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I have been in a relationship with my gf for over a year. Everything is great between us but one thing that is bugging or starting to bug me lately is with social media. On my Facebook i can see her constantly tagging or liking half naked guys(models/celebrities) on Facebook it basically shows up on my feed /friends? too.

 

Don't know if she knows it that i can see it and personally I wouldn't do it because i find it a little disrespectful to her. I don't want to come across insecure which i'm not so not sure how to play this out haha maybe unfollow her so it doesn't come up on my feed anymore.

 

Should i say something just leave it or that it is an indicator of something deeper.

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be honest with her about how it makes you feel....and maybe theres a compromise to be had ....really though its fair enough you dont like it...and if she really cares for you stopping it shouldnt be much of a compromise.......deb

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Should i say something just leave it or that it is an indicator of something deeper.

 

You could unfollow her, but that wouldn't change what you already know. You could talk to her, and she might even moderate the behavior, but that wouldn't change what you already know either. I guess the real question is, what does it mean to you?

 

Is it an indication of something deeper? Well, that's hard to say without knowing her, but I would consider it questionable. At face value it could be nothing more than immaturity or poor judgement. It indicates that she doesn't mind being perceived by everyone as a person who lustfully objectifies male sex objects... doesn't see that as contrary to her nature, seems to enjoy painting herself with that brush.

 

Could it be the tip of an iceberg? Yes, it could be, but you don't know that. I'd be inclined to bring it up in a non-threatening way and see how much she tells you about herself. I don't blame you for wondering what it means.

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You could find some skimpily clad bikini models and 'like' them... see how fast she jumps down your throat for doing it. If she seems OK with it you have a problem - you value the relationship more than she does. If she has a problem with you liking half naked women, you could gently point out to her that she is doing the same thing, and wouldn't it be better if you both stop...?

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It's only disrespectful when you can see it. In the old days one would be out with friends at the beach admiring the scenery (if you know what I mean), making comments among each other, giggling or looking a Play Girl mag. It's a modern age, and now everyone knows what you are doing.

 

Tell her it's not kool that she does this for the world to see...including YOU. It's disrespectful to you with her ogling men publicly. Tell her to keep it private

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Do talk to her but if they are models / celebrities / guys she will never meet as opposed to half naked pictures of her male friends, don't get too bent out of shape about it.

 

 

In the old days before computers or social media she'd be in her bedroom with her friends looking a pictures of these same celebrity types in People Magazine or if she's young, things like Tiger Beat. (God, I can't believe how I'm dating myself) You would never have known about that & it was perfectly harmless.

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On my Facebook i can see her constantly tagging or liking half naked guys(models/celebrities) on Facebook it basically shows up on my feed /friends? too.
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It is celebrities, not guys down the street. You understand the difference?

 

Facebook usage takes a life of it's own when it comes to relationships. Since people are unable to decipher exact tone through text, foolish arguments erupt, and people get jealous for all the wrong reasons.

 

Leave this alone. The only thing that will happen by you bringing this up will be that your girlfriend will laugh at you and make you even more insecure.

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Do talk to her but if they are models / celebrities / guys she will never meet as opposed to half naked pictures of her male friends, don't get too bent out of shape about it.

 

 

In the old days before computers or social media she'd be in her bedroom with her friends looking a pictures of these same celebrity types in People Magazine or if she's young, things like Tiger Beat. (God, I can't believe how I'm dating myself) You would never have known about that & it was perfectly harmless.

LOL Tiger beat....#Leif Garret.

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Here's a question: Do you look at porn/naked women? If so, then you really can't be upset about her gawking at celebrities. This whole "symbol of something wrong with her character" stuff from men who will defend porn to the death is amusing.

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Tiger Beat. (God, I can't believe how I'm dating myself).
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I now blame you for ruining my day...

 

In retaliation...feast your ears.....

 

 

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My wife is 65 and still does that to both men and women since she is bi. If it were regular people I would put an end to that but they are people she never will be with so I do not care. Sometimes I encourage her to think about one of her hot young men during sex but she refuses. She saves that for masturbation time. I really do not care as long as I get the benefit of whatever gets her aroused at her age. :)

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My wife is 65 and still does that to both men and women since she is bi. If it were regular people I would put an end to that but they are people she never will be with so I do not care. Sometimes I encourage her to think about one of her hot young men during sex but she refuses. She saves that for masturbation time. I really do not care as long as I get the benefit of whatever gets her aroused at her age. :)

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Here's a question: Do you look at porn/naked women? If so, then you really can't be upset about her gawking at celebrities. This whole "symbol of something wrong with her character" stuff from men who will defend porn to the death is amusing.

 

Not the same.

 

She is doing this where the whole world can see.

 

KoKo would be ok if she kept it private.

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In the old days before computers or social media she'd be in her bedroom with her friends looking a pictures of these same celebrity types in People Magazine .

 

Yeah and she is free to do the same online if she wants, she doesn't have to click "like" and proclaim to the world about it.

 

OP how old is she? I guess if she is 18 or something then I could laugh it off as immaturity or ignorance.

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Not the same.

 

She is doing this where the whole world can see.

 

KoKo would be ok if she kept it private.

 

True. She should keep her ogling private.

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