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Old 17th February 2019, 11:17 AM   #1
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So I just found this on my boyfriends phone...

He's made a fake Facebook account to speak to this girl... he doesn't even have a normal Facebook account!! Links to chat below.

I am heartbroken, amongst being absolutely fuming. I know the girl from his work, and I was aware there may be something going on but he kept reassuring me it wasn't. I snooped because on our iPad, he'd been googling how to create a hotmail address. I confronted him and he just said to sign up for deals etc.

Ergh I don't know what to do. How should I confront him. I want to leave, I feel sick. What does she have that I don't? And on Valentines as well? When he came home that evening he was so moody and we ended up having a huge argument. Obviously because she rejected him.

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Old 17th February 2019, 11:19 AM   #2
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P.s just want to add, I am totally not angry with her. I can 100% see she hasn't done anything wrong.
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Old 17th February 2019, 11:21 AM   #3
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You should be rejecting him....all the way to the curb. He told her your relationship is already ruined...that would be enough for me to dump his sorry ass.
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Old 17th February 2019, 11:25 AM   #4
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Girl this has nothing to do with better than me...this is emotional. They hit it off, have good bantering, they just click, they have chemistry. It happens to a lot of people.
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Old 17th February 2019, 11:33 AM   #5
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You can't possibly be thinking of staying with him. Tell him whatever makes you feel good, tell him you snooped, or tell him you know (without telling him how). But whatever you tell him it should include goodbye.
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Old 17th February 2019, 12:34 PM   #6
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Never ever think anything less of yourself just because he has strayed. You are a good person and a good GF, you don't deserve this, and he most certainly doesn't deserve YOU.
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Old 17th February 2019, 1:14 PM   #7
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He's made a fake Facebook account to speak to this girl... he doesn't even have a normal Facebook account!! Links to chat below.
You don't know what to do???? Tell him you read the messages and it's over. He doesn't want you he wants her and made that clear. What else does he have to do for you to realize this?

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Old 17th February 2019, 1:48 PM   #8
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If he's trying to be with another woman, he's not your boyfriend. You don't owe him anything. No explanation, nothing. He's just some guy you've been spending time with and being intimate with (I assume).

There's nothing to do but L E A V E. . Gather as many of your belongings as you can and go out the door. Period. If you have to, you send a couple of your friends to get the rest of your things later.

Frankly, I don't see the point in confronting him with the messages. Cheaters are so hardened and often become righteous when they are confronted. They usually try to gaslight the offended partner and/or blame the partner, etc. They want out of the relationship but they don't want to cut the current partner lose until the next one is lined up. That's the most convenient way for them. You don't need that. Leave, then block, delete, forget.
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Old 17th February 2019, 2:19 PM   #9
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If he has stuff at your place, put it on the porch and let him know he can pick up his stuff and that it is OVER. Block him every way possible. He will think the girl told you, which is even better because maybe it will keep those two from getting together and you having to watch that. Don't even tell him you read it.
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Old 17th February 2019, 4:38 PM   #10
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And if SHE tries to talk to you, tell her it's between you and him, in other words, none of her business.
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Old 17th February 2019, 4:50 PM   #11
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Just drop a few hints that you know and then ditch him but do you actually love him?
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Old 17th February 2019, 4:54 PM   #12
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I vote dump him and don't talk to him and keep him in the dark and let him wonder. He knows what he did. He doesn't know how you found out, but it could easily have been the other woman or someone she knows told you. I'd let him worry about that.
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Old 17th February 2019, 5:08 PM   #13
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No don't tell him you know anything, just say that you need someone better in bed.
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Old 21st February 2019, 3:08 AM   #14
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That son of a bytch. I canít stand cheaters OMG Iím so mad for you right now lol You know what you need to do? Send him to hell.. thatís what you need to do. So disrespectful... if he wants to be with other girls why doesnít he just straight up tell you and yíall can break up and he can go wet his dyck wherever he wants after. Lol sorry I just feel like once seeing those messages I would have woke his ass up if he was sleeping and tell him go the f to hell!! Lol ughhh
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Old 23rd February 2019, 11:54 AM   #15
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BOYfriend is the right word for him. He sounds like some hormonal, love sick, pimple-faced, dumb-ass teenage boy.

You ask how to confront him and I say, why bother? You KNOW exactly how he feels. There is nothing he can say...NOTHING..that can change the fact that he's pining over some woman and acting as though his widdle heart is breaking because she doesn't want his sorry ass. Don't be gullible enough to believe whatever steaming pile of **** he tries to feed you about how he was just kidding with her and it was just a joke and he only loves youuuuuuuu and she's unattractive to him and blah blah blah.

You saw what you saw.

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