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Old 10th March 2019, 10:54 PM   #1
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Don't wanna be possessive

So recently I got into an unofficial relationship w my female bestfriend. She's attractive & fun girl, the bouncy types. And yesterday she asked me if I mind her going out with another guy for a movie.I said no. And tbh I really don't have any problem with her going out with him. So I just told her that it should be one-off thing and it shouldn't escalate. And I also said that I don't mind it, we aren't even dating. The thing that bugs me is, from where we come from. Dating in teenage years isn't really accepted overall. So the prob is, when we had made a plan to go to a movie, she said she couldn't come bc she doesn't know what her mom will say. I was cool. And the next time we planned, she watched the movie w her guy bestfriend stating the missed the movie which they planned so they watched this instead. So I asked her yesterday if you're gng w this guy today, what will you say to your mom? She said an excuse. I asked her why couldn't you come up w one when we were supposed to go. We eventually had a long fight. She says she's ready to make plans w me, but the last time she thought I wasn't making a serious plan. I don't wanna come off as possessive but it really does mess with my head about how she can go w the other guy. I'm not stopping her but perhaps she should do this less often once we are in a relationship since she's doing things she should do w a boyfriend w others.
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Old 11th March 2019, 10:37 AM   #2
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Having a unofficial relationship is not something you can handle. You can't help the way you feel so A) make it official with her or B) dump her. If she says no, she's gonna keep seeing guys anyways, and she has no intention of ever dating you. That's the reality.
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Old 11th March 2019, 11:10 AM   #3
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I'm not stopping her but perhaps she should do this less often once we are in a relationship since she's doing things she should do w a boyfriend w others.
Sorry bud, I don't see that happening.

It was a **** test and you failed.

Thats OK though, **** tests are bull**** and childish, start looking for someone real.
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Old 11th March 2019, 11:16 AM   #4
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What the heck is an "unofficial relationship"?

I hate to burst your bubble man, but this girl is not looking to actually make you her boyfriend. Her options are being kept open for another guy to take that role.
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