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Old 11th February 2019, 6:02 AM   #1
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Question LDR with Thia girl

Hello, everyone.

So I recently went on holiday to Thialand. Whlist there I met Thia Girl. Kind, sweet the usual. We spent my Holiday together. She brought me drinks, food. Took me to her favourtie beach. We got on exceptionally well. Met her friends. Just generally good.

Im 21. Shes 24. She works in Bangkok. Hooters to be specific. She speaks english very well and is just about to finish her 4 year degree in buisness english.

Upon leaving Thialand she asked If I would come back to see her and be exclusive so speak.

Now I've been in a lot realtionships in my short life, lived abroad, also worked abroad with the British Army. However I have never been in LDR especially with a Thia girl.

I read as much as could from other posters in the same positon. I understand that being LDR is at highter rate of failure.

My question is what advice do people have in regards to it?

My expectations are low, we both agree communication is a must. She is quite paraniod, so I do my best to ensure that she feels comfortable. We message back and forth few times a day and call about 3x times week. It was more, however like most the novelty has worn off now and is now just general check ups on each other.

I am returning in June for 3 weeks we are going to koi samui, bangkok, and koi paghang.

Between now and then... What should I expect? Also tips to keep a LDR going strong and finally what mindset should I adopt? Is my current one of having low expections and just being fun a good one?
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Old 11th February 2019, 10:03 AM   #2
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Just keep up communication & see what happens in June. At present you are both putting too much pressure on yourselves & the relationship
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Old 11th February 2019, 10:07 AM   #3
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Thanks for reply. So dont get caught up in little silly things like reply times and just be carefree so speak untill june.
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Old 11th February 2019, 10:09 AM   #4
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Do not pay one iota of attention to reply times.

Stay in touch. Try writing newsy old fashioned snail mail letters. Talk & skype. But keep things light.
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Old 11th February 2019, 10:11 AM   #5
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Thank you. I will follow this to tea. Light it is. Ill keep this open and maybe update it after June
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Old 11th February 2019, 11:07 AM   #6
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I'm assuming "Thialand" is actually Thailand?

A few things you need to know. You're 21 years old which means you don't have a lot of life experience. I'm sorry, that's just the reality of the situation. But that's what's going to get the rug pulled out from underneath you.

A lot of the girls from Thailand and other Asian countries are always seeking out foreign men for 'love' relationships but the truth is, it's NOT for love. They're simply looking for a way out of their own countries and for a better life in a better country. They'll have you fooled into thinking they love you more than life itself, but for most, that's really not why they're with you.

Much older men who should know better get taken for rides like this ALL the time by women who just somehow magically 'fall in love' with them after only 2 scant weeks of knowing these guys. And the next thing you know, a year or two later they're spending a fortune to bring these women over to their country thinking they're going to get a happily ever after with them.

Not so much.

So my advice? Watch out.
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Old 11th February 2019, 11:16 AM   #7
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Thanks for reply. So dont get caught up in little silly things like reply times and just be carefree so speak untill june.
No, especially since I assume you are not even in the same time zone. I live abroad, and have to continuously remind myself that when I am in the middle of the afternoon locally, my family and friends in my home country are just barely waking up. When I am busy at work, they are all just checking their phones while having breakfast. I often can't reply promptly when they message me, and likewise for them when I send messages. Reply times in such circumstances are a very inaccurate way to measure someone's interest.

Is she anxious about how long it takes you to reply to her? Or vice versa?

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Old 11th February 2019, 11:21 AM   #8
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No I was just making example. Overall Im very laid back anyway. She is paranoid but has always been honest so far when something concearns her she is up front and honest.
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Old 11th February 2019, 3:49 PM   #9
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No I was just making example. Overall Im very laid back anyway. She is paranoid but has always been honest so far when something concearns her she is up front and honest.
About what, exactly?
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About me cheating. Or finding someone else.
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About me cheating. Or finding someone else.
Then this is not sustainable. You can't have a regular conventional relationship without trust. You absolutely cannot have an LDR with great trust.
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Old 11th February 2019, 4:20 PM   #12
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Hence my reason for taking it light. I trust her, Im not one for trying to control things out of my reach. so far she has been great at letting go. Time will tell. ultimately Its an experience I appreciate the advice heeded here.


Light fun and communicative.
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Old 14th February 2019, 9:33 PM   #13
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Veteran of Thai relationships here haha.

Thai girls in real relationships are loving, dedicated and make great LTR and wife material. Ones who work in bars or, in this case, Hooters, will often have a few of you on the leash to see who works out. She will absolutely deflect this by being jealous that YOU have someone else, but I've been burned twice in the same situation and know that there is often either a) a Thai boyfriend in the background (often referred to as a brother) or b) other farang in the same boat as you.

Treat your holiday as a chance to do some banging and be exclusive for the time that you are there, but not before or beyond that. Your age and inexperience make you an easy mark.
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Old 15th February 2019, 1:14 PM   #14
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Does the situation change? If she only just got the job there?

Also I take it you're saying despite her asking for exclusivity. She wont. Therefore I shouldn't either?
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I was going to ignore the typo in your title, but then I saw it was repeated THREE MORE TIMES....


Oh god, four, actually. *facepalm*


Tip #1 for LDRs: Learn to spell their country's name correctly. You know, like Amurica.
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