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Starchild6877

I'm scared that I won't be able to please him sexually?

So I'm in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I are talking about marriage but we've never seen each other before. I truly believe that he's my twin flame. He masturbates at least three times a day and he often asks me to send him videos and pics. He masturbates to them as well as pornos.He always wants to have phone sex and I don't feel comfortable with it, it feels weird because I never moan when I'm masturbating. I've told him that but he still gets frustrated. He loves to watch twerking videos and I found a video that he uploaded on Youtube a month before we met of a woman sucking his penis. He listed her name and number and said that she gives good head in the caption. He always says that his penis is small and he never really talks about us having intercourse. He told me that he would like oral sex from me at least three times a day but he knows that it's not relaistic. He offers to return the favor but I don't think as much as he wants me to do him. I'm scared to have sex with him now because I don't really think that he wants my body, just my mouth. And watching the video of the woman giving him head really messed my head up. I feel really insecure and don't think that I can keep up.

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You are putting the cart before the horse. Meet him 1st. Figure out if you actually like him after meeting in real life. If yes, then you can date. Then you can have sex. After you have sex for a while you can determine if you are compatible.

 

Frankly he sounds like a selfish sex obsessed jerk. What does he do for a living that he has time to masturbate 3x per day?

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Starchild6877

He doesn't work because he's disabled. He had three strokes four years ago and can't move the whole left side of his body. He wears a leg brace and has caregivers, massage therapist, and nurses to come visit him weekly.

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Starchild6877,

I'm sorry but this guy is just using you as a masturbation aid.

 

My boyfriend and I are talking about marriage but we've never seen each other before.

 

This is nuts ^^^^

 

Please have a reality check. Come out of this fantasy world and find a real guy who wants you for you and not for what you can do for him sexually.

 

Is your self-esteem really so low that you would put up with being sexually exploited? - because yes, that's what this is. You are being treated worse than a woman on a phone sex line - at least they are getting paid for it. :rolleyes:

 

I don't know how old you are but trust me, nice guys don't behave like this.

 

You need to start taking steps to raise your self esteem and dumping this perv would be a good start.

 

And being disabled doesn't give him a free pass to talk to you like this.

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I kind of agree with you. I feel that he spends a lot of time thinking and talking about sexual things because he has a high sex drive which makes me nervous, but I also look at it as self control because I'd rather him do all of that than cheat on me. I think that every guy wants his lady to fulfill his fantasies and other sexual needs so I can't fault him for wanting it. But it's just too excessive for me. I do tend to live in a fantasy world. (I'm a Pisces lol) but I guess I'll just have to see how things play out after we meet.

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Stay away from this guy. I wonder if this other woman has any idea he's advertising her services on the internet? Ugh, sorry, but he sounds like a creep.

 

Why on earth are you considering marriage with someone like this?

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I think it's so distasteful. Need I say more?

Sounds like the opposite of a keeper.

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I kind of agree with you. I feel that he spends a lot of time thinking and talking about sexual things because he has a high sex drive which makes me nervous, but I also look at it as self control because I'd rather him do all of that than cheat on me. I think that every guy wants his lady to fulfill his fantasies and other sexual needs so I can't fault him for wanting it. But it's just too excessive for me. I do tend to live in a fantasy world. (I'm a Pisces lol) but I guess I'll just have to see how things play out after we meet.

 

I went ahead and put some parts of your post in bold that you really need to think about.

 

You feel nervous already - this is your intuition screaming at you to take the high road and get this man out of your life.

 

If you are already thinking about him cheating on you - then where does your trust lay in the relationship. Without trust there's no foundation, and without a foundation there is no possible way this relationship will survive.

 

Simply stated, I would NOT go ahead and meet this guy - I think that you'll be doing yourself a huge favour to run the other way as far as you can, trust your intuition.

 

Best,

OS

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He doesn't work because he's disabled. He had three strokes four years ago and can't move the whole left side of his body. He wears a leg brace and has caregivers, massage therapist, and nurses to come visit him weekly.

 

My heart goes out to him for his disabilities however, I think most of what he's telling you about his high sex drive is puffery. After 3 strokes with the inability to move the left side of his body I'd be shocked if he could manage to make love to you very often & even then it probably has to be you on top

 

Be very careful with this guy. Do NOT fall in love with him. I don't think your affections would be returned honorably & until given concrete proof otherwise, I would assume that whatever line of BS he's feeding you about love, sex & marriage is the same drivel he's peddling to any woman who will listen.

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ExpatInItaly He said that she asked him to put it on YouTube because she didn't have a YouTube account. He said that it was just for fun. But he said that he'll never do that to me because I'm his future wife, the other girl was just something to do according to him.

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ExpatInItaly He said that she asked him to put it on YouTube because she didn't have a YouTube account. He said that it was just for fun. But he said that he'll never do that to me because I'm his future wife, the other girl was just something to do according to him.

 

Starchild, please at least consider the advice being given to you here. Here's what I want you to do - make a list of the pros and cons of being with this man (think really hard about them and do take the exercise very seriously.) I want you to really think about what life could be like with him - do you deserve better? I am not you nor him, but this situation is a massive red flag that should not be ignored.

 

I understand that you feel bad for him because he has had strokes, that is normal and part of being an empathetic person. How can you jump the gun with someone you haven't even met before? How can you talk about marriage with someone you've never even seen in person?

 

Trust me, I know what it is like to be overly empathetic and try to be a person who tries to fix others. You really need to consider your reasons for trying to be with this man - don't be a martyr, don't make the same mistakes I made. I ended up staying in a relationship for all of the wrong reasons (READ: fear of loneliness, guilt, and I hoped I could fix her issues), please don't stay with or start a relationship with this man out of a sense of obligation - that is unfair to you.

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He doesn't work because he's disabled. He had three strokes four years ago and can't move the whole left side of his body. He wears a leg brace and has caregivers, massage therapist, and nurses to come visit him weekly.

Yet, he can jerk off all day.

 

LOL...'future wife' my ass. You're his free webcam girl.

 

Good lord. Aim higher in life or at least start charging this mouth-breather $2.99 a minute.

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I'm scared that I won't be able to please him sexually?

So I'm in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I are talking about marriage but we've never seen each other before. I truly believe that he's my twin flame. He masturbates at least three times a day and he often asks me to send him videos and pics. He masturbates to them as well as pornos.He always wants to have phone sex and I don't feel comfortable with it, it feels weird because I never moan when I'm masturbating. I've told him that but he still gets frustrated. He loves to watch twerking videos and I found a video that he uploaded on Youtube a month before we met of a woman sucking his penis. He listed her name and number and said that she gives good head in the caption. He always says that his penis is small and he never really talks about us having intercourse. He told me that he would like oral sex from me at least three times a day but he knows that it's not relaistic. He offers to return the favor but I don't think as much as he wants me to do him. I'm scared to have sex with him now because I don't really think that he wants my body, just my mouth. And watching the video of the woman giving him head really messed my head up. I feel really insecure and don't think that I can keep up.

 

You can always tell when school gets out for the summer. Don't know about the rest of you, but I have better things to do than feed the trolls.

 

Best,

TMichaels

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I'm scared that I won't be able to please him sexually?

So I'm in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I are talking about marriage but we've never seen each other before. I truly believe that he's my twin flame. He masturbates at least three times a day and he often asks me to send him videos and pics. He masturbates to them as well as pornos.He always wants to have phone sex and I don't feel comfortable with it, it feels weird because I never moan when I'm masturbating. I've told him that but he still gets frustrated. He loves to watch twerking videos and I found a video that he uploaded on Youtube a month before we met of a woman sucking his penis. He listed her name and number and said that she gives good head in the caption. He always says that his penis is small and he never really talks about us having intercourse. He told me that he would like oral sex from me at least three times a day but he knows that it's not relaistic. He offers to return the favor but I don't think as much as he wants me to do him. I'm scared to have sex with him now because I don't really think that he wants my body, just my mouth. And watching the video of the woman giving him head really messed my head up. I feel really insecure and don't think that I can keep up.

When it's all about sex, it's obvious he doesn't care about your feelings. About the better person who you are inside. It's up to you as to what you want from this relationship. Good luck.

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LoveAnimals

Run away from this creep ASAP. And dont send him anything if you dont want to end up on YouTube with your name and info...

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