Community Forums

Reload this Page Community Forums > Romantic > Long-Distance Relationships

How to propose to my girlfriend abroad?

Long-Distance Relationships Coping with geographical distance can make or break a LDR. Share your experiences and questions here.

Like Tree2Likes
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 7th March 2018, 10:31 AM   #1
New Member
Join Date: Mar 2018
Posts: 2
How to propose to my girlfriend abroad?

I have been thinking of proposing to my girlfriend, the only problem is she’s in the Philippines. I met her through an international dating social event, we started corresponding and we really hit it off. It’s been a year now and we’ve met 3 times. I do feel that it’s the right time. I would love to marry her and have her here with me.

I know most of you would say that I should come to her and propose... but my business is keeping me busy and traveling just for the weekend is not worth the expense. Is it really not advisable to propose to her through Skype? I know it’s a question most of you would say “obviously!” Most of you would probably advice me to just wait until I have free time to travel. But I have a plan…

I plan to propose to her through a Skype video call and then have her apply for a fiance visa so she can come here soon. To be honest, I have yet to learn the requirements and regulations for visa application, if I am required to be in the Philippines with her when she applies then I will wait until I have free time to propose to her face to face. But if it’s not required, I would love to expedite things so I can have her here with me. The sooner the better!

If we go about that route, I plan to propose to her again… properly and romantically when she gets here. What do you guys think? Will it be alright or will it be a bad move? I need advice!!!
settleyoudown35 is offline  
Old 7th March 2018, 10:37 AM   #2
Established Member
FilterCoffee's Avatar
Join Date: Aug 2017
Posts: 559
Originally Posted by settleyoudown35 View Post
I met her through an international dating social event
Let me guess, A Foreign Affair?
Attraction is a reflex, not a choice.
FilterCoffee is offline  
Old 7th March 2018, 10:52 AM   #3
New Member
Join Date: Mar 2018
Posts: 2
What if its real?

FilterCoffee i think you are in doubt am i right?
settleyoudown35 is offline  
Old 7th March 2018, 10:54 AM   #4
Established Member
d0nnivain's Avatar
Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Northeastern USA
Posts: 28,009
Ugh. Do not propose any way other than in person. If you truly love her why are you going to deprive her of one of the moments every little girl dreams about? Are you really that selfish? Over Skype she should say no to you on principle.

How are you going to build a life if you are too busy to make her a priority?

Talk to whatever agency that introduced you about all of the immigration issues which accompany your plan. Read the thread on here about the woman who's Mexican BF can't get a visa. Read the other thread from the entitled guy who is mad that his mail order bride won't be an on demand baby factory for him.

These international love affairs are not all they are cracked up to be.

That said if you are thinking about marriage, make her a priority. If you can't or won't do that, you have no business marrying.
d0nnivain is offline  
Old 7th March 2018, 7:40 PM   #5
Established Member
Join Date: Dec 2013
Posts: 19,153
You also need to have lengthy discussions about what her expectations will be, where you will live, whether she will be sending money back to her family and whether she will be expecting you to pay for them to come to wherever she is at. My cousin married someone that he only met 2-3 times there too. She sends all her money back to family and when he lost his leg in an accident and was in the hospital, she used the insurance money and sent that home too.

So not saying everyone is like that, but their culture is very different from ours. Maybe it's not too different from your own though. Just be sure you totally understand her customs and expectations before you get into something. Talk about money until there's nothing left to talk about it. Talk about if she'll work and if she does, what she'll do with the money, if she'll pay half the household.

If you can't get face to face with her, don't propose. It's too soon anyway. You've only seen her 3 times.
"I care not much for a man's religion whose dog and cat are not better for it." -- Abraham Lincoln
preraph is offline  


Thread Tools
Display Modes


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Is my girlfriend cheating on me while abroad? Zack_67 Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy 15 26th September 2016 9:16 AM
Ex-girlfriend went abroad LostHeart88 Breaks and Breaking Up 24 21st September 2016 7:54 PM
Girlfriend Studying Abroad jbr91 General Relationship Discussion 10 13th April 2014 10:29 PM
Girlfriend abroad, or the ordeal that doesn't end. LittleMonkey Dating 6 30th July 2012 10:16 AM
girlfriend is studying abroad ihateslowjams Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy 21 1st May 2009 11:09 AM

All times are GMT -4. The time now is 4:48 AM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.

Copyright © 1997-2018 All Rights Reserved.