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Old 16th February 2018, 10:03 AM   #46
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I didn't hookup with him but I really want to. My mom is preventing me.
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Old 16th February 2018, 4:38 PM   #47
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I'm trying but

I so want to text him but he broke up with me last night, although he left it open ended I'm always welcome to his home. He asked me to pack up and move in again, but I said no. His place is too far from my therapy and job 2 hours is a long drive every day. I know it's for the best, I do know it's for the best. But I still wanted to be with him.

I really wanted to drive down but my mom went ballistic and called me horrible things. I hate that I'm an adult but treated as a child so I'm looking into roommate rentals so that I can move out sooner rather than save up and move out later. I only wish I could have saved the relationship, even though part of me knows better. I still want to text him and be like if I move out would consider dating me again? But I feel like he just wants to be done with me. He professes to love me so much, but than doesn't want to deal with my mom. I mean why am I such a sucker?
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Old 17th February 2018, 12:36 PM   #48
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Back together but

Same problems only worse mom hates him now thinks I needs to lose him how I feel doesn't matter. So in my heart i know it won't last. He wants me to move in she wants me to move out, i want to get my own place independant of both of them. But with a roommate. What a mess
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Old 17th February 2018, 12:40 PM   #49
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You should probably add this to your older thread(s) because this standing alone isn't going to make sense to a lot of people. Maybe ask a mod to combine your threads.
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Old 17th February 2018, 1:07 PM   #50
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I remember her everyone gave her good advice only to go back and reopen the wound

Well good luck op
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Old 18th February 2018, 10:37 AM   #51
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I'm angry

I want to be with him but I don't. My mom forced a breakup yesterday. She gave me an ultimatum said move out go live with him which wasn't the plan at all or break up. And she wouldn't let me drive down to see him he wasn't welcome in her home either. I am angry at her forcing an end I wasn't ready for. I still loved him.

I know I made the decision based on my wants and needs. I need to be up here near my doctors, daughter, friends, and family. Not out in butt **** no where 2 hours away in an old car. But its the guy i love not his place. I hate her forcing her agenda she always does. I know I need to move out. I can't afford to move on my own so I'm looking for roommates and not having any luck so far. I'm sick of her dictating my life sick of it.
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Old 18th February 2018, 10:48 AM   #52
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What doesn't your mom like about him?
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Old 18th February 2018, 11:06 AM   #53
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He got in a fight with her. She said she sees too many red flags. He lied about moving up here she says. We discussed moving in June. She doesn't like that he wasn't coming up here, since the fight, bad mouthed her, works part time as an adult male, mostly she decided she hates him and I either go with him right now or end it. He's poor, his car is broken down and he hasn't fixed it for a month. She figures he can't take care of me, I'd be supporting him. Too much like my ex husband, daughter's dad no ambition.
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Old 18th February 2018, 11:30 AM   #54
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I am sorry. I am a little confused. Are you confused on if you want to be with him or not? Or is it that your mom is forcing you to break up and you do want to be with him?
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Old 18th February 2018, 1:11 PM   #55
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I want to be with him mom forced me to break up. She gave an ultimatum usually I go against her this time I'm trying to listen but it's making me angry right now.
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Old 18th February 2018, 2:14 PM   #56
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Unless your mom has a history of wanting you to be miserable and unhappy, she sounds like she knows what she's talking about.
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Old 18th February 2018, 3:07 PM   #57
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She says i like fun he couldn't afford a lifestyle to please me. I know she's right, but he's a good guy, I loved him, and I'm grieving the loss of him in my life.
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Old 18th February 2018, 3:31 PM   #58
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Adults fund their own fun. His earning potential shouldn't be the deciding factor.

If you are sick of your mother making your decision, take the actions necessary to function as an independent self reliant adult.

Remember that love doesn't conquer all & that when everyone important to you does not like your SO, it's time to take a more objective look at why to see what you are missing
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Old 18th February 2018, 3:50 PM   #59
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Sorry to hear that, just focus on yourself and healing
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Old 18th February 2018, 3:54 PM   #60
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You posted about breaking up with him on the 14th Feb because there was no compromising with him. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/roma...21-we-broke-up

Now you're saying that your mum forced you to break up yesterday. How could she do that if you'd already dumped him?
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