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Old 13th September 2017, 9:38 AM   #106
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Your kids would be better off with two separated parents that are happy, than living in a environment where two parents, who despise each other, spend very little time interacting with each other or even being present. You are delusional thinking you are doing your kids a favor by "staying".

I have had the opportunity to talk to many adult kids that had parents that stayed for them. They hated it, and wished they did get divorced. They feel your misery. Like I said you kids aren't stupid, they know something is wrong. What kind of example are you teaching your children? That it's OK to stay in an unhappy marriage? That it's OK to be ignored by your partner? This will affect them when they are adults. It's called learned behavior.
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Old 13th September 2017, 3:23 PM   #107
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Your kids would be better off with two separated parents that are happy, than living in a environment where two parents, who despise each other, spend very little time interacting with each other or even being present. You are delusional thinking you are doing your kids a favor by "staying".

I have had the opportunity to talk to many adult kids that had parents that stayed for them. They hated it, and wished they did get divorced. They feel your misery. Like I said you kids aren't stupid, they know something is wrong. What kind of example are you teaching your children? That it's OK to stay in an unhappy marriage? That it's OK to be ignored by your partner? This will affect them when they are adults. It's called learned behavior.
I understand what you are saying but at least they would have their dad around. I know if I got divorced he wouldn't spend any time with them because he doesn't know how
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Old 13th September 2017, 10:34 PM   #108
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Hi Mick, re your last post. Maybe your kids would be better off without having him in their lives on a day to day basis. If he considers them a burden and does'nt treat them well then it would be healthier for them to be away from him. What good does it do them to have a father who is neglectful and does not love them? He is being a very bad example as a father figure for them. Why are you so scared of divorcing him? Is he physically abusive and do you fear hr will go overboard if you have him served with divorce papers? Something does not seem to be right here. If you want really helpful advice you have to be upfront with what your fundamental problem is. Having an affair on a toxic husband is like setting alight the fuse on a time bomb. I would rather make tracks. Warm wishes.
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Old 14th September 2017, 3:15 PM   #109
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I understand what you are saying but at least they would have their dad around. I know if I got divorced he wouldn't spend any time with them because he doesn't know how
Divorcing your POSH might give you a chance to bring a man into there life to show them what a father really is.

All they are receiving now is the pain of rejection for him.
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Old 14th September 2017, 3:24 PM   #110
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Divorcing your POSH might give you a chance to bring a man into there life to show them what a father really is.

All they are receiving now is the pain of rejection for him.
This woman is on the verge of a full blown affair, her current veiw of the Marriage and husband are not exactly honest, not saying that she is lying, just not likely the REAL whole story.

Women do this when involved in affairs, it's alot of justifications for her actions so far.
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Old 16th September 2017, 10:10 AM   #111
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I understand what you are saying but at least they would have their dad around. I know if I got divorced he wouldn't spend any time with them because he doesn't know how
It seems he is pretty much already doing that. If you had a nice partner that loved your kids and treated them as his own....wouldn't that be more beneficial to them?
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Old 17th September 2017, 3:45 AM   #112
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It seems he is pretty much already doing that. If you had a nice partner that loved your kids and treated them as his own....wouldn't that be more beneficial to them?
Yes you are right. And I am considering what you have all been saying as deep down I know you are right. Just can't help these feelings.
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Old 17th September 2017, 11:19 AM   #113
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Change or removing yourself from a marriage is difficult because this is all you have known, and it's the unknown that makes you have feelings of uncertainty. You can work on this day by day, and get your plan into action with a lawyer.
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Old 26th December 2017, 11:41 PM   #114
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So i know i havent bern on here for a while and i really hope people dont judge me. I thought things had settled down with the boss. But we had our office christmas party and one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. I really am confused and dont know what to do now
Any advice? Please no judging.
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Old 26th December 2017, 11:46 PM   #115
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What kind of advice are you looking for, exactly?

Do you plan to continue this affair? Do you regret the decision?

In your position, I would be looking for another job...
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Old 27th December 2017, 3:56 AM   #116
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I did like it so I probably would continue and no I don't regret the decision. I think we are both adults and knew what we were doing. Perhaps I should look for another job....i dont know?
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Old 27th December 2017, 5:26 AM   #117
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So i know i havent bern on here for a while and i really hope people dont judge me. I thought things had settled down with the boss. But we had our office christmas party and one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. I really am confused and dont know what to do now
Any advice? Please no judging.
Advice for what? You've had 7 pages of advice and ignored it all. Beside you enjoyed it want to continue and don't regret it, what can anyone here say to help you? That you've done the right thing? That everything will work out great? Cuz none of that is true.
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Old 27th December 2017, 5:28 AM   #118
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I did like it so I probably would continue and no I don't regret the decision. I think we are both adults and knew what we were doing. Perhaps I should look for another job....i dont know?
Perhaps a divorce?
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Old 27th December 2017, 9:54 AM   #119
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I did like it so I probably would continue and no I don't regret the decision. I think we are both adults and knew what we were doing. Perhaps I should look for another job....i dont know?
So you have no problems sleeping with another woman husband.

I love this excuse, we are both adults and knew what we were doing. Sorry mickeyd but most everyone knows how to have sex. Most of us how ever donít sleep with someone that doesnít belong to us.

I wish you could see this from my view point. You are not the first he has done this with and you wonít be the last either. He saw you as prey and went after you. It took a little time but in the end with a little alcohol he got the prize he was after, a piece of azz from you. He did and said everything to get what he wanted from you. As long as you donít rock the boat he will still be sweet and attentive or he got what he wanted and is finished with you.

Anyway you can read many stories like yours on this and other sites on the wed. Most of them with the theme, he said he loved me.
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Old 27th December 2017, 11:45 AM   #120
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Sorry I don't understand your acronyms! OM, EA, PA?
Also, he is the one touching me yet you say I allowed him to touch me? What am
Supposed to do? This also has nothing to do with my children
I keep them well away from my work life.
But thank you for the advice. Also, I don't get how people
just assume he is only after sex?? Am I that naive?
YES... you are being so naive! Take it from me, been there done that! Donít make the stupid mistake that many of us here on LS have made, seriously Iím sitting here shaking my head!

When he touches you, you tell him to stop and tell him your ďMARRIEDĒ, thatís what your supposed to do!!!
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