good enough for her to feel the need to go to a strip club...then she can leave and go find herself a stripper.

 

I think it is damn disrespectful whether it be a man or woman that goes to a strip club against their partner's wishes.

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why do men that are married or in a serious relationship go to strip clubs. I simply don't get it.

 

Thoughts anyone.

 

Guys especially I would like your take on it and girls how would you feel about your partner going to a strip club.

 

I don't get it either but we all have our own tastes. Every relationship is different. Some relationships have no problem with the guy going to a strip club and for some it is a problem. That is where communication needs to take place and some sort of compromise needs to happen.

 

I have mentioned it before on here but I have no desire to go to any strip clubs but my SO has never been to one and she has said before that if an opportunity ever came up, then she would like for us to go just to see what its like.

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I don't get it either. My boyfriend would go before he met me and he said really bad things about the strippers.

 

I just told him you were there with them. So if they are that sleazy then you are too. They are only sleazy beacus of men like you.

 

He wanted to go to one and I told him fine go. I will go out to a bar and flirt with men and get very physical with them, I know you know what I mean. You would probably want to be with me and them rather than a strip club. More action or should I say "mileage" But you can't because I don't want you to go with me and see what I do.

 

And he told me I was insecure.

 

I'm not insecure and that is what he should not have said to me. I then made him quite aware of the fact that I'm hot and a great catch, any man would be lucky to be with me. I only chose the good men.

 

much more was said in this long conversation.

 

to the end, he did not go because he did not want an open relationship.

 

I don't know why he would want to go to a strip club when he is with his partner in life.

 

I don't blame the strippers, they provide sex, and entertainment for single guys. it's the guy who walks in the strip club I blame. Sleazy atmosphere and sleazy people and if you walk in you are one.

 

I never dated a man who found strip clubs entertaining. I would date a higher class of men with morals.

 

I would be upset if he went and we would probably break up because I don't want to be with a man who wants to hang around naked girls and get ti -- in your face. Very low class in my opinion.

 

If he still wants to go ask him if he would feel differently about you if you wanted a man's c--- in your face.

I'm sure he will say Yes, he would feel differently about you

tell him that is the same way I feel about you wanting strippers on your lap

tell him it would just change you opinion of him

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Salicious, you are da bomb, and a real man to boot bud. Good for you for having such a high self esteem.

 

OP, I would not tolerate my husband going to a strip club, ESPECIALLY if I wasn't allowed to come along. But honestly, the idea of strip clubs, with the women that are terrible single moms there all drug addicted, abused alcoholics...the thought really bothers me that anyone could support it. Of course there are exceptions to that rule, but it's the exceptions that prove that a rule exist.

 

If it bothers you so, you need to let your boyfriend know that it bothers you and be precise as to the extent that it does. If he tells you there's nothing to worry about, tell him there is, and that is that it bothers you that your feelings would be insignificant compared to him being with his buddies at a function that you disagree with.

 

There are plenty of men that would enjoy the time going to the bbq and pub and bring their girlfriends along. There are plenty of men that would excuse themselves and go home to their loved ones and show them they respect their feelings by not going to the strip club. Be as honest and as frank as you can possibly be with your beau. That's what is going to help you establish a trusting relationship with him that could last a lifetime if you work it right.

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Guys especially I would like your take on it and girls how would you feel about your partner going to a strip club.

 

I couldn't care less if it was a once in a great while thing that he was totally open about. If it was habitual or on the sly, then I'd be concerned and we'd have some heart to heart talks about what was going on.

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Why would married couple go to a strip club? Why would they choose to see naked men or women? why on earth are they married for? That doesn't seem appropriate and it is a breeding ground for cheating, jealousy and lack of trust.

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i don't get it either. i hate strips clubs, i have been dragged to a more than few in my life time and every single time i have gone the place reeks of a certain desperation on par only with that of degenerate gamblers waiting between races at the dog track.

 

i don't understand how the other men there can't see just how pathetic it is. don't get me wrong, i love the sight of naked female flesh as much as the next guy, but really how can the patrons not feel the oppressive sense of collective debasement of both the men paying for the fantasy and the women who can find no better way to make a living that to fufill that fantasy? (yes i know that many strippers make good money, but so what? I've seen what it does to them outside the clubs as well).

 

on the other hand, just becuase it's not for me doesn't mean i can't understand why some like it. i have lots of buddies that make a habit of frequenting those clubs. in and out of relationships they still go, to see the girls, to drink the beer, to do some business, but just basically to leave their usual world behind for a couple hours. it's nothing more than blowing off some steam for them.

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Why do I need to pay to get sexually frustrated when I can get it at home for free. -- A little humor don't take it too seriously.

 

I never found strip joints appealing even when I was single.

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i don't understand how the other men there can't see just how pathetic it is. don't get me wrong, i love the sight of naked female flesh as much as the next guy, but really how can the patrons not feel the oppressive sense of collective debasement of both the men paying for the fantasy and the women who can find no better way to make a living that to fufill that fantasy? (yes i know that many strippers make good money, but so what? I've seen what it does to them outside the clubs as well).

This is my issue with even single men attending strip clubs. I feel that these women are often exploited and I don't see a reputable man taking part in that. NOW, that said, I also don't think that a once in a blue moon trip to a strip club is a terrible thing.

 

For women these "shows" are much more like reviews. I've been but the "fun" of the evening was in cutting up and laughing hysterically with my girlfriends, never gave the guys a second thought!

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Why do I need to pay to get sexually frustrated when I can get it at home for free. -- A little humor don't take it too seriously.

 

I never found strip joints appealing even when I was single.

 

Funny thing is...these strippers give these men a false sense of self-esteem....they make the guy feel special...when really their only agenda is to empty their wallets.

 

So this makes the guy who pays for this to happen the biggest idiot on the face of the earth.

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I went to one once for a friend's bachelor party 15 years ago. It was weird at first, but after a couple of beers I got comfortable enough to enjoy the experience. I never went again after that. What I did find intriguing is how expertly these women could make every single guy in the place think she was really into them only. Absolutely amazing. My friend eventually got divorced and then he spent a fortune going to these places because he felt like these women really liked him.

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For women these "shows" are much more like reviews. I've been but the "fun" of the evening was in cutting up and laughing hysterically with my girlfriends, never gave the guys a second thought!

 

And I suppose the sucking the whip cream off their dicks is harmless fun?

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Never seen anything like that basically they do little dances and skits and the women cackle. There was no physical contact other than posing for some pics after the show. It's more like burlesque than actually being at a strip club.

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:lmao: :lmao: Oh fellas...... not true.

 

I was at one where the guys are just in socks on the bar... (I covered my drink with my hand)

 

Stroking themselves doing body builder poses just a pubic hair away from you.... you can touch them feel their thighs............. and...................

 

You have to have a license for this sort of thing in most states.... when the Male review comes to town they usually just "thong it" as they don't have a nakie lic. in most places where they book a performance.

 

But there are nakie places where the up close stroke happens.

 

Hell in one of these nakie joints John Waters was hanging out with us..... :lmao: :lmao:

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I had a wife that loved strip clubs, I went with her a couple of times, and also couple of times with redneck friends visiting the city. I never dug strippers myself, but I adore naked women, so I can understand guys (and girls) that do. Only thing, I never SAW a beautiful, naked woman in a strip club. Face swollen with makeup, fake hair shining like nylon thread, silicone tits and so forth, not very appealing. I think it would not be so bad if they stuck to pole dancing, but the little extras are nauseating. Myself, I prefer the beach. Or the studio. Or the streets, even. Nothing sexier than a girl working a bike. Like with porn; I love the idea of porn, but actual porn makes me depressed. It's just not beautiful. A blurry glimpse of my fat and ugly neighbour passing the bedroom window in her bra, jazzes me more than any porn movie.

 

I think mostly the guys go there just to ogle the women the way I ogle women in the streets. It's harmless. Annoying, but harmless. A little immature, but boys need to be immature from time to time. If you are worried they cheat, strip clubs should not be your main worry. I also think, that if you REALLY felt bad about it, and managed to communicate this to your SO, (He would not understand, but he might accept that you'd feel like that) he would never go to a club again. Men can be real perverts, but I've not heard of many men hooked on strip clubs. There are some, I know, but it's really fringe. Mostly it's immaturity, group pressure, a male bonding tradition, whatever. I'd be more worried if he spend his nights surfing internet porn sites. Or, dare I say, here.

 

If by stag night you mean, uhm, polterabend, as the Germans say, you should consider yourself lucky that they settled for strippers.

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About 2 months ago I went out w/ a female friend. My wife was fine with it, she would rather stay home. On the way to the bar, this chick (Danielle) mentioned that she never been to a strip club. Of course, me being the gentleman asked if she wanted to goto one :D

 

We went, for about an hour, she got to see what it was like and that it wasn't as bad as some people make them believe. Neither of us got any lap dances, and she was more interested in how they danced to get ideas.. lol

 

Anyway when I told the wife the next day where we went of course she got pissed, but after talking to her about it & a couple of days passed, she mentioned how it was stupid for her to have gotten upset over it. It's because she trusts me. There's a certain line that you don't cross with either friends or strippers and as long as the communication & honesty is there I believe there is not a problem.

 

It doesn't matter what kind of tempation is in front of you, you are responsible for your own actions.

 

Personally I could careless about stripclubs, they really are not a turn-on for me. You can't touch the girls, and these chicks are more in it for the money than anything. It's a job to them and for the guys there to think they are doing this for them is just nieve.

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Consider me a recovering clubber, 5 years sober. Guys go to the clubs because they like variety yet want more of a challenge then just paying a fulltime prostutute. And strip, Gentlemens's Clubs have a social acceptability that other sex businesses don't. Yes we know how patheltic we are in fact the term we use for ourselves is PL (pathetic loser).

 

In this case though we are talking about a team bonding situation. One of the leaders is probably a PL but not all of the team. In this specific case if the boyfriend does not go without a reason like he religious and he won't sin against God he has to deal with the boys calling him a P*ssy. Being married or mentioning the girlfriend will just encourge shouts of p*ssy whiipped.

 

But in the group case except for the boy being initiated there is a smaller chance of any sex happening with the husband. Such groups don't make money for the dancers, they normally tip the waitresses more, so the dancers try to ignore them in favor of PL or solo suits who may provide a big tip.

 

The dancers make their money off of tips for private dances. Unless she is a porn star and is paid an appearence fee that stage money goes back to her pimps, the managers, DJs, floaters, bartenders etc. A group like the team makes money for the club off of drinks not the dancers so they are mostly ignored for special services.

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About 15 years ago I went to one of my friends Mom's birthday party at an All Male Review. I was repulsed! It was disgusting to me. I don't want a bunch of strange men wagglin their wangs in front of my face. And sweet Lodra Jesus you should have smelled their BO. Eeeeeehhhhhuuuuwwww! I have no desire to ever go to one again.

 

About Strippers..... My Sis was a stripper (years ago) at a very "high end" strip club in Denver. I went to see her a few time and would go in the dressing room with her. Those strippers truly despise their customers. You should have heard them talking about them. They only want the mens $$$$.

 

I remember one night I was waiting for my Sis to get done so we could go out and I was standing by the table where she was dancing. Apparently this man had been sitting there for a while. My Sis bent down got in his face and said "if you aren't going to tip me, then get the f***k away from my table". LOL! My mouth was hanging open because I couldn't believe she talked to them like that.

 

So, yeah, pretty much, the strippers don't give a rats ass about the guys, they only want the $$$$$.

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you Know If your Husband or B/F is hanging out at a strip club with the guys every once in a while his chances of having sex with one of those woman is about 1 in 100 million. On the other hand if he is an attractive guy dressed nice and has some charm. if he is hanging out in a high Class Bar in a nice downtown location . There is a pretty good chance some woman will be hitting on him.

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you Know If your Husband or B/F is hanging out at a strip club with the guys every once in a while his chances of having sex with one of those woman is about 1 in 100 million. On the other hand if he is an attractive guy dressed nice and has some charm. if he is hanging out in a high Class Bar in a nice downtown location . There is a pretty good chance some woman will be hitting on him.

 

You know I am not worried about my man sleeping with them. He is too good for them and would not lower himself to do that.What I disapprove of is the way the walk around naked and think it is ok to shove her boobs and pussy onto him.

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why do men that are married or in a serious relationship go to strip clubs. I simply don't get it.

 

I would say they go to strip clubs to look at something new. They often get bored having sex with the same woman over and over. I am a married woman myself and don't like it. The truth is they want to look at young, perfect bodies.

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Rainfall Number one My point is That if he is going to strip club He will be bringing his horny Butt back home.

On the other hand if he is hanging at some of the popular watering holes he could up to no good.

The only way she will be putting her boobs butt or pussy near him is when he is waving dollar bills at her.

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outofdarkness
And I suppose the sucking the whip cream off their dicks is harmless fun?

that's a really yucky thought!

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You know I am not worried about my man sleeping with them. He is too good for them and would not lower himself to do that.What I disapprove of is the way the walk around naked and think it is ok to shove her boobs and pussy onto him.

they think it's ok b/c they are getting paid for it, it's a job for them. I don't know if all of them necessarily LIKE it, or think it's ok., but some get pretty big bucks for it if they are in the right one...from what I hear!

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