1010red Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 Before I go into any detail it's worth noting that I left the instant it happened and went to my girlfriend's to explain what happened. She was totally fine with it, she told me it wasn't my fault and that I've got nothing to be sorry for. It happened last night. I was standing outside with some friends in the smoking area of a club and we're talking about nothing in particular. Some girls came up to us and we fell into conversation. I was speaking to one and I suspected she might be interested, so I slipped the fact I had a girlfriend into the conversation a fair few times. Usually I'd have just moved on, but I didn't want to be rude as she was on the same law course as me and we'd likely see each other again at some point. I figured the mention of the girlfriend would put an end to any designs she had. A few minutes pass and the girl along with her friends decide to head back inside. I said it something along the lines of "Have a good night, I guess I'll probably see you in a lecture in the future". At this point she just grabs the back of my head with both of her hands and presses her mouth against mine. I was caught completely by surprise, but my near instantaneous reaction was to shove her away as firmly as possible without actually knocking her to the ground. It was only around 1AM at this point, but I was pretty upset. I left and went back to my GF's place and told her everything. As I said, she was totally chill with it and made it abundantly clear that as far as she was concerned I hadn't done anything wrong. On a rational level I know she's right, but the whole things really getting my down and I don't quite know why. Thoughts, guys? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 Sorry you were assaulted that way. Try to forget it and thank goodness your gf is understanding. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 Why do you feel guilty? Would it have been your fault if this same girl ran you over with her car in the parking lot or mugged you & stole your wallet? Of course not. You didn't do anything wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 1010red Posted September 22, 2015 Author Share Posted September 22, 2015 Why do you feel guilty? Would it have been your fault if this same girl ran you over with her car in the parking lot or mugged you & stole your wallet? Of course not. You didn't do anything wrong. For me it just feels like some kinda inviolable thing. It doesn't matter why it happens, nobody but my SO should be kissing me. It's that I can't get out of my head. Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 Don't take this in an accusatory tone or anything of the sort. My curiousity has me wondering why your girlfriend wasn't with you? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 22, 2015 Share Posted September 22, 2015 For me it just feels like some kinda inviolable thing. It doesn't matter why it happens, nobody but my SO should be kissing me. It's that I can't get out of my head. Then that is your own hang up. But you really need to forgive yourself. Be pissed at the random kisser if you must but honestly tell me what you did wrong besides not be able to see into the future so that you could have prevented this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author 1010red Posted September 22, 2015 Author Share Posted September 22, 2015 Don't take this in an accusatory tone or anything of the sort. My curiousity has me wondering why your girlfriend wasn't with you? It was only for people studying law and my girlfriend doesn't! We rarely go out without the other, but it wouldn't have worked this time. Link to post Share on other sites
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