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Old 15th September 2015, 6:31 PM   #31
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I am not telling my partner.

What good would that do for anyone?

It would devastate him.

I have chosen to live with the guilt instead. Unless I decide to marry him and have his children- I don't feel like now is a good time to tell him.

Thanks for all of the insight. Some of it was really supportive and genuine. Others were a bit judgmental. But it was helpful. Thanks again.
Another unsatisfied customer?

LOL.
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Old 15th September 2015, 7:18 PM   #32
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I am not telling my partner.

What good would that do for anyone?

It would devastate him.

I have chosen to live with the guilt instead. Unless I decide to marry him and have his children- I don't feel like now is a good time to tell him.

Thanks for all of the insight. Some of it was really supportive and genuine. Others were a bit judgmental. But it was helpful. Thanks again.



So if you marry him when are you going to tell?


After he proposes? Or is that not the right time to get him upset?


How about the night before the wedding? After the Honeymoon? After you get pregnant with his first child?


It seems you will never have a good time to tell him.
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Old 16th September 2015, 4:45 PM   #33
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So if you marry him when are you going to tell?


After he proposes? Or is that not the right time to get him upset?


How about the night before the wedding? After the Honeymoon? After you get pregnant with his first child?


It seems you will never have a good time to tell him.
LOL another one of these boneheads that will claim to take it to their grave. That will work until she watches a couple Lifetime Movies and has some come to Jesus moment. By then it will be too late.

I have a feeling this one will end up on the 6 pm news with her neighbors all saying how they just thought she was a normal girl and stunned she turned up missing.
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Old 16th September 2015, 5:18 PM   #34
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So you feel betrayed because he's (arguably) as lousy of a person as you are? It's like the old Hole song says, when they get what they want, well they never want it again. He got everything he wanted from you... maybe it was just a challenge for himself, or maybe you weren't as good at it as he thought you'd be.

You should break up with your bf though... because obviously if you were going to break up with him for this guy, you truly believe you can do better. And it's only fair to him.

Then you need to evaluate who you are, what your morals are. And what you want in a guy.
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Old 17th September 2015, 9:01 PM   #35
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You need to break up with your boyfriend.
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Old 18th September 2015, 9:16 PM   #36
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I asked if you were abused as a kid. 75% of people with BPD have been according to stats.
Therein lies your work and where you need to focus.
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Old 21st September 2015, 4:44 PM   #37
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So admit that you cheated so he can take steps to remove you from his life. Don't you dare keep this from someone, it's selfish and disgusting.
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