esstea Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 Cheating itself hurts no matter what the circumstances. But there are two different types: emotional and physical. Emotional meaning you may have stronger feelings for another person and perhaps feel a deeper sense of connection, thus perhaps moving forward with your "deeper" connection but in no way "physically" doing anything with that person. Physical cheating is... well, need I explain that? IMO physical hurts terribly, but paired with emotion can it be extremely lethal to a relationship. As for emotional betrayal in itself, I don't think it can exist long without the physical part, it's merely transitory... What are your guys' opinions, what would hurt you more? Or what do you think is worse? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 Love doesn't = sex, sex doesn't = love. Both are a betrayal. it depends on the period of time it took to happen, the intensity and the influence it has on all those concerned... it depends on the temperament and character of those involved - and it depends on the duration. Too many factors to be able to give an assessment. Link to post Share on other sites
Sporty Girl Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 (edited) Emotional cheating is just as bad, except there is no touching, YET! It still hurts, because the other person is saying sexual or emotional stuff to the other party. When somebody you are with does any of those things, you can never trust that person again, no matter how much they tell you that they are sorry. Just think how you're partner is saying to somebody else "I love you", or "I miss you", or "You're hot". That would really hurt. Physical is a bit worse though, because those actions are actually carried out. Edited October 7, 2012 by Sporty Girl Link to post Share on other sites
MonsterMash Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 Emotional cheating is worse. On some level you can deal with a interactive masturbation one night stand. But if she stays, cuddles, and says "I love you's" and whispers sweet nothings? If its an ongoing thing? No way in hell is that even remotely forgivable. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Author esstea Posted October 8, 2012 Author Share Posted October 8, 2012 I've gotta agree with @monstermash, emotional cheating would just wreck me, knowing I can't satisfy those needs that actually MEAN something. Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted October 8, 2012 Share Posted October 8, 2012 If forced to call it, I'd hate EC the most. Mechanical poking I can sort of look past. My beloved complimenting, pursuing, longing for and 'courting' someone else? Ugh. That's a much bigger betrayal, in my eyes. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Onionator Posted October 11, 2012 Share Posted October 11, 2012 Both would hurt equally to be honest. Betrayal is betrayal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganMan222 Posted October 13, 2012 Share Posted October 13, 2012 To me physical would be more acutely painful, but emotional is a slow certain death. I was a victim of this. My ex talked to a guy for months behind my back. She only used me for sex. It was as if we switched roles where he was the boyfriend and I was the OM. She had a tough decision. Emotional needs or sexual needs. Emotional won out. She officially broke it off with me, but still wanted sex for a few weeks after until they apparently started, then it stopped for me. They ended up getting married. Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 Most women will say that an EA is worse. Most men will say a PA is worse. And whatever opinion you have is part of your belief system and will probably never change. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted October 14, 2012 Share Posted October 14, 2012 Either way, I'd ditch the loser. Link to post Share on other sites
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