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Old 18th February 2018, 3:55 PM   #61
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My best friend loved him. Said I looked calmer with him a way she's never seen. She knows things about the relationship my mom doesn't. She said maybe we need a break from each other, give us both time to get straight. But i don't think I'll ever see him again. He's going through a rough patch and had said he didn't think we could see each other for a while. Moving in with him is not the answer. She didn't like how one sided the relationship was getting. Mom loved what my best friend said to me. Im sad now. Went for a long hike, listened to loud music.
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Old 18th February 2018, 4:56 PM   #62
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Hi! I haven't read any of your backstory and am just taking this particular thread at face value. I was dating a man long distance for one year and was on the opposite side of what you are describing. He came to visit me three weeks ago and we broke up because of a conversation we had about his mother. He is in his mid 40s and lives with his parents, his mother is very overbearing and controlling. I routinely said that I was uncomfortable staying at his parents home. I never visited him myself, our visits also required an airplane ride and we often split the costs for him to come to me. Anyway. He didn't like to talk about his mother and would often get mad or defensive whenever the subject came up, he would say I was disrespecting her by wanting to stay elsewhere. But it came up often because he wanted me to visit him, see where he lived. I think when you get over 30 or 40 years old you just need to realize that these conversations aren't typical among people that age. I think it's an added component not normally relevant to relationship. These aren't the things that people fight about I think it's unfortunate when they interfere with the relationship because you may potentially have a really great relationship in front of you, One thing that I noticed is that you said your mom helped write your pros and cons list and she made comments about you driving your car. It sounds. like your mother is very involved in your life still? My exes mother was very involved in his life and it really bothered me. He even called her when we apparently broke up and told her everything, she knew we broke up before I did (which tells me that maybe she helped him make his decision) . I'm in my 40s and both my parents have been gone for 10 and 20 years respectively. I have been on my own for a long time. Maybe that's why I had such a hard time dealing with somebody that's in the polar opposite position of me. I just think it's a really hard spot to put somebody in. You sometimes feel like a third wheel. Maybe because of that piece, your way of thinking and living your life is too different.

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Old 19th February 2018, 3:29 PM   #63
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Hospitalized yesterday

He found out I have a blood clot and called this morning to see how I was doing. He said he still really loves me, and I know I love him. I got a book on communication and other stuff to try to resolve some of our issues. I don't know if we are back together really but we discussed meeting for a date at an in between location, we live 2 hours apart. I'm nervous about it.
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Old 19th February 2018, 3:33 PM   #64
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Well we keep reconnecting. He broke up with me the day before Valentines, we go back together the day after. I was forced to break up with him the following day. He heard about my blood clot and called saying he still loves me and asked how I was doing this morning. We're planning a date.
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