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My. Boyfriend is way more popular than me and it's causing me sooo many problems


Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy Being unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.

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Old 10th February 2019, 12:08 PM   #31
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Why is everyone so much smarter than me
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Old 10th February 2019, 12:12 PM   #32
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We're not smarter then you. Many of us are older then you. We are also not under siege so we are thinking more clearly.

Sit in the front row in the lectures so if people try to attack you the professor can see & testify. Dumping coffee or urine on you is ASSAULT. Get the police involved today.
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Old 10th February 2019, 12:17 PM   #33
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If they saw you going to school with a bunch of buddies your classmates will stop harassing you as soon as they see you have friends.

Some of the stuff you said is grounds to get your classmates locked up in juvenile detention, where I live.

Build your self confidence my friend. Skype us if necessary.
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Old 10th February 2019, 12:24 PM   #34
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The problem is sometimes my professor agrees with them or calls me a liar also won't it be a bad idea to tell the police if I hit her after she poured coffee on me
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Old 10th February 2019, 12:26 PM   #35
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I am absolutely horrified by some of the responses to this thread. It is NEVER Ok to encourage violence. I would expect more from one particular poster here who claims to hold a position in the healing arts, applauding the OP for hitting others or suggesting all she has to do is fight back while failing to see the outright bullying being inflicted on the OP.

So, Olivia, I will first address the issues surrounding your post. If what you are writing is true, that others are stealing your material possessions and hitting you and a sundry of offenses, you must report this to another level of authority. You should be documenting everything. Do your parents know about what is going on? Who did you speak to at school regarding this bullying? IF that person did not take what you are saying seriously, then you need to go to a higher level of reporting. Do you have a school counselor? Go to the principal, go to the police. Have another adult help you with this as it's only going to escalate if you start to meet violence with violence --you could become culpable in this behavior.

And, why haven't you talked to your BF about this?

You ask why is everyone smarter than you? Girl, I'm asking you to get smart and get help. Bullying is a serious thing with potentially major consequences. You cannot manage this alone. Please get help.

PS- while taking self defense classes is a good thing with a wide range of benefits beyond mere self defense, you also need to learn other self protective behaviors. You should never allow others to treat you this way, and that means taking steps to ensure your safety without taking the law into your own hands. violence begets violence. seek legal means NOW
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Old 10th February 2019, 12:29 PM   #36
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The problem is sometimes my professor agrees with them or calls me a liar also won't it be a bad idea to tell the police if I hit her after she poured coffee on me
What? Your professor ought to be fired.

You punched back in self defense. You didn't start the violence but you do need outside help to stop this.

Where are your parents in all of this? Where is your BF? Do they even know what has been happening?
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Old 10th February 2019, 12:48 PM   #37
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I wonder also what your bf reaction is to all of this violence against you. I don't like violence either but there comes a point where you have to take a stand and defend yourself. Since none of the school authorities are helping you you have to defend yourself. Buy a bag of apples, put them in a plastic bag and tie it tight. When those girls come near you start swinging the bag of apples around like a helicopter and if they are too close they will get hit. Don't be apologetic when one gets hit in the face. I wish I was there with you to beat their arse.
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Old 10th February 2019, 12:54 PM   #38
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The most permanent solution may be to move. If you are in a bad part of town, that's probably making your life even more difficult. No matter what kind of bullying these people are throwing at you, you have to stay safe and you have to uphold your studies/ your future.

Do you have any help at all other than random people on Loveshack?
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Old 10th February 2019, 12:56 PM   #39
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My parents are divorced
My boyfriend hit some people and tried to fix it when I told him but the moment he isn't there people tear into me
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The most permanent solution may be to move.
and embolden the bullies further by allowing them to move on to another victim? shaking head.

she needs support, not a bag full of apples to swing about

there needs to be accountability here. if the people Olivia reported this too did nothing, there should be hell to pay. Olivia, please get support. If people are ignoring you, continue to document and report to a higher level of authority-get your parents involved if they are around.... Ultimately, you may find filing a class action law suit will get your schools attention.
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Olivia do you have family friends who can go with you to school administration to tell them how rough your school life actually is, and go with evidence of what they've been doing?

Can you start with going to school with a circle of friends so there is strength in numbers? Starting with small changes at least?
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Old 10th February 2019, 1:11 PM   #42
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You are definitely in a tough situation.

Use everybody's advice here all together - you'll eventually dig yourself out of this bad situation. Hang in there. Don't lose patience.
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Old 10th February 2019, 1:24 PM   #43
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I won't lose patience it's just if I lose my head
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Old 10th February 2019, 1:31 PM   #44
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Well let's summarize what we've discussed so far:

1. Don't ever let jealous girls dictate your self esteem to you. You choose how you feel, not somebody else.
2. What SunnyWeather said is right - you should never incite a fight, but always be ready to defend yourself.
3. Document every bad thing that is happening to you and bring it to the school counselor.
4. Find a safe way to get to and from school, if it's not available at the moment.
5. Never let your studies suffer. At any cost. You need a career and a name for yourself above anything.
6. Keep the boyfriend if you can, but if you find it too time consuming, uphold your studies and your degree first.
7. Work on your self confidence. Self defense skills are always healthy as long as you use them wisely. Become a more confident version of yourself.
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Old 10th February 2019, 1:32 PM   #45
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My friends have mostly left me because they don't want this to happen to them 2 will still come near me my parents aren't really around I basically only have my boyfriend and two other friends one of which has posted on here and there is no way I can afford to move
I'm kinda lost
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