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Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy Being unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.

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Old 13th March 2019, 5:41 PM   #286
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He told me he never said he and I were dating. We were no strings attached
Emily, we kept telling you that his family wasn't acknowledging you as "the girlfriend" because he never treated you like a girlfriend and never told them you were his girlfriend. They could see that he wasn't "all that" about you. They knew that. You've been insecure about this guy which is why you were so wrapped up in what was going on with the Ex. This guy wasn't doing enough, if anything, to make you feel secure in the relationship. Just because a guy is having sex with a girl and calling her on the phone in between, doesn't mean she's his girlfriend. If the guy isn't making it clear in other ways that you are his girlfriend and he's having sex with you, you aren't a girlfriend, you're just another girl he's banging. If this guy was doing a good job of treating you like a girlfriend and making you feel special, etc., you wouldn't have been thinking much about his Ex, if at all. In this case, your gut was telling you something, I think.

I'm sorry this happened to you. Take it as a lesson learned and learn how to expect more for yourself from a man in terms of how he's treating you and what he has to offer you. You deserve a really good, quality man, with little to no baggage/drama attached to him and one who has a lot to offer, one you can really have a good time with and share life experiences with. Now go out and find a nice young man, nearer to your age, who has a bright future and is making plans for that. In the meantime, start making a plan for yourself and what you want for yourself and your future and do what's required to achieve those goals. Best of luck to you.

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Old 15th March 2019, 4:13 PM   #287
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But why does his EX have to be a part of our relationship? You just said EX. Meaning they arenít together and she hasnít tried to speak to him in months. Ex means theyíre over. You know that right?
His ex is a part of your relationship because he allows her to be a part of your relationship. Period. Every human understands the meaning of the word "no" by the age of 18 months... he hasn't used that word effectively enough with his ex for it to stick. That is the long and short of it.

To him, ex doesn't mean anything is over, if she is still popping up.

You might be 20, but you're still seeing things in black and white, as 20 year olds are wont to do. You can't see the shades of grey yet--and that is what Mr. 32 and Ms. 26 are seeing and dealing in.
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Old 15th March 2019, 4:47 PM   #288
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You might be 20, but you're still seeing things in black and white, as 20 year olds are wont to do. You can't see the shades of grey yet--and that is what Mr. 32 and Ms. 26 are seeing and dealing in.


Could you explain what you mean by this?
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Old 15th March 2019, 5:18 PM   #289
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What Kendahke means is that you are only 20 years old and "you ain't seen nuthin yet". You don't have a clue about what goes on in the world and between people yet and what relationships are about. You haven't experienced very much yet at all.

Be focused on just you, what you see for yourself in the future and do what's needed to accomplish your goals. And, just have fun in life right now while you can.
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Old 15th March 2019, 5:32 PM   #290
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You might do well to go over to the Dating and/or Relationship forums on these boards. You'll see just how difficult it can be to navigate in dating and relationships especially if a person isn't experienced and doesn't understand what to look and watch out for. You'll learn from experience, which is the best way, really but you, for sure, were going down a path that wasn't a good beginning for a young woman into the world of relationships/boyfriends, etc.
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Old 15th March 2019, 8:05 PM   #291
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. You'll see just how difficult it can be to navigate in dating and relationships especially if a person isn't experienced and doesn't understand what to look and watch out for. .
Well everyone who surrounds him hates her. His parents donít want them together. He had to sneak her in. He SAID he hated her. Thereís NO WAY she could have feelings for her. If he loved her THAT much to go against what everyone says.... I wouldíve seen it. She wouldíve been around. I donít feel I was naive with that
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The opposite of love isn't hate. It's indifference. Saying that he hates her only shows that he has strong feelings about her.

He snuck her in because he wanted to see her despite what everyone else said.
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Old 15th March 2019, 8:42 PM   #293
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He snuck her in because he wanted to see her despite what everyone else said.[/QUOTE]

Your theory is off since HEíS the one who told everyone how she is which is why they hate her
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Your theory is off since HE’S the one who told everyone how she is which is why they hate her
When you experience this as a friend or family of a person who complains about their partner, you will see that it's not uncommon. One day it will happen that a friend will tell you about all kinds of dreadful things about their partner. You will see that the partner is a nasty person. But that friend will just keep on seeing them anyway because for some reason they are unwilling to let go.
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Old 16th March 2019, 9:14 AM   #295
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Well everyone who surrounds him hates her. His parents donít want them together. He had to sneak her in. He SAID he hated her. Thereís NO WAY she could have feelings for her. If he loved her THAT much to go against what everyone says.... I wouldíve seen it. She wouldíve been around. I donít feel I was naive with that
Okie, dokie, then. The bottom line though is that YOU weren't his girlfriend or else he'd still be calling you and you'd still be around. We told you to stop worrying about the Ex and focus on you and how he was making you feel in terms of where you were with him -- and, guess what, we were right.

And, here's something else we might be right about -- sure, he was likely mad at her at some point, etc. and the family backed him up. But, once the dust settled and the reality that he was losing her set in, he started having second thoughts, perhaps -- just like he did all the numerous times they had broken up and gotten back together during the course of those 6 years. History often repeats itself and the bang material in between is the last to know usually.
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Old 16th March 2019, 10:21 AM   #296
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Your theory is off since HEíS the one who told everyone how she is which is why they hate her
It seems you don't want to listen to anything people are telling you on this forum and you seem to know the answers. If this is the case, what do you want from LoveShack?
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Old 16th March 2019, 11:20 AM   #297
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Emily, gaslighting is a power tool of mental and emotional manipulation . . .

Do you think girls will sleep with him if they think he's still into his Ex? In other words, he's gonna act like he's done with her to get laid until . . .
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Old 16th March 2019, 11:29 AM   #298
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Do you think girls will sleep with him if they think he's still into his Ex? In other words, he's gonna act like he's done with her to get laid until . . .
I know for a fact his family hates her. Thatís why she had to sneak in.
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Old 16th March 2019, 11:31 AM   #299
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I know for a fact his family hates her. Thatís why she had to sneak in.
Then what are you worried about? You know everything.
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Old 16th March 2019, 11:40 AM   #300
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I know for a fact his family hates her. That’s why she had to sneak in.
Kind of like Romeo and Juliet... two star crossed lovers, coming together despite the wishes of their family...
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