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Old 9th February 2019, 3:26 PM   #1
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Can this relationship work?

I live in the US and she lives in Thailand. We've been talking for almost two years now and we really like each other. I feel she really understands me and treats me very politely. She has so many qualities that I want a gf to have.
She's Muslim, but I'm not. We're both in our mid 20s.
I've tried to meet women locally but they can't even compare.

So my question is can this relationship work? Is her love for me real?
I feel it's real but I just want a second opinion.
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Old 9th February 2019, 3:32 PM   #2
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Nope, not a chance.

Fantasy meet reality
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Old 9th February 2019, 3:36 PM   #3
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Nope, not a chance.

Fantasy meet reality
explain please
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Old 9th February 2019, 3:48 PM   #4
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Have you met? Have you looked into the myriad of immigration obstacles you face & do you have a plan to overcome them?

If the answer to both Qs is not yes, then no this can't work.
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explain please
You have developed this probably unrealistic fantasy of the perfect woman but it's all in your mind.

Have you ever met, dated, etc?
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Old 9th February 2019, 3:56 PM   #6
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Have you met? Have you looked into the myriad of immigration obstacles you face & do you have a plan to overcome them?

If the answer to both Qs is not yes, then no this can't work.
We haven't met yet. As far as immigration if I remember correctly, I just need to prove I have a good income to sustain the person.
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We haven't met yet. As far as immigration if I remember correctly, I just need to prove I have a good income to sustain the person.
Until you meet this is a fantasy. It's not real.


Book a trip & see what happens. If you still like each other after you meet then you can start planning another trip for her to come to you.

After that trip then you can talk about where you may want to live. She may hate it in So Cal. Do you want to move there?

At that point, you need to sit down with a good immigration lawyer if your plan is for her to come here. This is about waaaaayyyyy more then you being able to support her. Until you understand this, it's all pie in the sky.

Read up on a lot of the horror stories -- the catfishers, the women who get here & then hate it because they are too far from home; the scammers who only want a green card, the ones who prey on vulnerable lonely men for money. After you do that & can identify all the frauds, then you can see where you stand.

Step one is always meet. Since you are not there yet, this is unsustainable.
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Are you sending her money perhaps?
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Old 9th February 2019, 4:05 PM   #9
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We haven't met yet. As far as immigration if I remember correctly, I just need to prove I have a good income to sustain the person.
Sorry man but for all you know this could be a man scamming you.

I can't tell you how many times even on dating sites where the facade doesn't meet reality.

And she's even in a different country no less?

Better wake up
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Are you sending her money perhaps?
I haven't sent any money just letters and gifts and she does the same
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Old 9th February 2019, 4:07 PM   #11
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Sorry man but for all you know this could be a man scamming you.

I can't tell you how many times even on dating sites where the facade doesn't meet reality.

And she's even in a different country no less?

Better wake up
We video chat very often, I know she's a real person
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Until you meet this is a fantasy. It's not real.


Book a trip & see what happens. If you still like each other after you meet then you can start planning another trip for her to come to you.

After that trip then you can talk about where you may want to live. She may hate it in So Cal. Do you want to move there?

At that point, you need to sit down with a good immigration lawyer if your plan is for her to come here. This is about waaaaayyyyy more then you being able to support her. Until you understand this, it's all pie in the sky.

Read up on a lot of the horror stories -- the catfishers, the women who get here & then hate it because they are too far from home; the scammers who only want a green card, the ones who prey on vulnerable lonely men for money. After you do that & can identify all the frauds, then you can see where you stand.

Step one is always meet. Since you are not there yet, this is unsustainable.

Alright, I'll do some research. This is why I'm asking for a second opinion. Again as I've written before, we do video chat, so I know she's real.
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Old 9th February 2019, 4:10 PM   #13
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What you think you know through letters, videos, calls & chats is not who either of you are. You have to meet. I can't emphasize that enough.

Book a plane ticket for you to go there.
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Old 9th February 2019, 4:11 PM   #14
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Alright, I'll do some research. This is why I'm asking for a second opinion. Again as I've written before, we do video chat, so I know she's real.
Ok but you don't know her motivation, etc. it could be just a put on.

This happens all the time. How long has this communication been going on?

Muslim families are not keen on relationships outside their religious backgrounds.
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Old 9th February 2019, 4:14 PM   #15
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Ok but you don't know her motivation, etc. it could be just a put on.

This happens all the time. How long has this communication been going on?

Muslim families are not keen on relationships outside their religious backgrounds.
We've been chatting for about 2 years now. I get what you guys are saying.

And just the thought of traveling to Thailand scares me a little.
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