fun2bewith Posted November 9, 2010 Share Posted November 9, 2010 Minset you can change DNA you can't change for now... Link to post Share on other sites
Don Ho Posted November 9, 2010 Share Posted November 9, 2010 You must have been with a cheater and contemplating taking them back. Don't do it. Doesn't matter which or why. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You know, a leopard never changes his spots. Link to post Share on other sites
alsk1029 Posted November 9, 2010 Share Posted November 9, 2010 I have heard that wanting as many partners as possible is in our nature. I think Adam Sandler in that move funny people said it best: "It's easy to be faithful when no one wants to sleep with you" Link to post Share on other sites
Nemicron Posted November 9, 2010 Share Posted November 9, 2010 I dont think there is a dna problem these people are just stupid. Cept for that lady that has a sexless marriage. I really dont blame her there I have heard that wanting as many partners as possible is in our nature. I think Adam Sandler in that move funny people said it best: "It's easy to be faithful when no one wants to sleep with you" Link to post Share on other sites
Sivok Posted November 9, 2010 Share Posted November 9, 2010 Not a gene, but a lot of women who were abused sexually when younger or had serious daddy issues are much more prone to cheating - as sex is the only source they truly believe will allow any man to like them. Ask 90% of strippers and escorts Link to post Share on other sites
phillyfan Posted November 10, 2010 Share Posted November 10, 2010 Nope, BS. I used to cheat a lot. Why? Because I was selfish and wanted the easy option. Now I've grown up and saw the hurt I caused and so now I take the harder road of actualy considering other peoples feelings. Anyone who tries to excuse cheating are stupid - it is plane and simple laziness, selfishness, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
shayan Posted November 10, 2010 Share Posted November 10, 2010 I studied a lot of molecular genetics, and neuroscience and I have never heard of a gene which makes someone more prone to cheat. I think cheating is a nurture trait. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fun2bewith Posted November 11, 2010 Author Share Posted November 11, 2010 No, cheaters have spots: http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.pluspets.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/cheetah2.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.pluspets.net/facts-big-cats/&usg=__IbKezVTKwdbWm4jaiKxqThUbKEM=&h=324&w=470&sz=30&hl=en&start=0&zoom=1&tbnid=4JeZwnieaRVp3M:&tbnh=113&tbnw=166&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dcheetah%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26client%3Dfirefox-a%26rls%3Dorg.mozilla:en-US:official%26biw%3D1353%26bih%3D540%26tbs%3Disch:1&um=1&itbs=1&iact=hc&vpx=435&vpy=107&dur=6865&hovh=186&hovw=270&tx=200&ty=124&ei=H2PbTPbeNcH78AaxraGnCQ&oei=H2PbTPbeNcH78AaxraGnCQ&esq=1&page=1&ndsp=23&ved=1t:429,r:2,s:0 Yes right a cheetah, but a leopard has spots too, tigers got stripes...Are you from South Africa? Link to post Share on other sites
oldguy Posted November 30, 2010 Share Posted November 30, 2010 (edited) People who have had an affair are MUCH more likely to be repeat cheaters than even those who may have had a, "one night stand". But yes, some people are prone to cheat while others are not. I'm responding here because I have to agree with (Dr.) Zivok and add that; in the case of early sexual abuse many abused also have sexual intimacy issues. Sex becomes almost a means to an end and as Zivok mentioned; sex is an empowering tool used to make a man like them. I also agree with Shayan; it's learned or a result of or a reaction too circumstance. If it seems to run in a family that is what is known as generational. A sort of monkey see monkey do. We often end up with spouses or mates who treat us in a way that we tolerate. Many times because that was what we where witness too growing up. In those cases it is generational, or environmental/cultural, not genetic. That is not to say all cheaters are doomed to be life long cheaters. Some do simply grow up. That is also, not to say they have outgrown their issues. Edited November 30, 2010 by oldguy Link to post Share on other sites
Sebastianthebear Posted December 1, 2010 Share Posted December 1, 2010 You're probably thinking about an association study that came out a couple years ago. The gene they studies encodes for one of the receptors of vasopressin. They found an allele (a mutant of the normal gene) that is associated with reports of reduced feelings of bonding in males to their partner; if you have two copies, they showed men are 2x as likely to have had a major issue in the relationship in the past year compared with "normal" men. Also, women involved with men who have this allele tend to be less satisfied in their relationship. I'm sure if you google "infidelity gene" several articles will show up. So yes, there are genes that are associated with infidelity/variation in bonding behaviors. There are also genes that are associated with schizophrenia, shyness, weight, etc. Presence of those genes does not mean a person *will* behave one way or another, nor does it provide anyone with an excuse to behave like a cad. Environment plays a major role, regardless what your genes encode (and certain genes can behave differently in certain environments, I might add). Link to post Share on other sites
california15 Posted December 1, 2010 Share Posted December 1, 2010 cheating is a character trait, not a situational trait. Don't think genetics are involved Link to post Share on other sites
paleblue Posted December 2, 2010 Share Posted December 2, 2010 I think some people are wired for more devious behavior than others. Or maybe the higher functioning part of their brain is impaired and they are acting on lower impulses. Whatever it is, Bummer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fun2bewith Posted December 2, 2010 Author Share Posted December 2, 2010 You're probably thinking about an association study that came out a couple years ago. The gene they studies encodes for one of the receptors of vasopressin. They found an allele (a mutant of the normal gene) that is associated with reports of reduced feelings of bonding in males to their partner; if you have two copies, they showed men are 2x as likely to have had a major issue in the relationship in the past year compared with "normal" men. Also, women involved with men who have this allele tend to be less satisfied in their relationship. I'm sure if you google "infidelity gene" several articles will show up. So yes, there are genes that are associated with infidelity/variation in bonding behaviors. There are also genes that are associated with schizophrenia, shyness, weight, etc. Presence of those genes does not mean a person *will* behave one way or another, nor does it provide anyone with an excuse to behave like a cad. Environment plays a major role, regardless what your genes encode (and certain genes can behave differently in certain environments, I might add). This was extremely interesting...Thank you... Link to post Share on other sites
Author fun2bewith Posted December 2, 2010 Author Share Posted December 2, 2010 Yes it's simply a decision that a person makes, a chosen behavior, that can be controlled, it would be pretty silly to excuse someone for cheating because you think it's "in their genes"...however, people do tend to repeat behavior they might learn from parents or family. Even still, it's a CHOICE and if someone cheated on me then said "but it's in my genes!" I would have to smack him after laughing so hard. But I do think, at times, it can be put right up there with other addictions: things repeatedly done that is harmful to yourself and to others...like drinking or sex addiction. I DO believe some people might need serious therapy and behavior modification to stop cheating. But I wouldn't stay with someone based on that as an excuse...I don't even know if I"d stay with someone who recovered from it...LOL The problem might not be in their genes but maybe in their jeans... I like the fact that you pointed out: "It is simply a decision and it can be controlled"... Link to post Share on other sites
Kendrick Posted December 2, 2010 Share Posted December 2, 2010 I simply think its a choice. Some people are more prone to drink or do drugs as well, whether its due to environment or genes, its still a choice. Link to post Share on other sites
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